Eternal Sunshine Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 Was it a chance encounter? Did you start dating right away? Did you just "know" that it's special? 1
Silly_Girl Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 Match.com I knew he was very special, but I didn't know whether I was balanced/evolved enough (after some heartbreaks) to recognise and value that. Luckily he was patient and gentle and I came to my senses. We are very happy 7
anne1707 Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 We worked at the same place. I had seen him around but that was it. He had seen me and apparently thought I had nice t*ts as he put it later . A group of us all went out from work one night and he and I happened to sit next to each other. We started talking and that was it. I was hooked, totally and completely. It was another couple of weeks or so before we started dating and within a month of that I knew I wanted to marry him. 5
ThomasD Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 It happened a while ago, and it was rather different from today's "online dating", but I experienced a LDR for several months before actually meeting in person. It happened before email, cell phones, text chat, or Skype even existed; and a 20 minute phone conversation across several states could cost as much as several hours' take-home pay from a minimum wage job. I was almost 22, and had gone through four essentially dateless years in college. A few days later I was chatting about college, graduation, etc with some much older friends. (They were my parents' age - in fact, their daughter had been in my High School class. She and I moved in very different circles, and never paid any attention to each other much less dated.) But these friends knew me fairly well, having had a fair amount of interaction during my adolescent years. During the conversation it came out that "girls avoided me like the plague", and I was rather frustrated over that. They suggested that I should meet their niece. There was a significant distance (nearly 700 miles) between us so her niece and I wrote to each other - real letters, on real paper; no email or text chat or phone calls - for over 3 months before we met in person. Over more than 3 months, the letters became increasingly more serious. We eventually DID meet, had our first date the day we met, etc. That evening I even held her hand and was a little surprised at how eagerly she seemed to accept that gesture. At the end of the date I decided to get real brave and try to kiss her. I figured I might get brushed off, or at best a perfunctory kiss out of obligation. To my surprise and delight, she not only kissed, but kissed back - REALLY kissed back! One year plus two weeks after that first date (and first kiss) we kissed at the altar in church, eventually raised 3 kids and have been life partners for over 39 years now. Of course, our mutual acquaintance (my wife's aunt; a friend of my parents) knew us both so it wasn't a connection between two random people. She didn't say so, but she thought she saw compatibility characteristics. I still could have pretended to be somebody very different from myself in my letters, but in fact was rather forthright, certainly revealing things that wouldn't have come out in the somewhat artificial atmosphere of a typical "dating" situation of similar duration. In retrospect it was a good way for two quiet and shy people to become very acquainted at a rather personal level. After 4 months her summer job ended and she was living with her parents, I was in grad school, and the separation distance reduced to about 175 miles. We started visiting every 2 or 3 weeks, but it became pretty much every weekend that we were together. Again, it wasn't the standard "dating" situation: we were houseguests of each other's families. In fact, I stayed overnight in her bed after our second date, just two days after our first. (No, she wasn't in her bed with me. That wouldn't happen for another 377 days, when we experienced the emotional intensity of a double-virgin wedding night.) We didn't see each other only after carefully preparing for a date; we saw each other at breakfast, and washing dishes, and with our families in church, and helping her Dad milk cows, etc. I think this was also a significant factor to developing our relationship from complete strangers to a long-term marriage in a little over a year. 12
xxoo Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 We met on a college campus, although I was in high school at the time. We became involved in the same group of friends, dated other people during the first six months, and danced around the increasingly undeniable sexual chemistry between us until he finally kissed me on day. And the rest is history 7
Grumpybutfun Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 Was it a chance encounter? Did you start dating right away? Did you just "know" that it's special? Met through introduction of a military colleague who was her brother-in-law at a baseball game I was playing in. When I first saw her my heart did a flip and a flop and I thought, "Damn, she is a military wife or she wouldn't be here." Then her brother-in-law comes up to me after the game and introduces his wife's little sister. It was HER. I invited her for a beer and we talked non-stop for four hours. I was hooked when she pushed me up against the wall and gave me an amazing kiss when she said goodbye. We had a summer fling where we pretty much were glued at the hip, but she was just visiting her sister so she said "No relationships, I am toooo young. I do not want anything but fun." I knew this one was an anomaly in the land of women. I was crushed that she didn't want anything more, but I respected her because not to would have violated her opinion on the matter. It took all of my willpower not to fight to the death for her, but I knew she was used to men fighting for her/over her and acting nuts over her so I just reigned it in. In fact after three intense months of a whirlwind courtship, and her reluctance to have anything to do with me long-term because she didn't want to get married and that is the way we both knew this would end, she left me to go home to another state. However, I gave her her space. I just told her this before she left. I said, "You will be back because you are in love with me. You may not figure this out tomorrow or next month or next year, but we are meant to be together. I am the man you will marry one day. I am as sure of this as I am that I love who you are and what you feel like in my arms." A week later I get a knock on the door. I had been respectful of her request for no contact, but internally I was crushed that I hadn't even heard form her. I open the door and there she stands with her suitcase and tears in her eyes. I just wrapped her in my arms and said, "What took you so long?" We married 1 year and 3 months later, but I was married as soon as she showed up on my doorstep. Grumps 13
