barbossa Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 Looks matter Personality, desirability matter ( income, baggage,etc) How would you rate yourself ? Honestly Me: physically : 6.7 Personality + package = 6.9
empresario Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 Are we supposed to do it individually? I would say overall a 9. If I had to break it down. Looks: 7.5. You either find me attractive or you don't as I don't have that traditionally good-looking face but it's good in my older age. And I'm tall and in shape. Personality: 8. I am very smart, confident, and talented. But as one could infer from the prior sentence, I'm also kind of egotistical. So that turns off some people. There is a fine line between charming arrogance and ugly narcissism. I feel like (from people still wanting to be around me) I'm still on the good side of it. I grew up in poverty and am self-made so that keeps me somewhat humble. I remember the struggle. Lifestyle: 10. I have started three companies and contract my writing, acting, and computer programming abilities. It leaves me successful and dynamic. I have access to just about any room I want to be step inside.
SwordofFlame Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 This question isn't relevant. Even if you're ugly, you're still supposed to be confident.
basil67 Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 If I was single? I think I'd probably do OK on the personality aspect - but I'm also a carer to a disabled son and my ability to go do nice stuff (day trips, holidays) with a partner is quite limited. So, I'd probably end up very low on the scale.
d0nnivain Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 Zero. I'm happily married. Dh is the only one I want to date. If I was on the market, I'd say around a 7-8. I'm pretty easy to date because I'm clear in my communications. I'm self sufficient & generally accepting of other people's schedules & commitments. 2
Maxtor Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 1 I think I am kinda attractive, I have a few romantic interestes right now, I am fit. BUT Im not social. Im not shy, thats not it, but i dont enjoy social activities. I dont like family dinners, going out with friends, bars, discos, cinema, etc. I enjoy doing bodybuilding, praticing Jiu-Jitsu and being alone. I do a lot of social activities, but it needs to have a physical component. In all my years, I have learned that If you are not social, it will fail eventuallyif you dont go out as a couple with other couples\families\friends, it will failif you dont attend invitations from families and friends to social activies, it will fail I need something physical all the time. If i am sitting on a bar, I am always tha guy that doesnt speak. If i am doing Jiu Jitsu, I try really hard to be the best, I am always the guy that does 1000 more push ups, etc. So, yeah, I am not datable. Ladies, please, proceed.
KatZee Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 Probably like a 2 or a 3. Looks wise, I'd say 7.5. I guess? I don't know. Personality, I'm a damn blast. 10. My issue is that I've been single far too long. Going on 4 years now. I've dated for the entirety of those 4 years, minus these past 4 months. I'm tired of it. I'm tired of the garbage that's out there. I'm tired of being the good person and constantly getting crapped on. I'm too independent now, too self sufficient, and I hear that's a major boner killer. Guys want to feel needed. I don't need a guy. I do everything for myself. Merely wanting a guy doesn't cut it in their eyes. I have too much going on in my life. A full time career. A full time volunteer position. Friends, travel plans, family. I've been on dates, and then it's like out of sight, out of mind. I could go days without seeing or speaking to the guy I'm dating. Too many guys I meet now are super clingy and I can't handle that, makes me run in the complete opposite direction. I don't think I'm emotionally open to successfully date at this point, and honestly, I don't really have too much trust in guys either. It's really going to take someone miraculous for me to settle down. I'm just not interested, so yeah, I probably wouldn't make the best girlfriend.
joseb Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 I'm too independent now, too self sufficient, and I hear that's a major boner killer. Guys want to feel needed. I don't need a guy. I do everything for myself. I have too much going on in my life. A full time career. A full time volunteer position. Friends, travel plans, family. I've been on dates, and then it's like out of sight, out of mind. I could go days without seeing or speaking to the guy I'm dating. Just FYI, not all guys view this as a negative. To me, all these are huge positives! 3
KatZee Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 Just FYI, not all guys view this as a negative. To me, all these are huge positives! Hopefully I'll find someone one day who appreciates this! I've gotten texts like, "Haven't heard from you all day, are you OK? Are you ignoring me? Is something wrong? Are you mad at me?" Puts a lot of pressure on me and it's another reason I needed to relax with the dating. I just can't handle the stress. Just leave me alone. LOL.
SammySammy Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 0 F**kable, but not dateable. I'm that guy women call when they have ... needs, but I'm not boyfriend or husband material. 1
BLND Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 0 F**kable, but not dateable. I'm that guy women call when they have ... needs, but I'm not boyfriend or husband material. Wow. How do you deal with that? Sux!
deadelvis Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Looks: Hard to say. Based on the women I sleep with I'd say 8.5. Personality: Unsure. Some women think I'm a 9 in this category. Some would say I'm a 2. Very subjective. To a tattooed bartender I'm a 9. To a church-going school marm I'm a 0. Lifestyle: 5. I need a better job.
darkbloom Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 0 because I'm bat-sh*t banana sandwhich crazy. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Looks: 7 Personality+lifestyle: 10 I am emotionally unavailable though so probably a 0 overall. 1
SammySammy Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Wow. How do you deal with that? Sux! I've accepted it. It's not anybody's fault. Some women have really tried to love me. I've been married. I've had long-term relationships and even was engaged twice after that. Obsessive compulsive disorder is a beast. There are ways it has enhanced my life. Relationships is not one of them. I decided not to fight it anymore.
PrismOfLove Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Looks - 7 Personality - 8 Baggage - 7 Money - 2 Overall - 6
MoreAmore Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 How dateable? I'm going to say a 9 or a 10. I'm basing this on the fact that it is easy to find relationships and always has been. I've never been wanted for only short term flings, but for long term relationships. Looks? 3-4 Personality? 10 Intelligent, funny, fun, kind, understanding, loving, supportive Baggage? I don't subscribe to that concept. I am divorced. I have been the victim of abuse of many sorts in my youth. I have several ex fiance's and an ex husband... There is more. I wouldn't know how to rank this. The whole concept is bunk. Income? 4 I also have other ... perks ... when it comes to relationships that might not be appropriate to mention here that might help.
DrReplyInRhymes Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Everything: 0. I refuse to date at this point in my life. I can't offer what I'd like to, and I haven't met a woman that is worth chasing....yet.
MoreAmore Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Everything: 0. I refuse to date at this point in my life. I can't offer what I'd like to, and I haven't met a woman that is worth chasing....yet. I hate to break it to you, but none of that rhymes, sir. 2
BLND Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Can't you work on the OcD if it's taking such a toll on your life?
Versacehottie Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Zero. I'm happily married. Dh is the only one I want to date. If I was on the market, I'd say around a 7-8. I'm pretty easy to date because I'm clear in my communications. I'm self sufficient & generally accepting of other people's schedules & commitments. I often think that when I read your posts. You are one of the clearest people EVER!! 1
Phoe Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 I'm 0% dateable, because nothing on this planet could make me want to date right now. 1
SammySammy Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Can't you work on the OcD if it's taking such a toll on your life? I'm at peace with myself. Comfortable. Confident. Self-assured. I don't feel anything is "wrong" with me. I'm just difficult to live with. I've tried to change behaviorally. I've taken medications. I don't like the way they make me feel or the side effects. Nothing seems to work well for me. So, I don't take them anymore. After my last relationship, I decided to accept that I am who I am. It's not taking a toll on my life. I'm just single. I don't have to fight with myself or someone else over something that is inherent to me. I'm at peace.
KatZee Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 I'm 0% dateable, because nothing on this planet could make me want to date right now. There must be something in the air! It's all three of us now! Me, you, and Eternal Sunshine racking up a whole ZERO points in dateability based on complete non-interest in dating, period! 1
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