alexwood Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 shes going 6 states away to see her friend who is based in texas. hes going to be shipped out(military) and will be gone for close to a year i guess. shes going to be down there for two days to spend time with him should i be upset or jealous? part of me is annoyed
NJ123 Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 shes going 6 states away to see her friend who is based in texas. hes going to be shipped out(military) and will be gone for close to a year i guess. shes going to be down there for two days to spend time with him should i be upset or jealous? part of me is annoyed Does he have a girlfriend himself? If not than you should be worried unfortunately.
Jules Dash Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 I don't think it is a right or wrong way to feel in this situation. I couldn't be comfortable in this situation. I am currently dating someone and I told her I would have a problem in that type of situation if we were in an exclusive relationship. It's probably the reason why that after two months of dating and sleepimg together, we have not even spoke of an exclusive relationship. She has male friends that she says she would hang out with on out of state trips. I am just not the guy who would be down for such a thing but more power to those who can deal with it. 1
Tayken Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 Nobody likes to be Cuckhold....I know I don't. 1
oldshirt Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 If she is taking you along with her to go out with him and his girlfriend then I wouldn't overreact to much. If she is going by herself and not giving you the option of going, it's so she can do him or at least be available if it comes to that. Period.
Zahara Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 https://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/497778-why-did-she-change-her-mind You had no issues trying to cheat on her. 5
Author alexwood Posted November 8, 2014 Author Posted November 8, 2014 she doesnt seem like a chester...only had sex with two guys and weve been together 3 months and no sex so idk sh asked if i was worried and i lied and said no
Jules Dash Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 she doesnt seem like a chester...only had sex with two guys and weve been together 3 months and no sex so idk sh asked if i was worried and i lied and said no You're not making a great case for your own concerns here. 1
J21 Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 It sounds ridiculous that she's in a relationship, but she's traveling to see some guy. You're being taken for a ride man. You should've just said u were uncomfortable from the start. Why lie about your feelings? How has that benefited you here? Just tell her you feel uncomfortable and see what she says.
Quiet Storm Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 Be honest and tell her you aren't comfortable with it. When you are in a relationship, it's important to respect it and protect it. It doesn't mean that you don't trust your partner, it just means that you have boundaries and value your relationship. To have a true partnership, you have to be honest about your feelings. Holding it in builds resentment.
acrosstheuniverse Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 Either you trust her or you don't. Until she gives you reason to worry, trust her. If it makes you feel better find out what the sleeping arrangements are. If I were single I might share a room with a guy friend as long as it was in separate beds or one person on the floor, as a woman in a relationship I would never do that, I would always insist on a separate room or wouldn't go, for privacy purposes and respect for a partner. She may not wanna invite you yet if the relationship is young and not serious. Do they have a history? If she has dated him before I think you may have reason to be uncomfortable with this but if he's just a friend, you have to trust her. Otherwise, where does it end? What is she allowed and not allowed to do? I doubt she'll be choosing a boyfriend of a couple months over a long-time friend, especially if they're very close. If she wants to cheat then she'll do it in the same city as you. I have male friends I travel to see or would travel to see, ditto with females. In a decade of relationships I've never cheated on anybody. Not everybody is cheating or likely to cheat, contrary to what you hear on these boards, which are filled with people who due to infidelity have come here to share their stories and get support, reading stories of other people's infidelities and starting to think every situation between a girl and a guy is doomed to end in sex. 1
WomenWubber Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 Don't worry. She will be too busy riding her friend, so you can **** all the chicks you want without being caught. 1
Author alexwood Posted November 8, 2014 Author Posted November 8, 2014 how about we ignore my previous thread and answer the ****ing question
WhatIsLove2014 Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 No we can't ignore the other thread. Cheaters are ALWAYS worried about their spouse cheating. It's the paranoia of cheating... "im trying to cheat so she probably is too." What a jerk...she should dump you.