LuvsTrucks2 Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 Match.com ten years ago, unfortunately, we separated last month. I knew he was special the first time I laid eyes on him. I guess he wasn't special enough to make the long haul. 1
Janesays Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 We met in the 2nd. He was both my first and last great love. 4
Art_Critic Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 Copied from a previous post here. I've told the story before a few times but it goes something like this.. We met on match.com.. had been communicating thru match for a couple of weeks and we were getting along famously.. Humors matched and she actually laughed at my jokes. I sent her my work email so we could communicate more easily and she sent me her personal email.. We exchanged a few emails then she says: Something along the lines of "You're Art So&So from whatever company????? To which I replied back.. yes.. She said I'm Blank Blank from So & So company.. I was flabbergasted and so was she... We knew each other in real life thru work.. She was a client of mine and had been for many many years.. I had never met her but would talk to her on the phone on occasion thrrout the years previous when she would send me work. Well.. that was the ice breaker... ahahahaha There are other cute things.. Like she had my name and address on her computer monitor in front of her for the last year as she called couriers all the time. The rest is history.. We got engaged, married and then she got pregnant and we had a kid.. About her 5th month of pregnancy she quit her job and I lost a client.. They didn't like the fact that I took away their lead graphic designer on a national account. It was worth it... I think I told a few more details that I have in the past.. I can't remember how much of the story I have shared before.. it's been years now.. and I might have skipped some that I've told before.. ETA.. our son is now almost 6.... 10
Nyla Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 Was it a chance encounter? Did you start dating right away? Did you just "know" that it's special? It was a chance encounter. We met on a telephone dating system and when I heard my husband's sexy voice for the first time, it piqued my interest. I never tell anyone in real life how we met because it is too weird. We started dating immediately. Our first face to face meeting was coffee. A few days later, I turned 25 and my husband took me out on a special date for my birthday. It was very romantic. I knew my husband was special because he had some manners and class, unlike the perverts I met before who talked about sex right away. He felt that I was a special woman because I was very different from the women he dated before; I did not have sex with him within a few dates. My husband also loved the way I wasn't a heavy drinker. We had our issues and hard times, but we managed to get through them and decide to get married. It was the best choice I ever made. 4
Radu Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 More stories pls, it makes for a nice change from the doom&gloom of some of these other threads. 11
HokeyReligions Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 I was in college and had a part time job as a survey taker in a mall. The mall recruiter brought uim bwck and I surveyed him ahout am swering machines. This was 1984 when answering machines were fairly new on the market. We flirted, met after work at a Dennys. Talked all night until they finally kicked us out. He said he'd call me. I went home and my roommate asked how the date went (I dated a lot. Working as a survey taker is a fantastic way to meet men) anyway my answer was "if I ever get married he's the one" Two years later we married. We celebrated our 27th anniversary last june. Little did he know when he walked into the mall that day.... 10
rach63 Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 Our gay friends set us up. My boyfriend said his gay friend told him he should meet me because i looked good in my underwear drinking milk out of the carton. He saw this when he was hanging out with my gay roommate. We hung out in a group a couple of times, had one date and never stopped making plans to spend time together. He's the best 3
emily240187 Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Sorry if my English not good. I met my husband online on zing chat, i talked about 3 hours, then we sent message through 2 days before we met face to face in a coffee shop. We talked alot about our work, hobbies, ect, we got married after 4 months dating, and now we have 2 children, that's happiness for me. 3
firemanq Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 She was a RN, I was a fireman/EMT. We met on an ambulance transfer. It was a good thing the patient was stable, we ignored the patient most of the time. By the end of the run, we found we both enjoyed skiing, hunting, backpacking, bicycling, most anything to do outdoors. That was many years ago, we are still together. 5
xxoo Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 It was a good thing the patient was stable, we ignored the patient most of the time. By the end of the run, we found we both enjoyed skiing, hunting, backpacking, bicycling, most anything to do outdoors. That made me laugh 2
