Do guys lie about being a virgin?

[veganpilot]

My boyfriend says he is a virgin. And he:

- Acts really shy and nervous around me.

- Doesn't know what to do about sexual things and is clueless.

- I almost always had to initiate something sexual.

- Gets embarrassed when he says "pussy".

- Respects my decision to hold off sex (I am also a virgin. I initiated the topic and everything).

- Says that he lies to his friends about his virginity so they would not pressure him to lose it by bringing him to a strip club.

 

But I have my doubts. Because he told me his ex girlfriend never kissed him on the neck and I found out he lied to me. He told me he lied because he didn't want to make me jealous and didn't want to talk or think about her. He just wants to think about me doing it. And when we sext, he's pretty good but that is because he watched a lot of porn. And he said he's waiting till marriage but now, he changed his mind because he knows I'm the one he wants to marry so it doesn't make a difference whether he loses his virginity to me or not.

 

Please help me out! My virginity is a big deal to me and I don't want to lose it to a liar!

 

Update: He still has some feelings for his ex. And he says that he still believes she's a virgin after the breakup.

And he says after the upsetting breakup where she dumped him, he hasn't dated anybody. He had depression and trust issues until he met me.

And he said if he lied, he would have lied about not being a virgin. Because he said at 21, being a virgin is embarrassing because people will think he is gay.

Edited September 18, 2017 by veganpilot

[todreaminblue]

guys dont normally lie about their virginity...guys will up the amount of partners while women will downplay....thats fact...for men are seen as studs and women are seen as not studs......

 

 

...for you and for him if you had serious desire to wait until marriage for him and for you to be sure you are giving your virginity( its not losing its giving) to the right guy .....and you want to give to a worthy person who would appreciate your gift of course..... i would stick with virginity......sounds like you arent really sure so maybe waiting would be best for the both of you.....you want it to be special so never have doubt when you do decide to give up your innocence....i never had a choice to give my innocence and it was way way too young...mine got taken ....and i would have loved to have waited for someone i loved a lifetime......i didnt have a choice....it also sounds like porn has influenced him.....yuck...not a good influence....

 

 

so make sure you feel so right about giving.....that you feel pure joy.....and make that gift so special...for you and for the special one you decide to give too....lots of good wishes from me to you.....deb

Edited September 19, 2017 by todreaminblue

[preraph]

I don't think he's lying, but it's hard for me to judge something so far removed from what I consider normal. I mean, saving himself for marriage but watching tons of porn. Ewwww. I'm not sure someone who's done that much "practicing" can be much of a virgin in the mind and heart. What would he think if you told him you watched porn all the time?

[veganpilot]

guys dont normally lie about their virginity...guys will up the amount of partners while women will downplay....thats fact...for men are seen as studs and women are seen as not studs......

 

 

...for you and for him if you had serious desire to wait until marriage for him and for you to be sure you are giving your virginity( its not losing its giving) to the right guy .....and you want to give to a worthy person who would appreciate your gift of course..... i would stick with virginity......sounds like you arent really sure so maybe waiting would be best for the both of you.....you want it to be special so never have doubt when you do decide to give up your innocence....i never had a choice to give my innocence and it was way way too young...mine got taken ....and i would have loved to have waited for someone i loved a lifetime......i didnt have a choice....it also sounds like porn has influenced him.....yuck...not a good influence....

 

 

so make sure you feel so right about giving.....that you feel pure joy.....and make that gift so special...for you and for the special one you decide to give too....lots of good wishes from me to you.....deb

 

I'm sorry that you had that experience. Thank you for the kind words and advice. He says it is okay and we can still wait till marriage. He doesn't mind. But I don't think I can control myself and wait, especially with another virgin. I tried tricking him into telling the truth. I told him it doesn't matter whether he is a virgin or not. I'd stay with him. I told him it's a white lie to give us a chance I never regretted and not to pressure me. That's because most girls believe a guy is being polite and give compliments to get into their pants. Then he said: ❤I'm speechless.. I love you so much. I am honest with you... I've never done anything with anyone. The furthest I've gone was kissing and cuddling. Why would I lie about being a virgin... if anything I'd lie and say I wasn't. Being 21 and a virgin as a guy is highly embarrassing... people would think I'm gay or something

[todreaminblue]

I'm sorry that you had that experience. Thank you for the kind words and advice. He says it is okay and we can still wait till marriage. He doesn't mind. But I don't think I can control myself and wait, especially with another virgin. I tried tricking him into telling the truth. I told him it doesn't matter whether he is a virgin or not. I'd stay with him. I told him it's a white lie to give us a chance I never regretted and not to pressure me. That's because most girls believe a guy is being polite and give compliments to get into their pants. Then he said: ❤I'm speechless.. I love you so much. I am honest with you... I've never done anything with anyone. The furthest I've gone was kissing and cuddling. Why would I lie about being a virgin... if anything I'd lie and say I wasn't. Being 21 and a virgin as a guy is highly embarrassing... people would think I'm gay or something

 

you are most welcome....self mastery isnt easy it is so much easy when its in duo.....the porn thing for him could be a real downfall to that mastery.....its addictive......and damaging ...damaging in the fact that he may come to believe that sex like the sex in porn is natural and it is the opposite it is staged and on loop ..reel to reel style used to be the way......meaning they edit...cut tape..lengthen staying time angles positions they get into etc....talk to him about leaving it behind him if you wish to wait/......

