heyjesse84 Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 Ive been with my mm for almost 2 years. Everything was going fairly ok, but I started to realize and find out more and more issues that really bother me. A part of my head thinks, its not my husband, we are just friends with benefits, so who cares what he is like deep down. Then a part of me feels really really bad for his w, and I also have a hard time thinking its ok to be with a creep, even though there is so much more about him I love. Long story short... he is addicted to porn, and pictures of women, nude...not nude. Not like the occasional hey I look at stuff and get off to it...but like its all besides work he seems to do. I have proof but wont go into that, im not just assuming. Hes 15 years years older than me and I know im just a mid life crisis helper for him. I guess I didnt care as we are just also good friends. Its hard because i do love him, but think I could I love such a creepy ass guy. He has finally after a year and a half of telling me he will never ever want love involved in an affair, that he does love me. Im confused, i feel aweful. Like I would never ever ever in my right mind date a man with his issues...yet, here i sort of am. It breaks my heat to 1) walk away and 2) stay with a creep. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 Of course he's a creep. He's cheating on his wife. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
Author heyjesse84 Posted February 23, 2014 Author Share Posted February 23, 2014 Hahahaha...... omg im an idiot right. Link to post Share on other sites
Author heyjesse84 Posted February 23, 2014 Author Share Posted February 23, 2014 It sounds reappy really stupid to say, but, I feel way more worse for his wife that not only does he cheat but he follows and creeps on sooooo many women on all these websites. Like instagram and tumblr and many many others, we are all younger and hotter and models etc etc. It pisses me off for her, that she is married to such a dirt bag. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 This reminds me of one of my old schoolfriends... long after we left school (in our early 20's) she hooked up with our old English Teacher. He was old enough to be her father. She used to see him several times a week (bear in mind this was before mobile 'phones and PC's (I know.... pre-historic, right?! ) so his wife didn't find it as easy to keep tabs on him... He had 2 kids, one slightly older than my friend... Her opinion of him is actually not printable. She constantly put him down, insulted him, berated him and belittled him. She had no respect, and only disdain and disgust - at HIS actions. But this went on for 3 years. She finally ended it - but only because she moved to Chicago on a Company placement. Go figure..... Link to post Share on other sites
OpheliaSong Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 Like is attracted to like. Might want to do some self reflection if you want to be this person. Damage to your soul and reputation isn't so easily undone to yourself even if everyone else forgets. Cheating is cheating and being with someone so vile isn't healthy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author heyjesse84 Posted February 23, 2014 Author Share Posted February 23, 2014 Well......im also married. So, im not looking for a husband, but was looking for a very good long term fwb. Which he has been. However, like I said, I am stuck because I dont want to marry this man by any means, and sexually and mentally he gives me everything I would need for being the OM. But a part of me cringes when I think how badly I feel for his W, and just how much of a loser and creepr he is. SHE, is married to this poor creep and just obviously is blind to it, (or loves his money). Im just really really angry because I felt everything was perfect! Like this was the most perfect A ever! Then i go and find out and realize hes in the sense...the stereotypical dirty old man..but in his 40s. Like shouldbi not care about his "hobbies" because its not my problem??? Or go because it pisses me off for her and in general? Its just everything else was so peeeerrrfeeccttt Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 How about just quitting because you're also married? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author heyjesse84 Posted February 23, 2014 Author Share Posted February 23, 2014 We really have a different kind of relationship. Very non traditional. Thats a whole other subject. While hes ok with side action, he wouldnt be ok with the emotional friendship. In a way im wrong for hiding that aspect yes. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 (edited) We really have a different kind of relationship. Very non traditional. Thats a whole other subject. While hes ok with side action, he wouldnt be ok with the emotional friendship. In a way im wrong for hiding that aspect yes. "In a way...." - ?! You are basically deceiving your husband, but you're happy to continue doing so, is that it? Edited February 23, 2014 by TaraMaiden 1 Link to post Share on other sites
experiencethedevine Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 We really have a different kind of relationship. Very non traditional. Thats a whole other subject. While hes ok with side action, he wouldnt be ok with the emotional friendship. In a way im wrong for hiding that aspect yes. Oh do come along.................. Your lover is addicted to sex, and will take it in any form he can. As for your husband. That poor chap will likely be devastated WHEN he finds out, because they always do one way or another.............. Link to post Share on other sites
verity123 Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 Oh do come along.................. Your lover is addicted to sex, and will take it in any form he can. As for your husband. That poor chap will likely be devastated WHEN he finds out, because they always do one way or another.............. Most attractive people or even ugly people can get sex, especially women. Not true. Whether you believe it or not, and I hope you realise, sex is not actually the only reason men have affairs. Do you get it yet? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jwi71 Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 Pot, meet kettle. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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