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Long story short I've known and made small talk with a girl I work with and the other day invited her to come with myself, my friend and his wife downtown to a feast we're going to.

 

I hadn't heard from this girl on a previous text I'd sent over a month ago to meet up.

 

All of a sudden the other day a woman I work with said that same girl must see us talking and probably thinks I'm "with" you as she looked her up and down and gave her a dirty look. (And she wasn't even talking to her.)

 

That same night (as the lady told me she looked at her and gave her a dirty look) out of the blue the girl I'd asked (before I asked her to go out downtown) sent me a text saying she was out at XXX. She'd never sent me a text first previously.

 

I decided to ask her if she'd like to come with myself, my friend and his wife downtown this saturday to which she replied: Sounds good to me. I can always meet you guys down there.

 

I told her I'd come and pick her up if she needed to get ready and she replied like 30 minutes later: I will let you know. And then gave the time she gets out of work on Sat.

 

I'm thinking from her responses at first might seem "good" but aren't really. Am I correct?

 

I'm thinking she's going to come up with an excuse or not bother. (As far as the meeting thing it's a packed feast so meeting up I'm not going to do as I'll be busy with friends..If she doesn't want me to pick her up I'd say it's a wrap.)

 

 

The thing I'm also wondering is why all of a sudden after the other lady said she gave her a dirty look is why that same night she'd mentioned she was at a place we talked about previously..Maybe just looking for attention and jealous I'm not chasing after her?

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Lol you care too much. Thats why she probably wont go out with you. Show her you don't care by saying "sorry bringing someone else" and stop talking to her. If you show her you have a life and options she might get with you. If you show her that you are gonna wait around for her all the time she'll never give you a shot. I hate guys who try to follow me around like a puppy.

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Lol you care too much. Thats why she probably wont go out with you. Show her you don't care by saying "sorry bringing someone else" and stop talking to her. If you show her you have a life and options she might get with you. If you show her that you are gonna wait around for her all the time she'll never give you a shot. I hate guys who try to follow me around like a puppy.

 

 

I don't chase. I texted the girl a month ago...I don't run up to her or anything. At times we make small talk if she passes by.

 

I've been asked by another women that work in her department if I had a girlfriend and if I liked anyone after I told them no.

 

I've also been told by another girl (who they must be all talking) that "Oh I forgot you don't need a girlfriend". When I told her I wasn't buying cologne for myself.

 

The same one in my department said she noticed the girl I like and the same one who aksed if I had a girlfriend all looking at her a week ago when she came in almost like they wanted to ask her something..

 

They might think I'm dating the woman in my dept..

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I think you got a good handle on this. If she really liked you, you would have heard something within a month, just out of respect.

 

Don't spend 10 seconds chasing her. If she does show up, give her a shot to see what her story really is, but stay distant for now.

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I think you got a good handle on this. If she really liked you, you would have heard something within a month, just out of respect.

 

Don't spend 10 seconds chasing her. If she does show up, give her a shot to see what her story really is, but stay distant for now.

 

 

I don't chase like I said.

 

I hear you. lol. The odd thing is as soon as the lady told me she gave her a really dirty look that night out of nowhere I get a text from her saying shes going to XXX.

 

If she says she'll meet us there I'm simply going to say don't worry about it. It'll be too crowded anyway and I'm going to be running around with friends. Maybe some other time. With a smile on my face.

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The one thing I'm wondering is why all of a sudden would she text me first out of the blue when she never did before after she saw the lady in my dept talking to someone in hers?

 

Possibly thinks I'm dating that one? Or there's others who might be "into" me?

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Any women with any reason or possible answer to the below?

 

The one thing I'm wondering is why all of a sudden would she text me first out of the blue when she never did before after she saw the lady in my dept talking to someone in hers (and gave her a pissed off look)?

 

Possibly thinks I'm dating that one? Or there's others who might be "into" me so she is simply feeling "less attractive" even though she may not have any real interest in me?

