trin250 Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 I tend to worry about little things very easily, so I want some outside opinions to see if there is a real cause for concern! I've been seeing this guy for almost a month now. He's super sweet, kind and a proper gentleman. I went out with him last night to dinner, and then we drove around for a bit after. We pulled over on a country road to just chat for bit and enjoy each other's company some more. We madeout for a bit and then held hands (he rubbed and kissed my hand:love:) and like I said he was just being really sweet. Normally after our dates he'd text me like right away (while he's driving back home) and we'd text back and forth until one of us said goodnight. He didn't text me last night, or this morning, but I knew that he had plans with his family and was going to be busy. It's not like him though to not text all day though! I'm probably being stupid and over-analysing, but I just want to know what you guys think.
MomsSpaghetti Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 I think you're being stupid and over-analyzing.
shexy Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Neither one of you should be texting and driving - that's pretty dangerous! 4
starrynightz45 Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 I would send him a text - nice way to show your interest!
sillyanswer Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Why don't you text him to say hello? Better yet, why not call him to say hello? 3
autumn2 Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 I'm in a similar situation (although I'm not worried), but I'm the guy in the situation. We had an awesome 2nd (official) date all day Saturday. Texted each other goodnight but we haven't communicated since (now Monday). I know she has an exam for uni on Wednesday, so thought I'd call her tomorrow night to see how she's doing. I think this is a good approach? As we are doing so well.
Lani Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Yes, you are over analyzing. Why don't you text him instead of waiting for him to text you?
Author trin250 Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 Oh I forgot to mention that I did text him this morning to thank him for the date, but he hasn't responded!
Lani Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Oh I forgot to mention that I did text him this morning to thank him for the date, but he hasn't responded! Oh. Well that is perhaps a little strange, but don't stress. I'm sure there is a good reason for it. He'll get in touch when he can.
QforLove Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 It's normal to wonder when behaviours change but this shouldn't be something to loose sleep over. Try and focus on something else besides when he's going to text. That should help!
Author trin250 Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 How many hours has it been since the date? It's going on 48 hrs. It's normal to wonder when behaviours change but this shouldn't be something to loose sleep over. Try and focus on something else besides when he's going to text. That should help! That's what I've been trying to do today, doesn't help that it's raining out and that always dampens my mood. Thanks for the advice though
clia Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Has it been your practice to "talk" (even if by text) every day?
AverageCat Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Why don't you try to text him first for a change? :O
Author trin250 Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 Has it been your practice to "talk" (even if by text) every day? Yup we haven't gone one day without exchanging at least one text. Well, except for yesterday now. I'm wondering if I should text him hello, or ask how his day has been? I know sending two texts in a row isn't smart but the text I sent yesterday wasn't really something to reply to. I'm used to him reading and not replying if what I sent didn't warrant a reply.
Author trin250 Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 Why don't you try to text him first for a change? :O For a change? We both initiate texts!! I was worried that I was bugging him at one point but he told me that he always likes to hear from me. This was about a week and a half ago. I knew he was busy yesterday so I didn't want to interrupt him while he was with his family. And now he's at work and I don't like to bug people at work. Should I text him when he gets off?
AverageCat Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 For a change? We both initiate texts!! I was worried that I was bugging him at one point but he told me that he always likes to hear from me. This was about a week and a half ago. I knew he was busy yesterday so I didn't want to interrupt him while he was with his family. And now he's at work and I don't like to bug people at work. Should I text him when he gets off? You should text him whenever you feel like it. If he's busy he'll answer later. Be communicative about your needs. Rather than hiding them. If he cares about you he'll try to AT LEAST meet you half way with these needs
Author trin250 Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 I knew something was off!! I texted him about two hours ago. He read it but hasn't replied. I wonder wtf happened?
Gottabestrong Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 I knew something was off!! I texted him about two hours ago. He read it but hasn't replied. I wonder wtf happened? Who knows? I am sorry, I remember how this feels, especially the not-knowing what happened part, but I really recommend you don't contact him anymore. You have now sent him two messages, which he has read but not replied to either. Plus it has been a few days already since you last heard from him. None of this sounds good. My advice would be to delete his number at this point and not contact him anymore. If you can't move on without knowing what happened or at least hearing from him one more time, I would suggest the following: Wait one week to see if maybe he contacts you again. If not, send him a short, friendly, non-confrontational email, in which you say that you can tell he is no longer interested and you accept that, you are just wondering if you did or said something that made him change his mind about you. Be as nice and casual about is as possible if you want a reply. I hope I am wrong and you will hear from him soon with a good explanation about what happened and why he has been ignoring you for a few days. Good luck! 1
SoulJazzBlues Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 You've sent him two texts spaced over two days, he hasn't replied. The ball is in his court. No point in deleting his number because I assume you either a)know it off by heart or b) have it stored somewhere anyways. Just go about your life, be busy, see other people. It hasn't been that long enough to warrant you to freak out. If he responds and he had no real good excuse to ignore your texts, I think you should be wary.
Author trin250 Posted June 11, 2013 Author Posted June 11, 2013 My advice would be to delete his number at this point and not contact him anymore. If you can't move on without knowing what happened or at least hearing from him one more time, I would suggest the following: Wait one week to see if maybe he contacts you again. If not, send him a short, friendly, non-confrontational email, in which you say that you can tell he is no longer interested and you accept that, you are just wondering if you did or said something that made him change his mind about you. Be as nice and casual about is as possible if you want a reply. I hope I am wrong and you will hear from him soon with a good explanation about what happened and why he has been ignoring you for a few days. Good luck! I've already deleted his number! I have pretty strong control so I can definitely hold back on contacting him again. I just feel really stupid for some reason. On Friday, he told he had "deep feelings for me", he wanted to introduce me to his family. Like I don't understand how someone could do a 180 like this. I know he's fully ignoring because even when he was swamped with work he would send a short text (even just a smiley or a kiss emoticon) every so often. You've sent him two texts spaced over two days, he hasn't replied. The ball is in his court. No point in deleting his number because I assume you either a)know it off by heart or b) have it stored somewhere anyways. Just go about your life, be busy, see other people. It hasn't been that long enough to warrant you to freak out. If he responds and he had no real good excuse to ignore your texts, I think you should be wary. I definitely will be wary if he does respond, but I don't think he will. I was a lot more upset about this yesterday than I am today. What's up with guys telling you how much they like you and stuff (he would randomly text me things like "hey wife :)" and call me "my beautiful trin250") and then just disappearing. What makes it worse is that I didn't even like him at first and was going to end it after the 1st date, but I thought I was being superficial and decided to give his personality a chance.
Author trin250 Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 So.... he texted me back. I feel like I'm in highschool again -___________-
autumn2 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 So.... he texted me back. I feel like I'm in highschool again -___________- So what did he say?
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