jill229 Posted March 4, 2013 Share Posted March 4, 2013 Since many of my friends haven't really offered quality advice, I am hoping that some strangers on the internet may have some... I have known my friend J for over 10 years. We are real life friends. Met through mutual friends. Always had a friendly relationship when we saw each other (we live about 5 hours apart). At one point a few years ago he told a mutual friend that he liked me, but I was seeing someone. That relationship ended, J and I hung out, I realized that maybe I liked him more than friends - but he was seeing someone. We maintained our friendship - hanging out with mutual friends a few times a year. Recently, timing was finally right, neither of us were in a relationship, we hung out again and it just felt right and we made that jump from friends to "more than friends". There was a comfort with him that I never had with anyone I dated before or any of my other male friends. It just made sense. But herein lies my dilemma - we have seen each other twice since that weekend when we finally got together. It was the same both times. It was really good. But we haven't had a "talk". I don't know if I'm just a girl who he sees occaisionally who puts out, or if there is a chance for something more. I want to just flat out ask him. We have 10 years of friendship to fall back on - but I'm partially concerned that our recent intimacy may ruin that 10 years of friendship if I am interested in actually pursuing a relationship and he just isn't. I understand that a 4 hour drive isn't an ideal circumstance for starting a relationship, but I am willing to at least give it a shot. And while I am kinda stuck in my current location for a year or so - there is a possibility I could move to where he is in a year or two, and he has said in the past (before we hooked up) that there isn't much keeping him where he is now once his employment contract is up (in a few months). But most of my male friends have said that I can't "just ask him" what's going on. But I also don't want to invest much more time in travel and rearranging schedules to see him if I'm completely misreading the situation. So, I should just flat out ask him right? Can we go from being friends to being in a long distance relationship? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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