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What to think about micro cheating?


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Old 12th February 2019, 11:32 PM   #16
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All those things are poor boundaries. It's up to the BF to decide whether that are acceptable or not....most would say not.
Agreed! Who gives their number to a guy because they are friendly? I have never heard of that!
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Old 12th February 2019, 11:33 PM   #17
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Micro cheating lays the foundation for macro cheating.
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Old 5th March 2019, 5:04 PM   #18
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Hi everyone. I have a few questions below. Please see these events as unrelated and spanning over a 6 years period. I can give more context afterwards, but for the moment I would like to understand if these things look at first perfectly legit or not. Many thanks

If a guy says to your girlfriend he finds her attractive and then add her on Facebook, is there any issue in her accepting his friend request? If she doesn’t care about him is it disrespectful to her boyfriend or not?

If your girlfriend had lied about having any sex with anyone during break up, and sworn to have deleted anyone on social media she might have been flirty during break up yet didn’t unfriend the guy she had sex with, is it an issue? If a guy you have had sex with while you were broken up likes a picture of you and your boyfriend back together what does that mean? Am I wrong for being hurt that after 4 years of relationship and being her first one, she, who condemned girls having casual sex, had casual sex during break up, lied about it, and kept him on social media when back together and never thought of unfriending him despite him liking pictures of her and I?

As a girl, if you go out In a club, in a trusting relationship, can you give your number to a guy because you thought he was very friendly? If you are in a club without your boyfriend, is it normal to speak to a guy for enough time to find him very friendly and give him your number without any afterthought as you have mentioned to him you have a boyfriend?

If you are inviting a few people at your place for an after party, then everyone leaves except a guy who decides he would rather sleep here while he could clearly go home like the others did, is it acceptable for a girl to see no problem? Granted there is only one room.
She has no respect for you or your relationship. Time to dump her and find a new GF.
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Old 5th March 2019, 5:26 PM   #19
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I think you're being a little optimistic here, thinking that she's only "micro-cheating".
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Old 5th March 2019, 11:32 PM   #20
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To be fair, being in the club scene, there are reasons to give your number to someone that don't involve dating or sex, such as buying and selling art, jewelry, to hire someone for their services (photography, modeling, etc), to work as a performance artist, to stay in touch to find out about future parties, whatever the list goes on. Admittedly that does not appear to be the case in this situation but these are all things to keep in mind, and there's a very real possibility that she is just saying "he was friendly" because she recognizes your insecurity and feels like you would feel threatened by the guy if you knew he had a legitimate contribution to the club scene, which I'm guessing you don't.
With all of that being said, I agree with most everyone here that says she doesn't have much respect for you. If I were in her shoes, I wouldn't have much respect for you either over all of the stipulations you've placed on the relationship. It's kind of sh*tty that she is stringing you along but it's also kind of sh*tty that you are being so incredibly controlling. It stinks of fear and insecurity. Gather your manhood and move on. And maybe focus on your personal life a little bit instead of on women. You could use some self reflection.
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Old 6th March 2019, 7:33 AM   #21
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All those things are poor boundaries. It's up to the BF to decide whether that are acceptable or not....most would say not.
Only a doormat would say yes.
Time to dump her.


If she initiated the break that is a bad sign that she wanted to bang
this OM. Standard outcome when a woman tells a man that she
needs a break. This way she can claim she did not cheat. They will
tell their BF this when they are sure that the OM is interested in them
and they will be able to bed him.
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Old 6th March 2019, 7:36 AM   #22
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I think you're being a little optimistic here, thinking that she's only "micro-cheating".
Must be in relation to the size of the OM's equipment or something.
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Old 9th March 2019, 8:33 PM   #23
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Sounds complicated. There seems to be a lot of boundaries crossed that make you both uncomfortable. You need to let her know calmly that all these issues are putting you on edge about her. It takes 2. I hope you can both sort it out together. If not, then I think it is time to think about moving on. Life is too short to waste on this kind of drama. Plenty of better fish in the sea.
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