Author alexwood Posted November 8, 2014 Author Posted November 8, 2014 No we can't ignore the other thread. Cheaters are ALWAYS worried about their spouse cheating. It's the paranoia of cheating... "im trying to cheat so she probably is too." What a jerk...she should dump you. didnt cheat on her wasnt going to damnit the time frame on my other thread ws wrong
WhatIsLove2014 Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 didnt cheat on her wasnt going to damnit the time frame on my other thread ws wrong You are a LIAR! You lie to your gf about your feelings probably without even blinking. Why wouldn't you lie to us? Smh Anyways, yes, she probably is going to cheat on you. she may not once she gets there but it could fall either way. GL 1
acrosstheuniverse Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 Let me present you with another option... and explain why I like it best... 3) You tell her that you love her and are giving her full permission to do anything she wants with him while down there, and you will be there for her when she returns and confident that no matter what she does she will choose YOU in the end. This option is best, because let's face it.. shes gonna do what she wants to do while down there with her 'friend' anyhow, and pretty much option 1 and option 2 above, or even trying to calmly talk to her could give her exactly what she wants to convince herself its okay to fawk his brains out down there with him. This option shows that you are no fool first off, it also shows her that you love her, and are willing to 'let her go' and do as she wants while down there with this military friend. The main thing this shows however is your extreme confidence in yourself and that you are the better man, and her better choice. If you do this option, and she does fawk him, she probably gonna feel really guilty, and you choosing this option in my opinion is your best chance of her NOT cheating on you while down there. Stay cool stay confident. And if you do this and she don't come back or want you more, she's not worth your time, period. Chances are great shes gonna cheat, but IMO if you wanna keep her and tug her heart your way, option 3 is by far your best bet and gives you the best chances against her cheating on you. Confidence is something women love. Again option 3 shows her two things, you are very confident and that you aren't a fool. Good luck pal. - Zaxx No offence Zaxx but this is pretty much one of the worst pieces of advice I've read on here... a guy who is worried about his girlfriend going to visit her male friend, your advice is for him to give her express permission to cheat on him? That's insane. As a girlfriend, if my boyfriend told me that, when I was going to see a male friend, I would presume he cared much less about me than I previously thought, or that he had cheated himself, and start thinking about ending things. It wouldn't show me my boyfriend was confident, it'd show me he as a spineless doormat. If your advice had read 'tell her that you love and trust her to be faithful while she's away, hopes she has a great time and that you'll see her when she gets back' then I would have said that's fantastic. Being trusted is wonderful. My boyfriend trusted me to go stay at a male friend's house in another city on Valentine's day because we had both got tickets for a gig together before I met my boyfriend. The fact that he trusted me in that situation meant an awful lot to me and contributed to me falling even more for him. And yes, I was faithful. He occasionally goes back to our home town and stays at his old house on the sofa in the lounge; his best girl friend stays on the other sofa because she used to live there too. I can get bent outta shape assuming he's cheating or I can trust him that, like me, he is able to control his own actions. If someone is gonna cheat they'll do it wherever they are. However... you don't really know this girl too well yet, you haven't been together too long, so I can understand reservations because you haven't been together long enough to really build up too much trust. But the only way you build up trust is by actually trusting somebody, give them the benefit of the doubt and over time they'll show their true colours and you'll learn you were right to trust or stuff will come out that makes you rethink it and end the relationship. If she cheats, then she cheats and she's a cheater whether it's this guy or someone else. If not, she knows that her boyfriend trusts her and believes in her and gets to be in a relationship while also having the freedom to see her friends when she wants. I wouldn't be too keen on a relationship with a man who kept me from my friends.
PogoStick Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 Normally I'd say she might just be a great girl who cares about her friends. However, considering your relationship is new and non-sexual, she may view the relationship less deeply than you, thus feeling it's ok if she does sleep with him.
Author alexwood Posted November 8, 2014 Author Posted November 8, 2014 Normally I'd say she might just be a great girl who cares about her friends. However, considering your relationship is new and non-sexual, she may view the relationship less deeply than you, thus feeling it's ok if she does sleep with him. i dont want to talk about it and seem insecure
ScreaminEagle Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 i dont want to talk about it and seem insecure You know that thing, what do they call it, Karma ? What goes around comes around ? Good luck buddy!
ExpatInItaly Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 how about we ignore my previous thread and answer the ****ing question She's probably seeking to do the same things you were. This is an easy one.
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