one goal Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 So the gym I go to they hired this new girl about a month ago. Anyways she is really hot. She never really talked to me much though when I checked in or left but about 2 weeks ago she started calling me by my name when I come in and leave. I mean she's always known my name why all of a sudden she starts using my name? Yesterday when I left she happened to be leaving the same time I did and I held the door for her. I talked to her about 5 minutes. She only works weekends she said and was saying she was looking for another job since she doesn't get many hours here. I mentioned the grocery store where I worked and she said she applied at another location but never got an interview and I mentioned to her maybe she should try my location. She want's another job so she can get her own place. I didn't get a chance to talk to her much today though. When I checked in She did mention she found her dog yesterday which turned it into a good day. Her dog got loose yesterday apparently. Anyways when I left she wasn't at the front desk because she was doing something. So what do you guys think of her?
lollipopspot Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 So what do you guys think of her? I think you can keep chatting to her, and take it easy. You can casually mention that it would be fun to hang out, if she seems receptive and doesn't put you off, try to set a date.
Author one goal Posted November 8, 2015 Author Posted November 8, 2015 I think you can keep chatting to her, and take it easy. You can casually mention that it would be fun to hang out, if she seems receptive and doesn't put you off, try to set a date. Yea. I mesn she usually just works weekends and sometimes i work and dont get to go much on weekends so i dont see her a lot. So what should i keep doing? Like how long before i ask her to hangout? Also shes the only one working usually so its hard to chat a lot if theyre busy.
lollipopspot Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Yea. I mesn she usually just works weekends and sometimes i work and dont get to go much on weekends so i dont see her a lot. So what should i keep doing? Like how long before i ask her to hangout? Also shes the only one working usually so its hard to chat a lot if theyre busy. Well, make it a point to go in on weekends, and try to find a less busy time. It may just take a time or two more, IF you feel that you're getting personal interest back from her. Be careful though, because it's her job to be friendly. Keep talking to her about her job search, living situation, etc. It's hard to say how long because only you can gauge her interest.
Glitters Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Match your times. Take it out of the gym, dont start inside . You will know by how she behaves around you if she is interested in you in That way or not.Then you build up and ask
Buddhist Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 I don't think anything of her, her behaviour is pretty normal for a coworker and pretty normal for someone to start addressing you personally the longer you spend time around each other. What I think is that you are enamoured merely because she's hot and reading whatever takes your fancy into her every action. I carefully noted you had zero to say about her personality because my guess is you're not interested in that, merely in how hot she appears. 7
Author one goal Posted November 8, 2015 Author Posted November 8, 2015 I don't think anything of her, her behaviour is pretty normal for a coworker and pretty normal for someone to start addressing you personally the longer you spend time around each other. What I think is that you are enamoured merely because she's hot and reading whatever takes your fancy into her every action. I carefully noted you had zero to say about her personality because my guess is you're not interested in that, merely in how hot she appears. I don't know her personality well because I don't know her. She seems kind of shy though just watching her at work she doesn't talk to people a lot but that might be because she's new still.
Odinani Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 I co-sign this I don't think anything of her, her behaviour is pretty normal for a coworker and pretty normal for someone to start addressing you personally the longer you spend time around each other. What I think is that you are enamoured merely because she's hot and reading whatever takes your fancy into her every action. I carefully noted you had zero to say about her personality because my guess is you're not interested in that, merely in how hot she appears.
Author one goal Posted November 8, 2015 Author Posted November 8, 2015 I co-sign this Then how are us men supposed to get women if we never ask?
Myragal Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 (edited) Think of her? What you mean is what should you do? You may want to shake things up a bit. Don't come on too strong as she is working. You mention she found her dog that got loose from her. As a funny but thoughtful gesture, why not get a treat for her dog. Say something funny such as: 'perhaps you can bribe your dog to stay at home'. Something very light where she isn't put on the spot to say 'yes'. Leave it at that. See how she acts. You've given her a wide open door to talk to you and be a bit less shy. Hint. What I and most women really, really, really like is when a man does some small gesture to show he was listening to us. It could something as simple as us casually mentioning our favorite chocolate bar and he has one for us the next time we meet. Edited November 8, 2015 by Myragal 4
Author one goal Posted November 8, 2015 Author Posted November 8, 2015 Think of her? What you mean is what should you do? You may want to shake things up a bit. Don't come on too strong as she is working. You mention she found her dog that got loose from her. As a funny but thoughtful gesture, why not get a treat for her dog. Say something funny such as: 'perhaps you can bribe your dog to stay at home'. Something very light where she isn't put on the spot to say 'yes'. Leave it at that. See how she acts. You've given her a wide open door to talk to you and be a bit less shy. Hint. What I and most women really, really, really like is when a man does some small gesture to show he was listening to us. It could something as simple as us casually mentioning our favorite chocolate bar and he has one for us the next time we meet. I don't know what kind of dog she has so wouldn't know type of treat lol. Don't feel comfortable doing that yet. She wears these cute black glasses but lately she doesn't wear them much. I guess she has contacts too. Next time she wears them should I comment about it how they look cute and should wear them more?
