keeptryingormoveon Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 Story: She was one of my close friends and around April 2012, we started become closer. We really like each other but I was not ready for a relationship. I was scared and this was my first potential relationship but she was ready for one (MY FIRST MISTAKE). So basically since then we were seeing each other, going to some dates, taking it slow. Around July 2013, she kind of stopped everything. She waited for me but got tired and lost feelings. That's when I felt like I lost everything. I realized how much she meant to me after she wanted to leave. I tried no contact, but I was a sucker. So in the beginning of October, she gave us another chance. She stilled like me but lost that spark. Since then, I treated her like a princess, and basically consider her my girlfriend. But the problem is, she still feels the same way. She doesn't really miss me or really consider us in a relationship. She said she was trying to get it back but the feeling hasn't come. I don't want to force this weird relationship to happen but I don't know what to do? Do I go slow, break it off, no contact? I'm so confuse. TL;DR: I like this girl a lot, and I miss her everyday. She still likes me but doesn't feel the same spark she use to. What should I do?
bnh Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 If the feeling's gone, it's gone. All the rest is details. 1
lakerman34 Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 That's a strange predicament. I say just NC and move on. There are just too many girls out there to worry about this one. You seem young, so let me just tell you this: there is a girl out there for you that will be as addicted to you as you are to her. I would tell this girl "look. I like you, a lot, and I've done all I can to turn this into something, but nothing has worked. At this point I think we should just go our separate way. No hard feelings." Then NC. That "FIRST MISTAKE" was not a mistake. She should respect the fact that you want to take it slow. If she doesn't, then she's not the one for you. Let this one go. If it was meant to be, the Universe will bring you two back together. She will come back to you. I don't think it is "meant to be" though. Every moment you spend on THIS girl is one less moment with THE girl. Drop THIS girl. 1
Author keeptryingormoveon Posted November 26, 2013 Author Posted November 26, 2013 That's a strange predicament. I say just NC and move on. There are just too many girls out there to worry about this one. You seem young, so let me just tell you this: there is a girl out there for you that will be as addicted to you as you are to her. I would tell this girl "look. I like you, a lot, and I've done all I can to turn this into something, but nothing has worked. At this point I think we should just go our separate way. No hard feelings." Then NC. That "FIRST MISTAKE" was not a mistake. She should respect the fact that you want to take it slow. If she doesn't, then she's not the one for you. Let this one go. If it was meant to be, the Universe will bring you two back together. She will come back to you. I don't think it is "meant to be" though. Every moment you spend on THIS girl is one less moment with THE girl. Drop THIS girl. Thanks. I saw it as a mistake, she never really mentioned about it. I knew this girl for almost my whole life. Don't even know how to approach the idea of not contacting her. I tried the other time and I always just broke it.
lifeunderground Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 No offense but you wouldn't committ for a YEAR?! I would've moved on too... Your only shot is to tell her you're ready for a commitment but don't expect her to want one... You might've lost her for good... For future reference don't get romantically involved with a girl until you're sure you're ready...
Author keeptryingormoveon Posted November 26, 2013 Author Posted November 26, 2013 No offense but you wouldn't committ for a YEAR?! I would've moved on too... Your only shot is to tell her you're ready for a commitment but don't expect her to want one... You might've lost her for good... For future reference don't get romantically involved with a girl until you're sure you're ready... Yeah, there's more to it but long story short, I didn't commit. Like I said, she gave us another chance and is trying. She still likes me but lost those feelings she had before. It seems like most of you are saying this it's over.
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