sapphiregirl Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 This guy and I have been talking for a while. We are both university students. He said he'd love to grab a coffee with me. So, the other day we met up and had coffee, then walked in the park. I do like him, but I don't know if we were meeting as just 'friends'... or as something more. We don't know each other very well yet either. When I first arrived, he hugged me. Our coffee together went well I think, although I did feel quite nervous and was blushing a bit (he's rather attractive). I tried paying for my drink but he insisted on paying, so he did. When we were saying goodbye, he hugged me again and said he'd like to see me soon, and he mentioned the movies (although we didn't plan when we were going). That night he texted, saying he really enjoyed spending time with me and he hoped I liked it too. I saw the text the next morning, and I replied saying I also had a really nice time. To this he did not reply. It has now been four days and I haven't heard anything. Is this a bad sign? What's going on? P.S. I am suspicious with guys because I have been let down many times by them before.
HappyLove Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 Don't put too much into one coffee date. A man who wants you will let you know. Right now just continue with your normal routine and don't stress about this. 2
Author sapphiregirl Posted August 14, 2014 Author Posted August 14, 2014 Yeah true. I'm probably just overthinking it 'cause I like him.
d0nnivain Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 Why don't you invite him for a coffee this time?
deathandtaxes Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 Ahh the loveliness of throw-away dating. It's a shame that people can't be more honest. He may have indeed wanted to take you out at the end of the first date, but apparently not enough to try and make firm plans at the end. When I am really into a lady, I always ask her out again and make tentative (if no concrete!) plans at the end of the first. But that's just me. It really sucks that if he changed his mind that he wouldn't just tell you so. Either he lost interest or has another (or others). It will be up to you whether to go out again if or when he gets back in touch with you. But four days of nothing? I think that awfully rude.
d0nnivain Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 I don't think he lost interest. All the blushing tells me he's inexperienced & since she inadvertently waited to respond because she wasn't sitting on her phone he misinterpreted that as lack of interest on her part because he's insecure.
fred123 Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 It is strange to me that he texted you and wanted to go out on another date with you, but didn't confirm. The first thing that popped in my mind, was that he got mad or upset that you didn't respond to him right away, and now he's pouting and acting childish. I could be wrong but that's what I initially got when reading your post. You never know! It could be a situation where he got busy and maybe can't contact you, and or doesn't want to make plans with you if he has such a busy schedule. These are possibilities. Or he could be disinterested, but for some reason my mind isn't going there, he did seem interested. But either he's mad and pouting and holding onto that you didn't text him right away (Which is immature and stupid) or he got really busy, and forgot to text you back or doesn't want to make plans yet cause of his schedule. I am a big texter but my friends will text me and I sometimes never get back to them cause I always look at the text but then forget to reply. There are many reasons, but there is no harm in texting him again if you really want to know! Maybe you can confirm it by, saying "Hey are we going to go on that movie date? :)" Make it light or say something similar, and see if he texts you back, if he doesn't then you know to move on and you can say "well at least I tried" Hope everything works out! iv had some girls tell me iv misrewd their friendliness for interest. like for 3xample going to dinner with a girl. apparentlt she said to me afterwards she goes to dinner with friends so i read it wrong
preraph Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 He's a broke college student! Buying you coffee probably used up half his allowance. Now he's committed to a movie and he's probably just having to save up for it before he firms up plans. You might offer to go dutch next time just in case. Your last text didn't require an answer. Just wait and he'll show back up. You're in college. Don't you guys have better things to do than text 24/7? You should.
Author sapphiregirl Posted August 15, 2014 Author Posted August 15, 2014 This guy and I have been talking for a while. We are both university students. He said he'd love to grab a coffee with me. So, the other day we met up and had coffee, then walked in the park. I do like him, but I don't know if we were meeting as just 'friends'... or as something more. We don't know each other very well yet either. When I first arrived, he hugged me. Our coffee together went well I think, although I did feel quite nervous and was blushing a bit (he's rather attractive). I tried paying for my drink but he insisted on paying, so he did. When we were saying goodbye, he hugged me again and said he'd like to see me soon, and he mentioned the movies (although we didn't plan when we were going). That night he texted, saying he really enjoyed spending time with me and he hoped I liked it too. I saw the text the next morning, and I replied saying I also had a really nice time. To this he did not reply. It has now been 5 days and I haven't heard anything. Is this a bad sign? What's going on? P.S. I am kind of suspicious with guys because I have been let down many times by them before.
