Whats your advice on this girl I just started dating?

[Beachguy]

This girl i just started dating. Used my PC....and searched ...is 8 guys a lot to sleep with and I'm 17? I'm assuming she's asking the question. What do you think

[Beachguy]

BTW. I'm a little old fashioned. Sex isn't like buying shoes. As a guy. I've had opportunities but declined due to my character. I feel male bias is unfair and as a woman I would be equally concerned with a partners past

[elaine567]

This girl i just started dating. Used my PC....and searched ...is 8 guys a lot to sleep with and I'm 17? I'm assuming she's asking the question. What do you think

 

Ok, I'm confused so she has slept with 8 guys and you have had 17 partners, or you are 17 years of age?

[Beachguy]

She searched 8 guys by age 17 is it a lot. ...we are both 10 years older now.

[Beachguy]

It's a sensitive issue for me. I was married after dating for 4 years. My ex lied about her past. She told me 25. After 3 years married.. Later had a moment of honesty and said it was 75 guys. I was disgusted. We are divorced. At least I was the 2ND most endowed. Sorry. It's my silver lining had to say it

[road]

It's a sensitive issue for me. I was married after dating for 4 years. My ex lied about her past. She told me 25. After 3 years married.. Later had a moment of honesty and said it was 75 guys. I was disgusted. We are divorced. At least I was the 2ND most endowed. Sorry. It's my silver lining had to say it

 

 

 

Was she faithful?

 

 

Was she a good wife?

 

 

If yes and yes then no need to divorce her.

 

 

 

 

You will not have a healthy relationship when you dwell on a woman's past.

[Beachguy]

It's a personal preference I don't want the woman who's had sex with an entire football team 75 men. Sorry. I have a standard I can accept ..

 

 

She was good. Yes. But the damage inflicted was too great I never could forget that. But I look past it now .

 

 

I don't assume she cheated. But she has had drinks and been too forward. W other men.

[Beachguy]

Disregard the comments about the ex. I'm concerned with the honesty of the girlfriend

[Beachguy]

The girlfriend is lying also about number of partners. I assume that search was. About her past.

[tayriley]

you sound really immature. a person's past is their past. it has nothing to do with their present...especially if this is 10 years later...jesus, THAT'S A LONG TIME.

 

your obsession with being one of the only guys someone has slept with is pretty pathetic and shows that you are being an insecure man.

 

also, you are basing your entire story off of a google search??? she could've been searching for someone else...like if she had a niece that revealed to her she slept with 8 guys!!!!

 

your ex wife was being kind to you to say you had the second largest dick. to be honest, as a woman, you remember the bigger ones and the smaller ones, but there is no way of really knowing which of the big ones is the biggest. frankly, i feel bad for her that you would judge her so harshly when she was faithful to you.

 

this is the 21rst century. judging a woman's past when dating her is not going to get you anywhere. only a pathetic insecure girl would allow a man to dictate how many guys she 'should' have slept with.

Edited May 12, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Beachguy]

Sorry I worry about my health and the tendency of a mate

[smackie9]

Instead of judging, why not just discuss this with her. Just because she was with 8 guys, doesn't mean she was careless. And if you both didn't get tested before the condom coming off, then that's your fault for not taking those steps to assure there are no STDs.

 

BTW it only takes one careless sexual encounter to catch something, not just by having multiples.

 

Communication is more important to a relationship than shaming.

Edited May 1, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
language ~T

[Beachguy]

Well I see your point. It makes sense. I don't want to question her about it it's awkward

[Beachguy]

But in my position I've had a bombshell dropped on me. Got divorced over it. It hurt me deep. That's why I'm so guarded

[smackie9]

I don't want to question her about it it's awkward

And this is why relationships fail......

[d0nnivain]

The girlfriend is lying also about number of partners. I assume that search was. About her past.

 

 

Making assumptions is part of the problem.

 

 

Ask her about the search you saw.

 

 

Also I think it's highly unfair to judge a 27 year old woman based on things she did when she was a teenager. You have to assume that she has grown up in the last decade. If she is still behaving like the carefree immature spirit she was in high school that is something to consider.

 

 

Also if you have retroactive jealousy about things she did a DECADE before she met you, don't even bother trying to sustain a relationship. It's unfair of you to punish her for stuff that happened years before she met you.

[smackie9]

It is so unfair to compare your ex to her when they are completely two different people. Your ex had the behavior that matched her past (extreme) promiscuity. You are comparing 8 to 75.....huge difference.