What does it mean on this situation?

[Anne114]

I got to know this guy from an online dating app few months ago. We actually met up once. But after the date, we don't exchange text messages as much as before. But on and off, he will initiate the text messages or holiday greetings (On few occasions, i will initiate text messages too). Most of the time, he is fast in replying, but occasionally he will took hours to reply. He actually added me in facebook not long after the first meetup.

Recently, we started to exchange messages again and he say would like to bring me out to few places. And it's been a week, and there isn't any text from him yet. Is the guy is just being friendly?

Edited February 27, 2016 by Anne114

[EatYourVeggies]

Social Media seems to confuse a lot of people even regarding the most simplest things.

 

If he wanted to be with you... HE WOULD!

 

You think this guy would rather be on facebook and watching porn instead of hanging out with a girl he likes?

 

Trust me, he doesn't think Social Media is that great.

[SunnyWeather]

I got to know this guy from an online dating app few months ago. We actually met up once. But after the date, we don't exchange text messages as much as before. But on and off, he will initiate the text messages or holiday greetings (On few occasions, i will initiate text messages too). Most of the time, he is fast in replying, but occasionally he will took hours to reply. He actually added me in facebook not long after the first meetup.

Recently, we started to exchange messages again and he say would like to bring me out to few places. And it's been a week, and there isn't any text from him yet. Is the guy is just being friendly?

 

don't know, have you thought of asking him?

 

usually with that pattern of behavior it means he is seeing others, or is already in a relationship, and has you in line as a back up.

 

maybe you should NEXT him and not wait for him to have an epiphany

[Versacehottie]

No one really knows but it sounds like he has you on his back burner. His investment is low. If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't necessarily write him off (yet) but make sure you keep your investment low, match his pace and don't expect much. Do not have anything more than fun with him at the moment since he is not acting like someone after more than that. Define your own standards of what a guy who is in your life just for fun gets from you in terms of time, physicality, priority level (IMO, until he shows you he is more invested it shouldn't be much-never more than he is giving!). Let him step it up and do most of the leg work. If you want a relationship with him, you mustn't give first and expect in same in return. You need to expect him to step up and only give in return if he does. Keep your standards in place to get your answer about what his real intentions are. Good luck

[d0nnivain]

You can't judge much by text messages & the time it takes somebody to response is no measure of how much they care.

 

Since you met once & have never met again, nor have either of you asked to meet again, my guess is just friendly. He could be waiting for some sign from you that you would be open to a 2nd date. Men are not mind readers. If you want to meet with him, you set something up & you pay for it. Simple as that.

[kendahke]

I got to know this guy from an online dating app few months ago. We actually met up once. But after the date, we don't exchange text messages as much as before. But on and off, he will initiate the text messages or holiday greetings (On few occasions, i will initiate text messages too). Most of the time, he is fast in replying, but occasionally he will took hours to reply. He actually added me in facebook not long after the first meetup.

Recently, we started to exchange messages again and he say would like to bring me out to few places. And it's been a week, and there isn't any text from him yet. Is the guy is just being friendly?

 

either that or he's got someone and he's fitting you in when they're not clicking.

[Koans]

Ima be honest. I exactly do this. It's like a guys way of being confusing like how when men cant figure girls out. I'll be as sweet to a girl who is sweet to me just to be nice. Of course Im not going to blatantly decline. But Im not going to follow through neither. Probably coz Im just not feeling her on that level. Just as a friend. Then to the girls eyes, its like im leading her on.

 

 

Example:

Girl: I miss you !

Me: I miss you too !

Girl: We need to catch up!

Me: Definitely its been a minute. I need to see you.

Girl: Are you free Monday.

Me: Whats going on Monday

(Notice how I side dodged the question with no planning)

As the conversation goes into complete oblivion on her part.

Edited February 27, 2016 by Koans

[Versacehottie]

Ima be honest. I exactly do this. It's like a guys way of being confusing like how when men cant figure girls out. I'll be as sweet to a girl who is sweet to me just to be nice. Of course Im not going to blatantly decline. But Im not going to follow through neither. Probably coz Im just not feeling her on that level. Just as a friend. Then to the girls eyes, its like im leading her on.

 

 

Example:

Girl: I miss you !

Me: I miss you too !

Girl: We need to catch up!

Me: Definitely its been a minute. I need to see you.

Girl: Are you free Monday.

Me: Whats going on Monday

(Notice how I side dodged the question with no planning)

As the conversation goes into complete oblivion on her part.

 

Good example of how this goes down and how girls can misinterpret it. Low interest in OP's case for sure--possibly no interest as demonstrated here in your example. One never really knows or maybe the ship hasn't entirely sailed. Part of reason (which is typical!) in your example of a FAIL is that from not really hearing from him she still asks to see him--girl chasing guy. No good. Especially if he's gotten out of the gate once. He can do it again easily--IF HE WANTS TO!