yxalitis Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 There are two types of feelings we all mostly go through. Pop, is that first part of the relationship (Assuming you find yourselves mutually attractive), the honeymmon period, infatuation, lust, explorations of each other’s bodies and minds, where all is new and fresh. This can last anywhere from a month, to 6 or more, depending on what it is that binds you to your new lover, I’ve had such amazing sex with my ex that the pop lasted 3 months, but fundamentally, it can last as long as you can sustain it. This is fun, I love this part, but I also hate it, like when you don’t like some of the things you discover, because you know once the pop fades, you’re left with the fizzle. Now the fizzle is that long term love you develop only a few times in your life, and as the excitement of the initial pop dwindles, and little things start to annoy you (more), you either have this fizzle underlying everything, or you don’t. You need the fizzle to simmer along, and allow you to accept, adapt, compromise, and sustain your life. IF you find yourself making excuses for your partner, complaining about their antics to your friends behind their back, sighing to yourself when you see their name pop up on your phone…maybe you don’t have the fizzle, and you should just let them go. It might save a lot of heart ache later.
Sameold Posted June 22, 2015 Posted June 22, 2015 Fairly accurate I'd say. But that is generally just life. Some relationships burn out whilst some go on forever.
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