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Old 28th August 2004, 11:59 PM   #1
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Best friend taking her clothes off around my boyfriend??

My best friend came over to my boyfriends house when it was me and him there and she took off her shirt and bra and I didn't make a big deal out of it, she was drunk, I wasn't going to let it bother me.

Well she came there last night and said lets go streaking. I said I didn't want to and both her and my boyfriend asked why not and I just said I didn't want her to be naked around him. They both got mad at me saying it didn't matter and that I was trying to control him, and my best friend left when I called her a slut and my boyfriend was pretty pissed at me too. He said it bothered him that I don't trust him and that it was only something that was supposed to be fun.

I realize its all in fun, but not when my best friend feels like she can take her clothes off around him anytime she wants. If I ever did the same thing to her I know she would be pissed. I think being naked is something that should be between me and him, not me, him, and her.

I don't care if he looks at porn, or sees some other girls at a party flashing themselves, or even if he went to a strip club, so its not a jealous thing.

Am I totally wrong in not wanting my best friend to take her clothes off any time she feels like? Because they act like its the normal thing to do and I'm the only one that would be mad about it.
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Old 29th August 2004, 12:23 AM   #2
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ok, i would be really pissed too, so i see where you're comin from. i can also see why your b/f wouldn't care, guys don't care who it is, you know how they are. but really i think its totally wrong for her to be doing that, especially since you're her best friend and all. she should have more respect for you than that. also, your b/f has NO reason to be pissed. he shouldn't want her to do do that especially in ffont of you.
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Old 29th August 2004, 10:17 AM   #3
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Thumbs down huh...

i would be furious if my boyfriend got pissed at me for not wanting to streak with my best friend and himself.

that's pretty ridiculous, and it would certainly make me wonder why he was so interested in it to begin with...a cheap shot at seeing another naked chick, who just so happens to be your best friend, and who just so happens to make it a point to show herself to your boyfriend? or has he been convinced of the many benefits of the act of streaking...???

yeah, doesn't make sense to me either.

i say let them run around like naked morons together and find people who respect your feelings to replace them.

good luck.
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Old 30th August 2004, 12:24 PM   #4
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My girlfriend's roommate flashed me a couple of times in front of my girlfriend. The first time was WAY early in the relationship, and ha ha, it was funny. She did it again while on a canoe trip last month. I was embarrassed for both myself and my girlfriend. The roommate was pretty drunk when she did it. It bothered me, though. I didn't say anything about it but, "Geez, keep your damn **** on. I don't want to see that." Your boyfriend and you best friend should appreciate how it makes you feel. Flashing and streaking while fun for adolescents has lost its lustre for me in my late 20s. Honestly.
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Old 30th August 2004, 12:41 PM   #5
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Lose the loser-style boyfriend and let him go be with Miss Easy, she's more his type. This whole thing is ridiculous and immature. You deserve better.
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Old 30th August 2004, 12:47 PM   #6
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First off....

As so many have said...I would be PISSED AS HELL!! Period! There is NOOOOOOOOOOOOO reason why your slutty acting "best" friend should have EVER taken her clothes off in front of your man! I would have told her off too!!!! What a wh0re!!!

Anyway I would be questioning what kind of guy your BF is if he got mad at YOU for telling her to keep her clothes on! Sounds like maybe there is something going on there between them or something brewing that may end up leading to them sleeping together if they haven't already.

If I were you when she's sober (if she ever is) you should talk to her about how you feel. Tell her that you would never do that to her and if she really cared about you or your friendship then she would never do it again and she wouldn't consider going after him either which to be honest sounds like what's she's up to. Why else would she be advertising herself like that?

Also you need to talk to your BF ASAP to find out what's going on there on his end....ask him why he was so mad and why he wanted to "streak" so bad with your "best" friend. Let him know what you think and how you feel and if he wants to continue this type of thing maybe you should re-think things with him as well.
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Old 30th August 2004, 5:46 PM   #7
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I've been in similar situations a few times. Only it was not friends of mine but friends of my bf.

As other posters suggested, it's time to have a serious talk with him.
He needs to understand as soon as possible that such behaviors hurt you and that you won't tolerate them.
If you feel like asking him not to ever be in your friend's company(I strongly hope that would be 'your former friend's company' by now) if you are not present, ask it.

Don't allow your bf to send you on a guilt trip and don't buy the 'you don't trust me' bullsh*t. It has nothing to do with trust, it's a plain respect thing.

He should have been supportive of you and possibly angry at your so-called friend, not mad at you.
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Old 30th August 2004, 5:57 PM   #8
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Your best friend would realize that behaviour is unacceptable. Obviously, she's not nearly as much as a friend as you thought she was.
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