logan415 Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 I'm on couple of dating sites one called Fdating which is mainly a Russian dating sites but has Americans and other backgrounds. I'm also on Okcupid but I don't get messages there. However, I do get likes by some American women buy they never message me. On Fdating I do time to time get Russian women sending me the first message. I wonder if its Russians find me exotic because they hardly ever see someone with olive skin tone. I'm beginning to think maybe I should try visiting Russia and see how many women there would approach me compared to zero in the US.
caringsister Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 I wouldn't purchase a ticket just yet. Go on Google and search Russian dating scams. 4
Phoe Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 You're on a mostly Russian dating site, wondering why you mostly get messages from Russians? 3
Haydn Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 A lot of Russian women would approach you in Moscow if you go to the right places..... But i urge caution. Not quite RS material but being stunning can turn the odd head or two. Something about money.... and visa`s..... 2
preraph Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 It's Russians looking for arrangements so they can get out of Russia. There's whole sites devoted to it.
carhill Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 Things are a lot less unequal economically and legally from when I spent time in the FSU and my advice would be to make some trusted in-country contacts and go spend some time there, not at the behest of one woman necessarily, but rather to get a feel for the culture and its members. I found Russian and Ukrainian women to be more direct about relationship stuff in general, including matters sexual, than the women in my local demographic so, perceptibly, it was 'different' but different to me was 'normal' to them. If nothing else, you'll get some good exposure to another culture, presuming you haven't had that marked of exposure, and especially in a place where practices, customs, language and social interaction can be quite different from what one is used to locally. I found the couple years I spent 'rounded' life experience more and inspired more confidence and, even though not marrying a FSU lady, I think being there helped me in finding and marrying a local lady after many years of seeking without result. In-country, I used agencies, lavaplace (online) and dating.ru (online) to make contacts. Good luck!
Clarence_Boddicker Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 If you want an Eastern girl, look for a Ukrainian girl. A lot of them a stunning & have strong family values & morals.
carhill Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 An added plus with Ukraine today, compared to Russia, is no advance visa nor registration with OVIR is required for stays under 90 days so ingress and egress and movement around the country is much easier and can be more spontaneous. When I was there, both Ukraine and Russia, things were a lot more restrictive and I was routinely stopped by police and my papers were examined and sometimes bribes were involved. My drivers took care of that stuff. If choosing to interact with ladies, IMO pick everyday ladies, women you would normally date locally, and interact and invest slowly over time, focusing more on visiting and interacting in person. Scammers usually will move on to easier targets, although my drivers sussed out a few and steered me away from them. One tip which can defuse visa and monetary scammers is indicating interest in ex-pat'ing to their country to live and work there. That usually sends them packing, whereas a sincere woman will explore that because most sincere ladies don't want to leave their family or friends. Expect the messages to persist and map out a strategy to triage them and focus in on certain areas or interactions and grow those.
LD-team Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 these replies are only from the supporters of the site, for which they are paid, they work there for pay.
petsrule Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 Have you considered changing what dating site you use if you're not getting anyone in the US contacting you?
kendahke Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 that or they're looking for a way to get into the US. Also, there are a lot of catfish scams which originate out of Russia. You need to be wary of anyone from overseas contacting you in a romance capacity. By and large, they're looking for sugar daddies who will let them live like they're in Beverly Hills over here. Are you rolling in cash? If not, they can stay home and date Вадим and get the same experience without having to leave their families.
Author logan415 Posted May 25, 2015 Author Posted May 25, 2015 I'm currently in contact with a girl from Belarus. We been in contact for a while. I'm planning to go visit her later this year.
Author logan415 Posted May 25, 2015 Author Posted May 25, 2015 You're on a mostly Russian dating site, wondering why you mostly get messages from Russians? I'm on Okcupid but I never get messages from them. I do get lot of likes, however. But none of the want to send thr first message. On the other dating site Russian women contact me. I'm beginning to think Russian women in general are more bold than American counterparts.
carhill Posted May 25, 2015 Posted May 25, 2015 If awhile has been awhile and you've been getting messages from others, IMO sooner rather than later. Slav women generally are pretty passionate and don't like to be kept waiting. Yes, prudence is healthy but there's a balance. Backup plan. Always have a backup plan. Get your own apartment. The lady can assist or do it on your own. Doing it on your own can help if things go sideways. If she doesn't speak English and you don't speak Belarusian or Russian, interpreter. Having access to a good interpreter can be a lifesaver. IME, the longer you wait to visit and the more messages you receive in the interim, the more likely you'll need to use the backup plan. FWIW, even though it occurred during the infancy of OLD, I had exactly the same experience as yourself. Zero women within a couple hundred miles ever contacted me but I got messages from six thousand miles away. Back then (1995) there were only a few dating sites of any consequence. There's a few pictures in my LS travel album. Meet the right lady and, well, it can be a lot of fun. In my case, 'right' turned out not to be the women I had intended to go see. That's how it goes sometimes. Roll with it. Have fun!
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