van smack Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 I met this girl online right before I deleted my match.com profile. Literally on one of the last days I was online there I met her. I did not hear from her initially then she texted me a week later. I was psyched. She's an assistant principal at a high school and I had always dreamed of fantasies with teachers, etc so it was a total turn on. We got to texting and it was great for several weeks. She was the clear cut #1 contender of all the online dating girls I had talked to via match and pof. I went on a date with someone else and she was nice(we still talk to this day but she's very plain and dull), but not like this girl I really liked. So things were heating up in my mind. It was Veteran's Day....I figured why not text her on a day off from work to ask her out. I didn't hear back until the next day and she said yes! I was fired up for about 9 days. It was like waiting for Xmas. So we texted a little bit less leading up to the night we would meet, but it seemed like it went by slowly and then the day of it was incredible. Literally like Xmas Eve as a kid. I got to the restaurant we were going to meet at probably an hour or so before her. I don't drink alcohol so I got a coke at the bar watching a college football game waiting for her. A table was ready and you know I was psyched now. She texted me that she was going to wear high heels(another huge turn on to me). She comes up the stairs and I end up meeting her. Our date goes really well. I've been through a lot in the last couple years with a huge job layoff that has really made things difficult in my career so we unfortunately talked about that and then got into online dating and talked about our families a little bit. She was telling me how she used to date a major league baseball manager....thats right she dated someone who won a couple championships. We laughed, there were no awkward pauses, and most of all we seemed to get along real well. I held the door for her when we left, I hugged and kissed her on the cheek, and she said lets do this again. I was pumped on the ride home. I got a text the next morning that a friend of mine I had known for several years had passed away. I texted her that last night was great but I was going to be grieving due to my friend's passing. She texted me back and said she was sorry for what happened to my friend. Then I didn't text her until Wednesday about a restaurant we talked about on our date(trying to plant a seed for our next date) and wished her Happy Thanksgiving. Heard nothing back. Thanksgiving night I texted her saying hope your holiday went well, I really enjoyed meeting her, and wanted to see her in a few weeks. Nothing. Saturday I reached a boiling point I needed to know what was going on. She texted me saying she had been with another guy ALLEGEDLY(but she's always signed on to match.com it seems like when i've seen her on there) and she wanted to date him exclusively. I texted her a couple classy responses like "you will be successful in life no matter where you go" or "i really enjoyed our time together and want to thank you for allowing me to really have fun with you". Thats kind of where its at now. So I've been telling my story to different websites, etc to see what I should do now. I still want to date this girl but need some advice on what to do next?
GemmaUK Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 It doesn't sound like she wants to date you. She has said she has met someone else and wants to date him exclusively, whether that is true or not I would say that is a big signal that she isn't interested. You need to just move on from this one. 2
Ic1 Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 You need to stop annoying her, and accept it's over. But a hint: She's not a close friend after one date, and the first thing she hears from you after a date being of a friends loss and your mourning? Sorry for your loss, be she didn't need to hear that or want to hear that. She wasn't your close girlfriend. 2
Lois_Griffin Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 What do you mean, 'I need to know what to do next." The answer is nothing. Whether the story about being with another guy is true or not is actually immaterial - that doesn't change the fact that she doesn't want to date YOU. Accept it. 1
Imajerk17 Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 (edited) I'm confused here. You sent this woman this cryptic message where you said you wouldn't be able to focus on her due to your friend's passing, but it sounds that you have been doing just that in the meanwhile. If there is anything I've learned about dating it is this: It becomes so much easier if you keep the momentum going and you stop doing stupid things. You sent this woman a message which may or may not have been taken as a blow-off by her (not sure either way), and now she lost interest. Meanwhile here you are, stuck trying to figure out where you lost interest and how this guy she became exclusive w got into the picture, even whether this guy is real or not. That's no bueno. You would have much better setting up the next date with this woman ASAP. Either you would have seen her again, or at least you would have at least known you did what you could. I think this is messed up beyond repair and you gotta leave her alone. Sorry man. Edited November 30, 2015 by Imajerk17
Ic1 Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 (edited) Addressing the title and OP's perspective/opinion: IT WAS NEVER A BREAKUP!!! Edited November 30, 2015 by Ic1 Typo
xcupid Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 What to do next? Find another girl. This one is taken and not available. She's told you that.
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