nyny123 Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 I'm abit worried about this. I'm 25 and I met a man who is 27 and has been divorced for 7 months and has a kid on the way. I been honest with him saying I have mixed feelings about dating a man with kids because I worry about baby mama drama but he said his ex lives in a different state and in another relationship. Maybe I'm being abit paranoid I don't know. Be honest and tell me what you think. I'm keeping my options open since I'm not sure about this situation
Philosoraptor Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 On top of possible mama drama you'll also have the possibility of developing resentment of his ex wife and soon to be child. A lot of time is sure to be spend dedicated to the ex and supporting his child. And if he's not spending a lot of energy dedicated to his child you need to decide if that's the type of man you want. Personally I think you can find someone with less current and soon to be baggage. 1
Author nyny123 Posted January 15, 2014 Author Posted January 15, 2014 On top of possible mama drama you'll also have the possibility of developing resentment of his ex wife and soon to be child. A lot of time is sure to be spend dedicated to the ex and supporting his child. And if he's not spending a lot of energy dedicated to his child you need to decide if that's the type of man you want. Personally I think you can find someone with less current and soon to be baggage. You just never know what might happen just don't want to put myself in a bad situation
pickflicker Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 If the child was already born and there was a routine established, that's one thing. But the baby has yet to arrive and when it does, its schedule will be paramount and will dictate the actions of everyone involved. Keep it as a friendship for now.
d0nnivain Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Baby mama drama happens when the baby mama wants the baby daddy back. My concern is that it takes at least 1 year of living separate & apart for most states to even let you file for divorce & then it takes a few months to get on the docket to get the order of divorced filed. If the baby mama is the EXW, they weren't separate & apart before the divorce if you catch my drift. If the baby mama is not his EXW, that seems to indicate he might be some kind of player. If he's a good guy (at least IMO) he will have some involvement in his child's life. If you aren't prepared for that, that is OK. I wouldn't have wanted that at 25. But know that now & get out sooner rather than later. There are men in your age group who don't have kids.
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 No. Just no. This situation has bad news written all over it. 1
soccerrprp Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Why is there another baby on the way and the ex is in another state? I now wonder why she left him? Or he her? Stay away...
PegNosePete Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Okay basic maths... Divorced 7 months ago. Baby is not yet born. Baby must have been conceived less than 2 months before the divorce. Divorces take a lot longer than 2 months to go through. This simply does not add up. He is either very, very stupid (having unprotected sex whilst going through the divorce process) or he's been telling you incorrect information re: the dates.
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