Is his eagerness to meet tonight a red flag considering the blizzard?

[ThisisIt606]

I've been talking to this guy on Hinge. I've had to cancel 2 dates so far. One due to a blizzard and my city's public transit shutting down and the other because I was "double booked" with dates and one guy got back to me faster.

 

I'm supposed to have a date with this guy tonight. However the public transit is closed again (he's aware) plus we are having one of the worst winters ever. I don't feel comfortable walking to a place in bad weather conditions at night for a stranger/first meeting.

 

I told him I couldn't get there bc the transit was down and I was sorry. He offered to pick me up (Governor is encouraging cars to stay of the roads, plus I have NO idea who this guy is so obv no to picking me up) or reschedule for tomorrow at 730 (word hasn't been released if transit will be open or not yet).

 

I told him I was visiting home out of the city, but would keep him posted for tomorrow.

 

It seems a little weird to me that he was so adamant about meeting tonight/tomorrow despite no transit, blizzard conditions, etc. Is this a red flag ( perhaps his perception or reality and what's comfortable/safe for people is way off)

 

or is he just "laid back" and just wants to get a drink?

 

He really likes the outdoors, sustainability, etc if that helps to decipher anything.

Edited February 15, 2015 by ThisisIt606

[morbot_k]

Strange he would offer to pick you up and not realize that's a no-no for someone you've never met. I think it's safe to meet him someplace close to you so you don't have to walk.

 

Personally I don't follow the "stay off the roads" advice a lot of times mainly because I am used to driving in all sorts of weather and know what I can handle and what is going to be too much and when something becomes un-drivable.

[Revan32]

You double booking dates should be more of a red flag for him, than his eagerness to meet you, is for you.

[ThisisIt606]

I obviously didn't tell him I double booked ( I told him a reasonable excuse). Since these are first meetings or early stage dates and there's absolutely no level of commitment, I go with the guy who takes initiative and asks me out first (time, date, place). Which happened to be the other guy, and not this current hinge one that I'm writing about.

[alphamale]

yes its a big red flag

[Revan32]

I obviously didn't tell him I double booked ( I told him a reasonable excuse). Since there are first meetings or early stage dates and there's absolutely no level of commitment, I go with the guy who takes initiative and asks me out first (time, date, place). Which happened to be the other guy, and not this current hinge one that I'm writing about.

 

Well I consider someone giving their word, and letting me set aside a night of my life for them a commitment. But its good to know your fickleness is strong enough justify your own rudeness.

[Gaeta]

I usually terminate all contacts with men that offer me to meet at their home or offer to come to my home.

 

Yes, to me, someone that is willing to break the law, put his life and my life in danger for something as trivial as meeting for the first time, is a huge red flag.

[bathtub-row]

Don't talk to him again. There are too many nut jobs out there and this offer caused your radar to go up. Trust it.

[codelock]

This would be a red flag to me as well. I met my ex-boyfriend online. It took us a full month to meet. I was traveling, so was he, and there was a week of really bad weather during one week and he was driving 45 minutes. I will admit it did build the anticipation of meeting tremendously but once we met, it worked out great.

 

I think driving in bad weather makes NO SENSE for a stranger. If he met you, and wanted to do that, I would think that's a sign he really likes you. But you are a stranger... so it's a bit odd he can't hold off a week until meeting you... just seems a wee bit too keen.

[smg15]

according to some people on here even if it's a blizzard you should go on a date LOL