loling123 Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 I met this guy 3 years ago. Weeks after we met he started a 5 year surgical residency in michigan and I started a 3 year medical program in philly. He has been not only physically absent but also emotionally. It has been a tough 3 years, and several times Ive tried to cut ties with him and date more available men. He refuses to let me go, continues to call/text & because he seemed so good a part of me has a hard time letting him go & think that the friction between us because of the distance and his demanding 90 hour week work schedule and things may get better after. Im torn, I get little from him, he says he is broke as residents aren’t paid much to even fly me out to see him. Now I have a job and have flown to see him 3 times. He does want me to spend time with him &his mom on my birthday& has offered to take us both on vacation. So i see glimpses of hope but they are rare. He is hardly available for phonecalls &takes forever to respond to texts. He will video chat me nightly, but the conversation is limited he usually studies. When things happen in my life, i can't look to him for emotional support &when i complain he gets mad &reminds me that he is going through a rough time in life. He continues to say that he wants me to move in with him &marry me I am 28 &feel time slipping.He still has a solid 3 years of training left. Its very hard to even decide if he is worth it as i haven’t gotten a chance to properly date him. Do i let him go or take the chance and move closer to him? Link to post Share on other sites
Httm Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 Long distance relationships are fantasy. Find someone near you to bave a real relationship with. Cut all ties. Block him if he refuses to comply with your wishes. Link to post Share on other sites
fmfan08 Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 Long distance relationships are fantasy. Find someone near you to bave a real relationship with. Cut all ties. Block him if he refuses to comply with your wishes. Not worth it. I even tried dating someone an hour away on a dating website and you have to keep consistent contact, otherwise it isn't working. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thecrucible Posted November 11, 2015 Share Posted November 11, 2015 I think you need to take the best decision for your career. If it's hard to keep in contact, it seems like the relationship is dying a slow death anyway. I've been in a long-distance relationship and couldn't do it unless there has been discussion and an agreed point between us when the relationship will stop being long-distance and it will get back to normal, and that the long-distance part is temporary. It's not something I could handle for a long time. I did it once and the relationship just didn't develop and we didn't bond very well because there were always gaps due to distance. Link to post Share on other sites
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