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Old 9th February 2019, 4:15 PM   #16
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We've been chatting for about 2 years now. I get what you guys are saying.

And just the thought of traveling to Thailand scares me a little.
How do you think she feels about traveling to the US? If you can't go there, this is completely doomed. You also need to be chivalrous about all this & go there if your end game is to get her to immigrate here.

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Old 9th February 2019, 4:22 PM   #17
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How do you think she feels about traveling to the US? If you can't go there, this is completely doomed. You also need to be chivalrous about all this & go there if your end game is to get her to immigrate here.
I know she's also nervous about coming here since her English isn't so good.

One of my friends on facebook travels to Thailand and he says the people there are nice. Besides that I do like her. Her being muslim though does make me wonder if long term we can make the relationship work.
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Old 9th February 2019, 4:36 PM   #18
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Stop with the hypotheticals & the wondering already. It's been 2 years. Buy a plane ticket already & then talk to her. But her religious views aren't going to make it any easier to get her into the US in this climate.
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Old 9th February 2019, 5:05 PM   #19
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Go and meet her in person before you even speculate about the possibility of a relationship. I would also caution you that you may very well be one of a few men she talks to. All you know about her is what she tells you; you have had essentially zero opportunity to verify if it's true. You don't know what she is like day to day, how your chemistry will be in person, or how you would overcome the cultural, language and religious differences.

And please, do speak to an immigration lawyer. You are very under-informed about what sponsoring a foreign spouse entails, especially one that happens to come from a part of the world where marriages of convenience are not uncommon.

If you're not willing to travel to her, and not willing to speak to a legal professional to do you due diligence, then this will work, no.
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Old 11th February 2019, 11:17 AM   #20
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I haven't sent any money just letters and gifts and she does the same
Jeez.

Why do you THINK women from Thailand and other Asian countries are always so eager to meet FOREIGN men? They live in hugely populated areas, so it's not like they're lonely and don't have the option to meet a man where they live.

I'll TELL you why they prefer foreign men. Because YOU are their ticket out of their country to a better life, that's why they'll spend all this time romancing you via Skype and everything else. You're a means to an end for them. And believe me, they're very good at making you think they looooooove you oh so much.

And lastly, the chances are pretty high you're not the only one she's romancing. These girls want a better life and a lot of them will keep plenty of guys on the hook until one of them delivers and puts their money where their mouth is and starts the process of getting her out of Thailand.

Will it be you? Will it be one of the others she's likely romancing?

Let it be one of them.
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Old 15th February 2019, 5:00 AM   #21
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Get your ass over there and meet her. Thailand is amazing. And two years is just BS. The duration of chatting doesn't make the relationship any more real. Go there.

The Muslim thing is the BIG deal. You would have been better off pairing up with any of the 30 million Buddhist girls instead.

For the people that will assume she just wants a green card, the majority of Thais love Thailand and would rather be there. Don't base your views on a few scenes from The Hangover Part II. It's as cosmopolitan as the next place in some places, contrasted by the old world nature in others.
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Old 12th March 2019, 6:59 PM   #22
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I don't know if it's stil going to work

We've been in a relationship for 3 yrs. Met once a year ago he's in UK and I'm in Philippines he have helped me alot before we always argued because I'm always jealous of his female friend not used to it and I know it's not right... We argued and break up 3 week ago and found out he was a 2 timer stil in a relationship with long term ldr gf who is much older than us she lives in japan with her daughter.... I'm 29 he's 32 so he almost ignored me for 3 weeks... I tried massaging.him on email to atleast talk to have a proper end but then he starts messaging me and we start talking again he said he's being transparent this time and needed time to choose from the 2 of us he said he needs to think because it's about his future... I know he sound selfish but I love him so much everyone thinks I'm stupid but I dunno what will happen next he doesn't want me to think negatively and think there's no hope... Sigh he treats that woman much better... I wish it's easy for me to just leave him but unfortunately no
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Biggest obstacle: Religious differences, which will be important to Obstacle Number 2, her parents, and then Obstacle Number 3: Immigration.

But you are getting way ahead of yourself because until you spend at least a year dating face to face you know NOTHING about each other. The face to face thing is a must and it can't just be one time you both on polite behavior.

The other thing is you don't know what her motives are. You don't know if she has any maturity. You don't know if she could handle being away from her friends and family or vice versa. It's not at all likely this will work out.

I'll never understand why, when there's a billion women in the world, and half of people around you every time you walk out on the street are women, people can't date local. Honestly, to me it points to a bigger problem that you can't pick someone out of the general population who you'd have more in common with.
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Old 14th March 2019, 4:37 AM   #24
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just the thought of traveling to Thailand scares me a little.

Well, remember freedom? You'll need to rethink your concept of freedom.


Now, if you're lucky enough not to get involved in some thai girl scam as others mentioned (please watch this video: https://youtu.be/JJN8jl85CgI), you'd still have to deal with the following: https://youtu.be/P9I3UXMmoK4


At this point, if travelling to Thailand scares you a little, and converting into Islam scares you a bit more, please remember that marriage in a specific country will mean that you'll have to abide by the rules and laws of that country (besides the religious ones). So in case children are born, they wouldn't be able to leave the country without their mother's consent. Therefore you can draw your conclusions.


Last but not least, you can read more about freedom in Thailand here: https://freedomhouse.org/report/free.../2018/thailand


If you're ready for the jump, pack up your stuff and go.
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Old 16th March 2019, 10:56 AM   #25
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Get your ass over there and meet her. Thailand is amazing. And two years is just BS. The duration of chatting doesn't make the relationship any more real. Go there.

The Muslim thing is the BIG deal. You would have been better off pairing up with any of the 30 million Buddhist girls instead.

For the people that will assume she just wants a green card, the majority of Thais love Thailand and would rather be there. Don't base your views on a few scenes from The Hangover Part II. It's as cosmopolitan as the next place in some places, contrasted by the old world nature in others.


I second this, dead on the money!!!


I loved the place and if I ever worked FIFO offshore, I would make it home as much as I could. The people are good, the food fantastic and the lifestyle is second to nothing from what I seen. BUT...... It is not the US.... The lifestyle make the people, If you take the people out and put them in your environment they become like the people in your environment. It is a different culture to what you are in now and they will likely hate you for it if you move them. I wish I could find the YouTube video about it, it explains everything better.


Anyway... Go for a visit for a few weeks, and check the place out. Keep an open mind but be smart about your money. Start here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n9my-FvcHlE
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Old 16th March 2019, 1:15 PM   #26
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Implacable portrait of Thailand
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