kadmoore Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Hi everyone. I have been seeing this guy exclusively for about 3 months now. He goes to school in a city 2 hours from mine so we have been semi long distance since we got together. We usually see each other once every 2 weeks. In person he is great. Very affectionate and kind. However the is minimal communication when we are not together. We skype maybe once every 10 days and maybe 1 to 2 very short text exchanges per week. I just feel as though it is a bit strange that he does not want more contact with me. As though he doesn't care to see how I'm doing with exams for instance or how my day was in general. He seems perfectly content with the way things are but I am starting to feel like our relationship is going nowhere. I feel very disconnected. I told him that I'd like more contact in the beggining and he increased slightly but nothing significant at all. Our discussions are also very superficial and trivial. Nothing emotional or profound. We talk mostly about school, gym, food. I feel like we don't know each other at all after 3 months. Is this a bad sign ? He is going to be in my town for 4 months and we are suppose to spend more time together but I am wondering if things will really improve and move forward. He does not seem to want to create any real intimacy with me. I don't know how to get things moving and to make our relationship grow. It is his first relationship. He has not even ever been with a woman for any period of time before me. Just a few dates. I am also his first sexual partner. I had 2 relationships prior to this one. He is 23 and me 22. I'm worried that the relationship will fall apart if thibgs don't change. The most time we spent together was 24 hours. Now we will have more time, but will things improve ? Any advice ? Thank you.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 I wouldn't be able to continue seeing him. There's just not enough substance or contact to keep the connection interesting, in my opinion. One or two texts a week and a few random Skype calls sounds more like a friendship than relationship. If you've already talked to him about it and nothing has really changed, I'd just cut the cord. He is content, but clearly your needs aren't being met. To me, that would indicate that we're not compatible. He perhaps doesn't want a more serious relationship.
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