unicorn farts Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 World of Warcraft. Over the years we've met tons and tons of boring normal married couples that also met on World of Warcraft. It's not that weird these days it seems. Looking at this thread I'm impressed by the amount of people who also met online! 1
GorillaTheater Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 The summer after I graduated from high school, I was working as a pipefitter's/welder's helper at a petrochemical plant on the southeast side of Houston. A guy I worked with invited me to his dad's beach house in Galveston for the weekend, and as it turned out his 16-year-old sister was there with a bunch of her 16-year-old friends. Holy sh*t, you-know-what-I-mean? But there was one girl who captured my attention from the start. It didn't hurt that the first time I laid eyes on her she was in a bikini ... We dated for a couple of months until she dumped me for getting too serious. We met again almost two years later, at a party thrown by the same friend with the beach house, and we bailed on the party and spent the evening at a fair with all the carnival-type rides. (An EXCELLENT place to take a date, being thrown into each other repeatedly on the Tilt-o-Whirl). That time she fell hard for ME. That was a little over 31 years ago. We'll be celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary this December. 15
learman3 Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 This might sound silly, but we met in a bowling alley. We bowled in the same league one summer. I thought she was beautiful and she didn't even realize I existed. One night hanging out , where else but the bowling alley, my bud and i were going to go to the movies. I got the balls up and went over to where she was playing pinball. I asked if she'd be interested in going. Her first response was no, but I then dropped to my knees and started to beg. She was embarrassed and all get out and her and her friend decided to go. not a date, but they did attend the movies with us. Things progressed from there. 4
unicorn farts Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 We've played off and on, but as of now we haven't played in a year. Waaay too busy with real life stuff at the moment. A friend of mine met her fiance on WoW too, they've been together for about 4 years (living together in real life) and are getting married in a couple of months. From what I've seen WoW couples are pretty much 50/50 huge disasters to great relationships. It's definitely fun to play with your SO. We've switched to a healer/mage combo but we used to both play raiding tanks during WotLK days. It made it super easy to coordinate tanking strategies with both of us in the same room. End t/j, sorry! 1
ThomasD Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 . . . I got the balls up and went over to where she was playing pinball. I asked if she'd be interested in going. Her first response was no, but I then dropped to my knees and started to beg. She was embarrassed and all get out and her and her friend decided to go. not a date, but they did attend the movies with us. Things progressed from there. I can see this really working with the right personalities. You are nervous as hell going up to her (a stranger) and asking her - she doesn't want to get serious with anybody - then you do this most un-serious thing - and she realizes it's OK to just be part of your group - and that allows you to get acquainted so it can get serious after all. 1
ThomasD Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 . . . spent the evening at a fair with all the carnival-type rides. (An EXCELLENT place to take a date, being thrown into each other repeatedly on the Tilt-o-Whirl). That time she fell hard for ME. Just a month ago my wife & I had the chance to attend the county fair where she grew up & lived when we were dating. We decided that the Fair had been our 5th date, about 6 weeks after we first met, but we haven't had opportunity to attend more than once since then. I still recall spending half the afternoon and all evening walking around with her, finding one thing after another to talk about and get better acquainted. Carnival and fair midways are such a sensual experience after dark! The colors - sounds - lights - barker's voices - smells - !! And yes, "things happen" on the rides. They STILL happen at the top of the Ferris wheel after dark, even to superannuated gray-haired people. That was a little over 31 years ago. We'll be celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary this December. A little over 39 yrs for us so far. 8
cocorico Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Was it a chance encounter? Did you start dating right away? Did you just "know" that it's special? It was at a social event prior to a training course. He had been flown out as one of the "experts" presenting one of the modules. A very good friend and colleague would be presenting with him, and I was sitting chatting to my friend / colleague when he walked in. My friend introduced us, noticed sparks, and discreetly withdrew, leaving us to chat all evening. No, we did not start dating right away. Besides the fact that he lived in a different country, he was married at the time and I did not know how married, and in wasn't looking for any kind of a R as I was up to my eyeballs with other commitments and really did not want any more demands! After the training course, we kept in touch professionally, and I used the time to check him out very thoroughly. A long time later, we met again at a conference, and we both liked what we saw, enough to make it happen. It's a long time ago now, and that spar kiss till there... 2
KathyM Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 This might sound silly, but we met in a bowling alley. Not silly at all. You met while participating in a hobby/sport that you both enjoyed. That is often a way people meet their future spouse (through shared interests). My niece met her husband at a bowling alley also. 4
KathyM Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 I was introduced to my husband through my sister's boyfriend. They were co-workers, so my sister's boyfriend decided it would be good to introduce us, so he arranged a double date at his house. 3
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