 

if you both support each other in waiting i truly believe you can do it.....one strengthens the other when the other one becomes weaker in commitment..its a future you think of not instant gratification.......it is a commitment and it wont be easy....but you can do it.....i am not a virgin.........but i am celibate have been for a few years now....and i have a longing thats pretty constant .....but now i have a choice...:0)...to wait/....and i will.....you can too......i wish you all the best....deb

Edited September 19, 2017 by todreaminblue

[The Urbanyst]

He is definitely a virgin.

[basil67]

Help me out a little....what makes you think he's lying to you?

[coolheadal]

My boyfriend says he is a virgin. And he:

- Acts really shy and nervous around me.

- Doesn't know what to do about sexual things and is clueless.

- I almost always had to initiate something sexual.

- Gets embarrassed when he says "pussy".

- Respects my decision to hold off sex (I am also a virgin. I initiated the topic and everything).

- Says that he lies to his friends about his virginity so they would not pressure him to lose it by bringing him to a strip club.

 

But I have my doubts. Because he told me his ex girlfriend never kissed him on the neck and I found out he lied to me. He told me he lied because he didn't want to make me jealous and didn't want to talk or think about her. He just wants to think about me doing it. And when we sext, he's pretty good but that is because he watched a lot of porn. And he said he's waiting till marriage but now, he changed his mind because he knows I'm the one he wants to marry so it doesn't make a difference whether he loses his virginity to me or not.

 

Please help me out! My virginity is a big deal to me and I don't want to lose it to a liar!

 

Update: He still has some feelings for his ex. And he says that he still believes she's a virgin after the breakup.

And he says after the upsetting breakup where she dumped him, he hasn't dated anybody. He had depression and trust issues until he met me.

And he said if he lied, he would have lied about not being a virgin. Because he said at 21, being a virgin is embarrassing because people will think he is gay.

 

Your pure still and want to stay that way for you reasons not to give in. He's said he's pure a well. There was a way to tell if he was telling you the truth. The old myth was they were still bed wetter even at older age. If he doesn't masturbate either is another sign. If you don't touch yourself down there other then to clean yourself is another sign also.

 

My advise why are you with such a liar if you feel he's still in love with his ex girl friend you need to leave this guy and go find someone who respects you for who you are. Wait before to have sex is a good ideal. I know this because I was like this once. I could control myself it wasn't easy growing up, but I did. Your BF is king of strange but you never tell your friends your are pure they would thing you were odd and you couldn't fit into their world of banging chicks.

 

Are you a Vegan also you have it screen name you stay pure of health also that's excellent my dear child. I am vegan man myself others will never understand why we choose to be this way. Anyway enough about me you need to deal with your bf and if he doesn't appreciate you then you need to move on. Hard choice to do but you might as well do that. Vegan man would understand you more. Finding one is hard unless you join a group of Vegan's.

 

This choice is yours to make stay with this guy yet you feel in your gut he's a liar already should tell you something too.

[veganpilot]

Your pure still and want to stay that way for you reasons not to give in. He's said he's pure a well. There was a way to tell if he was telling you the truth. The old myth was they were still bed wetter even at older age. If he doesn't masturbate either is another sign. If you don't touch yourself down there other then to clean yourself is another sign also.

 

My advise why are you with such a liar if you feel he's still in love with his ex girl friend you need to leave this guy and go find someone who respects you for who you are. Wait before to have sex is a good ideal. I know this because I was like this once. I could control myself it wasn't easy growing up, but I did. Your BF is king of strange but you never tell your friends your are pure they would thing you were odd and you couldn't fit into their world of banging chicks.

 

Are you a Vegan also you have it screen name you stay pure of health also that's excellent my dear child. I am vegan man myself others will never understand why we choose to be this way. Anyway enough about me you need to deal with your bf and if he doesn't appreciate you then you need to move on. Hard choice to do but you might as well do that. Vegan man would understand you more. Finding one is hard unless you join a group of Vegan's.

 

This choice is yours to make stay with this guy yet you feel in your gut he's a liar already should tell you something too.

 

Yes, I am a vegan. Nice to see another Vegan on here, vegans are growing and on the rise, haha. Too bad he's not a vegan.

 

I take it back. I think he is a virgin. Today, he talked about how we talk about sex too much and he fears that it is destroying our relationship. He says he feels it's all we talk about and he is scared that I may leave him because of it. He says we should cut down on the sex talk and focus on emotional intimacy.

[elaine567]

He still has some feelings for his ex..

Do not "give away" your virginity to a guy who is still emotionally involved with his ex.

[ExpatInItaly]

Do not "give away" your virginity to a guy who is still emotionally involved with his ex.

 

This!

 

That is the bigger issue here. Don't get too involved with this guy, OP.