My gf refuses to visit me at home because i live in a student hostel

[iselectu]

I have been dating this 32years girl now for 9 months. Each time i ask her to visit me at my place ( Hostle, Private room), she says NEVER. She says she will not visit me there because i dont live alone and she will never give her identification at the security. Severally, i have asked her to go spend time with me in an apartment/hotel, But she rather stay 3 hours and rush back home by 4:00am saying she must return home back to her parents. We arrive a hotel 11:45pm and once its 3:45, she rushes to go back home even Saturdays and Sundays when she is not working.

 

She does not allow me to visit her, because for her, i am too in a hurry. and maybe her parents may not like me. ( since am a black person )

 

I have suggested for her we rent and live together in an apartment in other to get closer to each other and plan how to meet her parents in future, but she said NO! "why am i in a hurry?"

 

I have agreed to take things step by step with her until she is ready, but each time i ask her to hang out with me, she say No that i just want to **** her, Visit me at my place, she say said NO!, lets meet your parents so you will be sure i like to get serious, she say No! let gets married, so you know i dont want to play you games, she says No! that " i just want documents"", lets go rent apartment and spend private time together since you are my girl friend, she says no, that she lives with her parents and must return home early.

 

if i say to her, let us live together, she will say no that she dont know me and i rush things,

if i say lets hang out together, she will say i need only sex.

if i say this she will always say that.

Now she say i rush to marry her.

what else you want me to say? i ask her! if i say i love you, she will say no, its not true that i do not love her, she will say i

love her only for document, What you want me to say?

If i say okay, visit me at my place, she will say no," you dont live in a flat"

 

She prefer we only Go to a restaurant and seat for hours or seat in a car. In Winter, its cold outside. Each time i seat in the car with her for hours, i catch cold. and she does not want to understand this.

 

I pleaded with her, instead of seat in a car, lets stay at my place since i stay alone, she said No. okay, we can go and rent a permanent flat to live together since we have plans to get married. She said no. okay, let me Visit you at your home, gradually your parents will be familiar with my face. She said No.

 

She said she dont know me yet, and i ask her, How can you know me when you dont even visit me or spend a lot time with me?? You only Seat with your phone and follow me on facebook, any photo or comment i make, she will come to ask me, "Who is that Girl, What is the meaning of that comment?" is this how a girl gets to know a boy she likes to be with for the rest of her life?

 

Should i keep Seating in the car in this cold winter until God knows when and always fall sick without an health insurance?

Should i keep visit all restaurant in town spending money on meals i dont plan to eat?

should i keep taking No for an answer hoping that She will say yes one day to catch the vision to be a married woman ?

 

 

Regards

Edited December 31, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Omei]

Whatever the reasons she doesn't want to go anywhere with you or have her meet her family.

 

This relationship is nothing but a dead end esp after 9 months.

 

You need to move on

[SincereOnlineGuy]

 

I have agreed to take things step by step with her until she is ready

 

 

 

No, you clearly have not.

[lil hoodlum]

Sorry iselectu, she sounds like a real waste of time.

 

Find someone else who actually wants to be with you and spend quality time with you.

[LisaSmith_1970]

You might be wasting your time on her. She keeps making excuses and is playing all these mind games. I suggest you find a new girl that actually wants to spend time with you.