OrangeSnack Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 (edited) Hello. I've been in a sticky situation lately. I've been on two dates with this girl and things are going very well. We talk a lot and there seems to be an instant chemistry between the both of is. Because we've been on two dates I don't know if it's appropriate to give gifts on Christmas. My dilemma is: I'm currently on a business trip and I won't be back until Christmas Day. I was planning to buy something for her and have it delivered. But I backed out of that idea because people have suggested that it was too much. (Gift cards, flowers, and chocolates. Value wise it was Around $300). I was doing some Christmas shopping a few days ago and I found a cute yoga book of dogs (she loves yoga and who doesn't love dogs??) and a book on food around the world (she and I are big foodies). I know her favorite things in life are yoga and food so I figured it would be a good idea to give her that as Christmas presents. You know something simple and cute and not over the top. I know I'm overthinking and analyzing it again. But my other problem is: I plan on delivering it to her myself on the 25th when I get out of the airport. I plan on just dropping off the gifts at her doorstep. The gifts are already wrapped and it's in my car. I know where she lives because I've picked her up from her place on our second date so no I'm not stalking her What are your thoughts? Are my gifts appropriate for my situation and also do you think me delivering to her place sounds like a good idea or wait till we go out on our 3rd date and give the gifts to her by then... Thanks for your feedbacks. Edited December 24, 2013 by OrangeSnack
Cinnimon Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 I think it is a very sweet gesture on your part. I'd deliver them on her doorstep Christmas day.
GemmaUK Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 If I were the lady and had only been on two dates with someone I would rather he waited until the date (hoping of course that the date wasn't going to be one where she would have to carry the items around all evening). It would be nice to be told he had a gift for me though. However, that is just my view. Will she be at home on Christmas Day? Do you know what her plans are?
Author OrangeSnack Posted December 24, 2013 Author Posted December 24, 2013 (edited) Haha ciga for Christmas. Not sure if she'll even be with me after that gift. Her mothers bday is Christmas Eve and she lives an hour away from where she lives so she'll be with her family that day for sure. I don't know her plans on Christmas Day. But I plan on finding out tomorrow. She left me a wonderful text before I left. She's a great person so I definitely don't want to screw this up. But I've been banking on the Christmas Day personal delivery regardless if she's home or not. She lives in a safe neighborhood so I don't see it being stolen. And why do you feel you would want it the next date? Is me giving a gift to you too fast paced for you? Does it come off a creepy thing? Do you not enjoy gifts after a few dates? Please enlighten me Edited December 24, 2013 by OrangeSnack
GemmaUK Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 Ah! Leaving it there for her.... I like that idea! Don't for get to tell her where you have left it..and do hide it away somewhere as it would be a shame if someone spotted it and decided to make off with it. Go for it and leave a nice little note or card too. (I don't know if you can guess - this worked for me - and funnily enough - he had returned from his holiday - overnight. He dropped by my house on his way back from the airport and unwrapped my gift and put each item from it through my letterbox separately. I was furious in teh morning as I thought someone had used my front door as a trash can... Then I realised all of the packets were sealed and he had left a really sweet note. The funniest bit - the gift - it was duty free cigarettes! Absolutely 100% true story! ) 1
Author OrangeSnack Posted December 24, 2013 Author Posted December 24, 2013 Ah! Leaving it there for her.... I like that idea! Don't for get to tell her where you have left it..and do hide it away somewhere as it would be a shame if someone spotted it and decided to make off with it. Go for it and leave a nice little note or card too. (I don't know if you can guess - this worked for me - and funnily enough - he had returned from his holiday - overnight. He dropped by my house on his way back from the airport and unwrapped my gift and put each item from it through my letterbox separately. I was furious in teh morning as I thought someone had used my front door as a trash can... Then I realised all of the packets were sealed and he had left a really sweet note. The funniest bit - the gift - it was duty free cigarettes! Absolutely 100% true story! ) That's really sweet awe. How long have you guys been going out?
CrystalCastles Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 Aww! That's such a sweet gesture, I say go for it!
d0nnivain Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 The yoga & food books are fine. The other stuff would be too much this soon in. Do you know she won't be home? Can you wait & give them to her in person when you next see her? Due to scheduling difficulties, I think a present delivered anytime in December is fine (up to & including NYE).
GemmaUK Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 That's really sweet awe. How long have you guys been going out? Honestly, even though it was cigarettes it was actually the most romantic thing someone has done for me - the reason being it wasn't standard flowers or choccies but was something he was going to give me anyway - the nicest parts abotu it were that it made me smile when I realised they were not someone's trash, the note was so sweet - scruffy and rushed even on a scrap of paper. The nicest thing about it was that he and his group of friends had been delayed at the airport the other end for 9 hours! He was supposed to be out that night for a quick drink as he said he would come straight to see me when he got home. It was a Sunday night and we were both working the next day. The flight being delayed meant he didn't make it out and he didn't actually make it back to the airport this side until gone midnight. It was 2am when he arrived here and instead of going home he begged his friend to by pass my place on the way so that he could drop my present to me. He had to be up for work four hours later! It was very sweet, we had only been together for about a month..sadly we have since split as we grew apart (a few years ago now) but we were together for 14 years. I say go for your plan! Leave the present at her place definitely...what you could do though is drop a note through her door to let her know where to find the present, that way you don't need to mention it in a text or a call and it will be a surprise for when she arrives home. It's nice that it's personal to her too - that is better than any flowers or chocolates. Great idea! Do it!
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