towardthefuture Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 Bumped into one of my exes today. Haven't spoken in several months. The breakup was.... annoying. It was the fade (she faded), then 3 weeks like sent me some out of the blue text like "Do you want your vacuum cleaner back?" Anyway, after that it's been a few months, I just bumped into her. I had bumped into her before and kind of ignored her/cold shouldered her. This time I'm a lot more moved on so I said hi and we had a cordial, friendly, short conversation. I told her I was up for a promotion and that I fixed up my place (one of her criticisms of me, my place was like.... pretty much put together like a temporary living space, zero nesting). She seemed intrigued, but more the vibe I got was she felt relieved of guilt to know I didn't hate her/give her the cold shoulder. I pulled a "okay I've got uh, other stuff to do now" and she tried to extend the conversation but I left anyway. I don't know how I feel about this conversation. It felt a little good because she was more interested in talking to me than I was to her but it also left a bad taste in my mouth because I think she mostly was happy I had moved on and didn't have to feel so potentially guilty anymore. Either way I hope it doesn't happen again. I'd like to date this particular girl again so I'm not sure this was a great thing to have happened in that respect. Is this typical of ex encounters? I never ran into ex's before, they just kind of disappeared into the wilderness never to be seen again.
lchf Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 Your experience is rather similar to a few of mine. I've run into one or two ex's and they always seem much more eager to talk after that period of NC. I don't go for it though. I just act polite and remove myself from the situation because it does no good. I wouldn't put too much thought into it. Just continue doing your thing. TBH she sounds like a coward for just ghosting on you. Not sure why you'd want to date someone who thought that kind of thing is okay. I think we all deserve a little more respect than that.
Siquijor Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 There can be animosity I suppose but in my cases the ex's I've met later on have always been fairly cool. Sounds like you're still interested in her. Personally I wouldn't bother seeing as she wasn't that interested in you in the first instance.
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