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Old 9th March 2019, 11:38 AM   #16
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Originally Posted by Turning point View Post
Infidelity is still grounds for divorce in every state, but there is no provision to punish someone purely on the basis of extramarital sex between consenting adults.

What can be done is an adjustment to the asset division based on money wasted to get and maintain that sex, especially when it's illegal - such as prostitutes. A sugar daddy for example, could also be treated much like a compulsive gambler with respect to dissipated assets.

Risky or predatory behavior (like screwing the nanny) could also impact child custody.
Truth is adultry is illegal in 10 States and felonies in 6. In 2014 and 2016 there were criminal trials in Georgia and South Carolina , both were felonies.

Cheating no longer has an impact on custody but provisions are still in place to punish cheating in some states criminally and financially.
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Old 9th March 2019, 12:32 PM   #17
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What you did was wrong and you know it. It's not easy to face the truth that you were weak and betrayed your husband. Counseling might help you face this truth about yourself.
I disagree with the comments about this not being a mistake. We can and do make decisions that are mistakes. We are all capable of doing the wrong things. The important thing now is how you act from this point forward. Face the truth and be honest with yourself. Try not to cause anymore damage than is absolutely necessary as you focus first on how to address your commitment to your marriage. This isn't about you or your husband. It's about the marriage itself and whether or not the elements are in place to continue it. Don't even think about any other relationship until you address your current commitment. That's how you proceed if decency and integrity is important to you. Own your mistake. Be honest and eventually you will be able to forgive yourself.
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Old 13th March 2019, 8:03 AM   #18
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Originally Posted by DKT3 View Post
Truth is adultry is illegal in 10 States and felonies in 6. In 2014 and 2016 there were criminal trials in Georgia and South Carolina , both were felonies.
..and so rare as to be statistically insignificant because the burden of proof is very high. Walking in on your spouse and their lover is your word against theirs and does not meet the standard.

The murder and suicide rates associated with infidelity far out pace "Infidelity" trials.
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