Mrlonelyone Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Finally I was able to give someone a valentine and have it go over well. :bunny::love: 8
todreaminblue Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Finally I was able to give someone a valentine and have it go over well. :bunny::love: woot woot congrats.....yay....deb
Author Mrlonelyone Posted February 11, 2013 Author Posted February 11, 2013 (edited) Here are the details. As I was leaving the common room to go to lunch she was entering. Through a very brief exchange of words we agree'd to talk latter. In this age of "hanging out as dating" that's basically a date right there. We hung out for a while and I gave her the book. She was very happy to recieve it. We talked about physics and flirted in ways that are worthy of the big bang theory. I asked for her plain old # didn't get it but between the various electronic forms of communication and all the hanging out we do getting that would be like declaring ourselves official. She actually said she's afraid that if she gave me her number their would be some matrix multiplication going on. :love: I am just on cloud nine right now. Edited February 11, 2013 by Mrlonelyone 1
Author Mrlonelyone Posted February 11, 2013 Author Posted February 11, 2013 can't tell if serious. Yes I'm serious. Then we really did flirt like total geeks in front of everyone.
sillyanswer Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 She actually said she's afraid that if she gave me her number their would be some matrix multiplication going on. :love: I am just on cloud nine right now. There's definitely a transformation joke in here somewhere... Anyway, congrats. 2
Author Mrlonelyone Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 There's definitely a transformation joke in here somewhere... Anyway, congrats. Ha ha yeah. Well. Now it's my turn to sit back and let her make a concrete move towards me if she has genuine interest.
LittleTiger Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Ha ha yeah. Well. Now it's my turn to sit back and let her make a concrete move towards me if she has genuine interest. Good to see you're having fun and feeling hopeful about this friendship. I'm just curious - what qualifies as a concrete move? Remember, she might not do what you want or expect, so be yourself and make sure she is clear about your interest in her. So far, so good - you are hanging out and having fun. At some point one of you will need to step it up a notch and you can't assume that's going to be her. 1
Author Mrlonelyone Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 (edited) Good to see you're having fun and feeling hopeful about this friendship. I'm just curious - what qualifies as a concrete move? Remember, she might not do what you want or expect, so be yourself and make sure she is clear about your interest in her. So far, so good - you are hanging out and having fun. At some point one of you will need to step it up a notch and you can't assume that's going to be her. First of all I'm pretty sure she knows I'm interested in her. I'm pretty sure after yesterday we are more than friends. She relates to me in a totally different way than she does any other male I've personally seen her with. What constitutes a concrete move? Have you ever heard of the five love languages? Any one of these things would be that for me. "The Five Love Languages" Explained Words of Affirmation Quality Time Gifts Acts of Service Physical Touch Thinking about it we kind of do all of that for eachother already. We just haven't labeled it a relationship. Oh my god. I'm in a casual relationship of some kind. WTH? Edited February 12, 2013 by Mrlonelyone
MidwestUSA Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Yes I'm serious. Then we really did flirt like total geeks in front of everyone. If only I'd had someone in college who wanted to discuss Schrodinger's equation. Heavy sigh........... Happy, happy for you! 1
Author Mrlonelyone Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 (edited) Just a hunch but you might be reading too much into what for most people is just normal social interaction between acquaintances. Did you see the thread this is updating?http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/372778-held-hands-felt-spark-literally I have never done, seen or heard of mere acquaintances doing that. I gave them a gift during Valentines week and they accepted it. They liked it. Ergo it stands to reason they like me at least a little better than an acquaintance. If only I'd had someone in college who wanted to discuss Schrodinger's equation. Heavy sigh........... Happy, happy for you! Penn's caution isn't totally wacky. I guess there is a small chance she just sees me as a friend and nothing more. For all I know she could give the book back and tell me to cool it off. Rather than sit and think of ways that things can be bad, for once I can radically accept what is and what I have and have it be a good thing when it comes to relationships. Edited February 12, 2013 by Mrlonelyone
LittleTiger Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 First of all I'm pretty sure she knows I'm interested in her. I'm pretty sure after yesterday we are more than friends. She relates to me in a totally different way than she does any other male I've personally seen her with. What constitutes a concrete move? Have you ever heard of the five love languages? Any one of these things would be that for me. "The Five Love Languages" Explained Words of Affirmation Quality Time Gifts Acts of Service Physical Touch Thinking about it we kind of do all of that for eachother already. We just haven't labeled it a relationship. Oh my god. I'm in a casual relationship of some kind. WTH? Yes, I know all about the five love languages. It's a wonderful framework for strengthening bonds within a relationship. Just be careful not to assume anything from her behaviour. The first four on that list could just as easily be things that friends (just friends) do for each other. Even the fifth is something a lot of people do with people they consider close friends. Sexual touching speaks for itself of course! My caution was really about waiting for her to make a move. She might not. When you want something in life, the best way to get it is to take action, not wait for someone else to do it for you. This girl clearly likes you a lot, the next step is to find out just how far her feelings go, and in what direction. I wouldn't worry about labelling it anything either, especially not a casual relationship which usually suggests sex without commitment. If you haven't yet had sex it is a friendship with sexual attraction - a great basis for a relationship. You are in an awesome place. The early days of a blossoming love are very special. I hope it works out exactly as you want it to.
Author Mrlonelyone Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 Yes, I know all about the five love languages. It's a wonderful framework for strengthening bonds within a relationship. Just be careful not to assume anything from her behaviour. The first four on that list could just as easily be things that friends (just friends) do for each other. Even the fifth is something a lot of people do with people they consider close friends. Sexual touching speaks for itself of course! I wouldn't worry about labelling it anything either, especially not a casual relationship which usually suggests sex without commitment. If you haven't yet had sex it is a friendship with sexual attraction - a great basis for a relationship. Your cautions about that are well taken. Just trust me we are certainly more than "just friends." Not a couple per se...but not "just friends" either. To me the term "casual relationship" doesn't suggest sex. I use it to mean this. A casual relationship, or casual dating, is a physical and emotional relationship between two people who may have a sexual relationship or a near-sexual relationship without necessarily demanding or expecting the extra commitments of a more formal romantic relationship. - Casual relationship - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia I think that describes us to a T. You are in an awesome place. The early days of a blossoming love are very special. I hope it works out exactly as you want it to. I hope so. My caution was really about waiting for her to make a move. She might not. When you want something in life, the best way to get it is to take action, not wait for someone else to do it for you. This girl clearly likes you a lot, the next step is to find out just how far her feelings go, and in what direction. The thing is I've given her a gift on Valentines week. Knowing her like I do, what I need to do now is give her time to breath and process what has occurred. She will either respond in some way or she will not.
LittleTiger Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 She will either respond in some way or she will not. Fingers crossed for you then! Keep us posted.
Author Mrlonelyone Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 Fingers crossed for you then! Keep us posted. Thanks. If she did not feel that way at least to a degree I would hope she would have let me know it in very clear terms right then and there. It would have been heartbreaking and humiliating but I would have accepted it with just as much grace. I'd be on here crying...but I'd accept it. <written with wet eyes>Not that I feel entitled but isn't it about time I had some good news to report? For all I try, for as open to possibilities as I am. Even a bad luck gambler breaks even some nites, even a broken clock is correct twice a day. It's not like I am totally devoid of sex appeal and good personal qualities.</wet eyes> I know better than that.
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