Communication Problems in LDR

[applem]

I realized a lot of people are having communication issues within their long-distance relationship, so I want to help. In the beginning of my ldr, I made it very clear to my girlfriend, that communication is key. Lack of communication and miscommunication are the ways to screw things up in your relationship.

 

Lack of communication happens when one partner becomes very busy and isn’t able to spend as much time with their significant other as they used to. Their SO doesn’t feel like he or she is a priority to the (busy) partner, but they understand how busy their partner is, so they don’t say anything. Resentment rises and one goes overboard with sarcasm. The other gets offended not knowing where this came from. An argument is born

 

It is important to explain how you feel, to prevent a future conflict. Say something along the lines of, “hey, I feel like we don’t talk as much as we used to.” This should wake up your partner, and make him or her realize that they’re not making time for their SO.

 

Miscommunication between couples are happening more than ever, especially now with texting. Arguments are springing up because your partner thinks you meant one thing when actually you meant another.

 

To solve this problem, just simply take the time to be clear and exact when talking over the phone or texting. You have to do this because over the phone body language can’t be read. Over text messages, your tone of voice can’t be heard.

[d0nnivain]

Since the technology exists, it's why you should use Skype or FaceTime as much as possible.

[Chilli]

So how old are you and how long have you and the misses been at it ?

And how long is the LD.

Let me guess, 21, a mth , 2hours.

Thanks for the advice.

[justwhoiam]

a lot of people are having communication issues within their long-distance relationship, so I want to help

Very nice of you.

 

It is important to explain how you feel, to prevent a future conflict.

What about you explain how you feel, he says he understood and the next day he acts the same wrong way as before? And what if this circle is repeated a thousand times?

Your way of resolving disputes is like magic, but good only in fairy tales. In reality, things don't go the way you expect them to go more often than not.

 

Say something along the lines of, “hey, I feel like we don’t talk as much as we used to.” This should wake up your partner, and make him or her realize that they’re not making time for their SO.

Yes, he "should", but it doesn't mean he will. And even if he does realize, it doesn't mean he will make things any better.