Author sapphiregirl Posted August 15, 2014 Author Posted August 15, 2014 It is strange to me that he texted you and wanted to go out on another date with you, but didn't confirm. The first thing that popped in my mind, was that he got mad or upset that you didn't respond to him right away, and now he's pouting and acting childish. I could be wrong but that's what I initially got when reading your post. You never know! It could be a situation where he got busy and maybe can't contact you, and or doesn't want to make plans with you if he has such a busy schedule. These are possibilities. Or he could be disinterested, but for some reason my mind isn't going there, he did seem interested. But either he's mad and pouting and holding onto that you didn't text him right away (Which is immature and stupid) or he got really busy, and forgot to text you back or doesn't want to make plans yet cause of his schedule. I am a big texter but my friends will text me and I sometimes never get back to them cause I always look at the text but then forget to reply. There are many reasons, but there is no harm in texting him again if you really want to know! Maybe you can confirm it by, saying "Hey are we going to go on that movie date? :)" Make it light or say something similar, and see if he texts you back, if he doesn't then you know to move on and you can say "well at least I tried" Hope everything works out! Thank you so much for your answer - very helpful indeed! I think you might be right. I know he is very busy with his university schedule and studying, so maybe I'll just wait it out a little while longer and see if he mentions it a again soon. If not, I'll send him a little text mentioning the movies and see if he responds. Thanks again for your answer!! 1
smackie9 Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 Everything seemed pretty standard. Maybe since you didn't respond right away and response was not very enthusiastic he may have felt there wasn't much interest on your end. so what if he didn't text you back....you never know he may not have gotten it. Why wait 5 days later.....call him for f sakes.
Supernatural Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 (edited) I doubt he's busy. He's either waiting for you to text him, because he has other girls going on, or he is not interested. A guy who is interested will always pursue. Always. Just like if a girl is interested, they will pursue. A person always knows the truth from their intuition, in my opinion. We just try to justify things and make excuses for them. What does your intuition tell you? You know the situation best. All we can do is offer up speculations based on a small amount of given text and our own personal experience. Plus, do you want a guy who wait's four days to contact you after what was a seemingly good date? That says a lot in itself. ----------------------- I want to find someone who thinks I'm important. When you find something important, you make it work; no matter how busy you get or what happens that day. When you're just an option... We know that... Continue being their option, then slowly lose confidence in our own self. Don't do that. Because they lose nothing in the long run; but you lose energy and a whole lot more. Four days.... Damn girl... You're better than that. Edited August 15, 2014 by Supernatural
torturedartist Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 This guy and I have been talking for a while. We are both university students. He said he'd love to grab a coffee with me. So, the other day we met up and had coffee, then walked in the park. I do like him, but I don't know if we were meeting as just 'friends'... or as something more. We don't know each other very well yet either. When I first arrived, he hugged me. Our coffee together went well I think, although I did feel quite nervous and was blushing a bit (he's rather attractive). I tried paying for my drink but he insisted on paying, so he did. When we were saying goodbye, he hugged me again and said he'd like to see me soon, and he mentioned the movies (although we didn't plan when we were going). That night he texted, saying he really enjoyed spending time with me and he hoped I liked it too. I saw the text the next morning, and I replied saying I also had a really nice time. To this he did not reply. It has now been 5 days and I haven't heard anything. Is this a bad sign? What's going on? P.S. I am kind of suspicious with guys because I have been let down many times by them before. It sounds to me like the guy likes you. Every conversation has to end at some point. He you told you he had a good time, you said you did too...what's the next logical thing for him to say? That he's glad you had a good time too, so you could say that you're glad that he's glad that you had a good time too, and so on and so forth. He sounds like he might be shy. He might be waiting for a sign from you. You may have to get creative and think of some way you can digitally get his blood flowing with a passionate text, of some sort.
xxJuliexx Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 (edited) Thank you so much for your answer - very helpful indeed! I think you might be right. I know he is very busy with his university schedule and studying, so maybe I'll just wait it out a little while longer and see if he mentions it a again soon. If not, I'll send him a little text mentioning the movies and see if he responds. Thanks again for your answer!! No problem Babe! That sounds about right! He probably is busy, there are so many things but communication will be the problem solver But I understand you want to wait it out....just wait it out then and then send him a text or call and if he doesn't respond to that, then you'll know what to do. I hope everything works out! Edited August 15, 2014 by xxJuliexx
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