z3ndaman Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 Hi,me and my girlfriend are in a LDR.Its been a year since we last saw each other.We are going on a trip together to Korea next month and im so excited about it.But this is the problem we're having now: So about 3 days ago we were talking as usual,but i somehow noticed that the way she texted me was really boring,like she was really bored and wanted to find a way out of talking to me.For example,in the past we would talk like till 5 in the morning,but now its just ''HI''/''BYE'' conversations.This really pisses me off cuz i try revive the convos.And the way she texted me wasnt the same as before.She used to type 2-3 sentence messages to me.Now its just like ''haha '' and awkward silence for 2-3 minutes before i think of a new subject to talk about.Being the Korean series lover she is,she would rather watch her little movies and shows than talk to me.Now,im the only one initiating conversations with her.She doesnt initiate contact to me like she used to.I feel as if im not even important to her at all.I talked to her about it,i asked her if she was angry at me or anything.She said she wasnt.I dont know what to do.Please help? Im past the infatuation stage.Maybe she is beginning to experience the end of infatuation too ?
deekay Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 Hi,me and my girlfriend are in a LDR.Its been a year since we last saw each other.We are going on a trip together to Korea next month and im so excited about it.But this is the problem we're having now: So about 3 days ago we were talking as usual,but i somehow noticed that the way she texted me was really boring,like she was really bored and wanted to find a way out of talking to me.For example,in the past we would talk like till 5 in the morning,but now its just ''HI''/''BYE'' conversations.This really pisses me off cuz i try revive the convos.And the way she texted me wasnt the same as before.She used to type 2-3 sentence messages to me.Now its just like ''haha '' and awkward silence for 2-3 minutes before i think of a new subject to talk about.Being the Korean series lover she is,she would rather watch her little movies and shows than talk to me.Now,im the only one initiating conversations with her.She doesnt initiate contact to me like she used to.I feel as if im not even important to her at all.I talked to her about it,i asked her if she was angry at me or anything.She said she wasnt.I dont know what to do.Please help? Im past the infatuation stage.Maybe she is beginning to experience the end of infatuation too ? So all you guys do is just talk? that does get boring, man. Try to do activities with her; you mentioned she watches korean dramas? Watch it with her so you guys have something to talk about. Go online and play some games together, write letters to each other, talk in Korean, tell her to teach you some korean, etc. Keep it alive. 1
Lady Chrissy Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Play the questions game! Go online and search "Questions to ask my Girlfriend when were bored" You would be surprised what comes up. =)
JWRP Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 (edited) She would read your post and think "I give up on your boring old conversations after the first "cuz" and following "convos"". I'd guess she wants a mature partner, you to mature, and you are not taking the hints she is presenting. Give your conversations a level of maturity, a level of focus and a level of effort before you "notice" she is bored (instead notice the context and content of your conversations). You would be bored too reading the texts with "cUz I wAnT tO eXaGgErATe" - if you were seeking a mature partner. You need to have real conversations and discuss topics where slang such as "cuz" won't even pop into your mind. Generally thats the only way you have a real conversation. Maybe you're just into convos, ask yourself and then her; she is your partner right? Edited October 26, 2012 by JWRP 1
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