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What would you do if a guy you were interested in, and at one point you thought he was interested in you - goes hot/cold?

 

My latest crush and I seem to have evolved into a friendly "hi" when we cross paths. Now, the past couple of days he just passed me like I'm not there.

 

I wonder if this is payback for when I was distancing myself from him? I don't know why cuz that was weeks ago...Up to the past couple of days I've been friendly towards him and he seemed to be reciprocating - up to the past couple of days.

 

I don't know if I should just let it run its course or try to chat him up to see what's up. I mean, we're not dating so it's not like I'm gonna confront him - I don't have the right to do that...I just might try to engage him in friendly convo to see if he bites.

 

What do you think? Thanks in advance for the input :)

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ask him to see a movie with you

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What?! you guys just say "hi"?!

 

obviously nothing is going to come of this if you guys just say hi.

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You've gotta break the cycle of mis-communication (or lack thereof) now and approach him to see what he says.

 

Games and crap get couples nowhere. Go direct. Go for it. What is there to lose, afterall?

 

Curt

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He could be doing the push and pull method to increase attraction.....it seems to be working.

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He could be doing the push and pull method to increase attraction.....it seems to be working.

 

So like a lady, she should now "push back" :cool:

 

... or pull, as the case may be. :D

 

Curt

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We already answered this question...................

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He could be doing the push and pull method to increase attraction.....it seems to be working.

 

If this "is" what he's doing, I don't know why...My attraction hasn't changed for him and I haven't done anything to make him want to increase my attraction to him (i.e. dating someone else).

 

Besides, from the few convos between us I can see he's attracted - but elects not to act on it :o

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You've gotta break the cycle of mis-communication (or lack thereof) now and approach him to see what he says.

 

Games and crap get couples nowhere. Go direct. Go for it. What is there to lose, afterall?

 

Curt

 

Agreed...I just gotta think of creative ways to engage him in conversation. :bunny:

 

Right now I got some time on my hands until I get called back on my job (once they get their budget). So, I'll think of something(s) to do.

 

I also don't wanna pressure him. I don't like being pressured.

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ask him to see a movie with you

 

I kiddd you not, now that I have some time off of work I've been catching up with my movies and the other day was thinking of what you recommend...

 

But not sure if I can do that. We're not dating...but then again, people go out to movies with people they aren't dating. So, I might consider a creative way to ask - without making it come off as a date invitation. :bunny:

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You've gotta break the cycle of mis-communication (or lack thereof) now and approach him to see what he says.

 

Games and crap get couples nowhere. Go direct. Go for it. What is there to lose, afterall?

 

Curt

 

Couldn't agree more with this comment.

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I think the problem after reading your previous threads on this guy is, he wanted a little fun on the side and you started taking it too seriously and he backed off. Maybe you might want to let this one go.

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I think the problem after reading your previous threads on this guy is, he wanted a little fun on the side and you started taking it too seriously and he backed off. Maybe you might want to let this one go.

 

That's what I am thinking too ^^

 

I mean, we exchanged "hi's" today, but now I wonder if he was just being polite cuz I was in plain view of him :(

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IMO if you have to work hard at getting someone to be with you, pffft forget about it. I would never ever waste my time on iffy, flaky, hot/cold, undecided, chicken sh it, coward, whatever guys. I say move on to a for sure thing....someone who responds to you properly.

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