Myragal Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 I don't know what kind of dog she has so wouldn't know type of treat lol. Don't feel comfortable doing that yet. She wears these cute black glasses but lately she doesn't wear them much. I guess she has contacts too. Next time she wears them should I comment about it how they look cute and should wear them more? No you shouldn't. 5
thecrucible Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 This is a tough one. I work a reception job and this sounds like how I would be with customers because I am naturally friendly. It wouldn't necessarily mean anything. So I don't know what to suggest. I don't think you should mention the glasses thing as this would be creepy... But then I'm not sure what to suggest...sorry I can't think anything other than continuing to talk to her and see if you notice any signs of interest from her body language.
thecrucible Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 OP seems very focused on this girl's looks Good point. He doesn't know much about whether they would even be a match yet. At the same time, he shouldn't think he's the only guy who's interested. There's probably plenty of men trying to chat her up. 2
xxoo Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I don't know what kind of dog she has so wouldn't know type of treat lol. Don't feel comfortable doing that yet. You should ask her what kind of dog she has. 2
Myragal Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 You should ask her what kind of dog she has. Good grief...we are making it so easy for him. It's like one of those sitcoms where we hide behind a plant and whisper lines to him. 3
Author one goal Posted November 9, 2015 Author Posted November 9, 2015 This is a tough one. I work a reception job and this sounds like how I would be with customers because I am naturally friendly. It wouldn't necessarily mean anything. So I don't know what to suggest. I don't think you should mention the glasses thing as this would be creepy... But then I'm not sure what to suggest...sorry I can't think anything other than continuing to talk to her and see if you notice any signs of interest from her body language. True and I agree. Again just odd people she never said much to me at all when I'd come to the gym and check in. I'd just give her my card and that's it. Then a couple weeks ago she started saying hi to me and using my name and would say bye to me, but she was pretty chatty with me yesterday when we left. The gym I go to is here in FL and a lot of old people use it. I've seen her make eye contact with me while doing cardio. I would find it odd because girls especially hotties like this rarely every initiate contact with me. Usually I'm the one who has to. Very different.
thecrucible Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Hm you still don't know at the stage whether or not she is just being friendly. Maybe you can just gradually get to know her and see but in this kind of situation if difficult to tell. The eye contact doesn't necessarily mean anything either. Do you even know if she's single?
MidwestUSA Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I don't know what kind of dog she has so wouldn't know type of treat lol. Don't feel comfortable doing that yet. She wears these cute black glasses but lately she doesn't wear them much. I guess she has contacts too. Next time she wears them should I comment about it how they look cute and should wear them more? Probably not wise to suggest a girl you don't really know do something to please you. Dogs are a much safer topic of conversation. As for her addressing you by name, and making eye contact, I'm guessing it's part of her job. To be friendly. Now that we know she's hot, how old is she? 1
oregon0011 Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I wouldn't waste much time pondering this one.. Just ask her out or don't.. I mean she is young and hot and works at a gym, where every single man, (good looking, older, younger, rich, buff) sees her daily, and she is probably approached by more confident men often.. 1
truth_seeker Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 OP you've gotten past the staring at each other stage, which can be the hardest, and have actually spoken to her. Now you ask her out. Something simple like, joining her when she walks her dog. Bring a ball, a treat, go to the park, maybe grab a drink at Starbucks afterwards. It comes off more like a friendly hanging out thing than a serious date.
Author one goal Posted November 9, 2015 Author Posted November 9, 2015 Probably not wise to suggest a girl you don't really know do something to please you. Dogs are a much safer topic of conversation. As for her addressing you by name, and making eye contact, I'm guessing it's part of her job. To be friendly. Now that we know she's hot, how old is she? Looks 20-23. Yes she's over 18 lol. I'm not sure if she's single or not. I never really see her chatting with people though or many talking to her. She seems fairly shy though. I know she lives at home and wants to move out on to a place of her own though so she wants a job that gives more hours.
acapelo_dp Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I honestly think that you are reading too much into her behavior. She sounds like she is being friendly at work and nothing more. I mean, it kind of is a routine to start calling regulars at the gym by name once staff gets to know the member.. that's not out of the ordinary. Just ask her out if you want to know if she is interested. 1
Author one goal Posted November 9, 2015 Author Posted November 9, 2015 I honestly think that you are reading too much into her behavior. She sounds like she is being friendly at work and nothing more. I mean, it kind of is a routine to start calling regulars at the gym by name once staff gets to know the member.. that's not out of the ordinary. Just ask her out if you want to know if she is interested. I will eventually if she's still chatty with me. Like I said it just seemed she went more out of her way to talk to me. The first few weeks she wouldn't hardly say a word to me then all of a sudden she started talking to me. I guess she's still better than that hot 17 year old at work I still like. That girl she's more timid and moody towards me now and tries to avoid me a lot. However the other day she was more talkative because I asked her about her home coming dance which she said was boring and she didn't have a date for it because she didn't want one when asked. She should have taken me lol. Anyways I commented yesterday on a pic of her in her homecoming dress and said it looked nice and she looked beautiful. I happen to run into her in the parking lot when she was coming to work and she giggled at me and said "hi". So she wasn't creeped by it. Then again women like that type of attention because it boost their self esteem.
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