 

The girl I like is really attractive. Pretty cool to talk to too. Perhaps she is used to guys chasing her and sees that I'm not?

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I'm not a woman, but it sounds like all of the sudden she's interested in you after seeing you're "worthy" of another woman's interest. It's competition. That's my take on it anyway. If she's like this when you barely know her what do you think she will be like once you're in a relationship with her...if it comes to that. Just feel it out and see what happens.

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Sounds like it's game, but who knows. Just watch out for it.

Girls who are interested only when someone else, is nothing but drama

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She sounds like a complete flake. She's toying with you just to get a reaction out of you.

 

The fact that you made a thread about this and are psychoanalyzing why you got a text from her out of the blue pretty much confirms she got exactly the response she wanted.

 

Once you took the bait and invited her to this feast you're going to, you gave her exactly what she wanted and that's why she's cooled off once again.

 

Don't fall for it next time. You're just a toy to her.

 

Yep.

I've experienced the same thing from female co-workers.

They used to pull this crap all the time.

 

Until I dropped a ton of weight & looked like I do now in my avatar.

Then the worm turned.

 

Those co-workers who toyed with me all of a sudden legitimately wanted to get with me.

 

No thanks.

 

There are women out there who don't seek that kind of attention from guys they aren't interested in.

 

They are called quality women & I prefer to date them.

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Yep.

I've experienced the same thing from female co-workers.

They used to pull this crap all the time.

 

Until I dropped a ton of weight & looked like I do now in my avatar.

Then the worm turned.

 

Those co-workers who toyed with me all of a sudden legitimately wanted to get with me.

 

No thanks.

 

There are women out there who don't seek that kind of attention from guys they aren't interested in.

 

They are called quality women & I prefer to date them.

 

 

I hear you. To be honest in the past she has hinted at being out or going somewhere twice and I couldn't make it so this could be a kindof power play at not going plus it would be a first meet outside of work and with two of my friends. (I just thought I'd ask as the three of us were going) She might feel a little uncomfortable with that..

 

But I won't make excuses for her.

 

She did say she'd meet us down there but F that. I'm not playing where's waldo while I'm busy with friends.

 

I know there's going to be some excuse or I'll meet you there nonsense so I'm just going to tell her Don't worry about it..Maybe next time and leave it alone.

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Good, she sounds flaky.

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Flake - check

Drama - check

All About Herself - check

 

I would turn it on her. Tell her you're busy with someone else. Keep her guessing. Make her curious and want to know what you're up to.

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Flake - check

Drama - check

All About Herself - check

 

I would turn it on her. Tell her you're busy with someone else. Keep her guessing. Make her curious and want to know what you're up to.

 

 

That's why I'm positive I got a text that she was out at a place we talked about a few times in random conversation all of a sudden out of the blue. (She most likely thinks I got something going on with some other woman in my department and is looking for a "one up" as that same lady who's never talked with her said she gave her a dirty look the other day.)

 

I'm pretty sure from what I've heard and questions asked directly of me (from one other woman in her dept: Do you have a girlfriend? Do you like anyone? And Oh I forgot you don't need a girlfriend in another conversation with another girl in her dept.) that the girls in her department have been asking/talking about me.

 

There's another girl who works near me whom I've got her number as well yet no one knows. I'll wait a week and ask that one to go out.

 

She'll find someone else if she isn't playing the same nonsense with other dudes. I have a feeling that chicks like her are more into the types who treat them like jump offs....Because unfortunately for some girls..It's all they know.

 

She's gotta be out of her mind if she thinks I'm not on to the game of being used as some sort of "keep around". I'm ten steps ahead and have experienced far too much in life to have any girl run some weak game.

 

True I'm talking about it but typing it out and getting the replies is better than thinking about it. (Not that I'm dwelling on it because to be honest I've never texted her first until a while ago when she asked me to in person two seperate times.

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