miss_jaclynrae Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 DB and I went to a hip hop show downtown last night and for the first time in our relationship I got all done up. Short dress, heels, the whole thing. He normally sees me in sweats and boots, so it was a big change, and I guess I wanted to prove to him that I CAN indeed be sexy. That being said, he made a joke as we were leaving asking if I was going to bring a blanket. I was taller than him, and I think he was a little thrown off by my whole look. No, he didn't ask me to change, but he definitely told me I may be more comfortable in jeans. Anywho, I guess I am curious as to how many men would feel uncomfortable going out with their SO dressed scantily clad? Would it matter if you were going out with her vs her going out alone?
KungFuJoe Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 I love when my wife dresses a bit "slutty". I'm usually trying to get her to switch jeans for a mini skirt or a short dress...not the other way around. That being said...where were you going? Was it outside...gonna be cold? I mean, he may have just genuinely been concerned for your comfort.
veggirl Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Heels make me either the same height or slightly taller than my bf. He has never said anything really. He loves when I wear dresses and skirts, which is often maybe 1/2 the time with heels and 1/2 with bootie boots or sandals. I get dressed up a lot because I like to. So I guess he is used to that. I don't know about scantily clad though...I mean my dresses go to like mid thigh or maybe a little longer, idk if that is scantily clad...? I just know he likes when I am dressed up He likes when I'm casual in jeans too.
amaysngrace Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 I live at the shore so every guy I've ever been with better be okay with me wearing a bikini...whether he is there or not.
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 I love when my wife dresses a bit "slutty". I'm usually trying to get her to switch jeans for a mini skirt or a short dress...not the other way around. That being said...where were you going? Was it outside...gonna be cold? I mean, he may have just genuinely been concerned for your comfort. It was inside, and I really think he was worried about me standing out too much, "overdressing" so to speak. Of course he was concerned about me being comfortable, but I know a part of him was a little put off by what I was wearing. Not to mention I was about 6'2" in my heels and he is about 6'. Usually, the guys I have dated LOVED it when I dressed a little slutty, so it is a little bit of a change of pace for me! Granted, the age difference may be a contributing factor. He didn't make me feel uncomfortable, but I found his reaction entertaining.
KungFuJoe Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 It was inside, and I really think he was worried about me standing out too much, "overdressing" so to speak. Of course he was concerned about me being comfortable, but I know a part of him was a little put off by what I was wearing. Usually, the guys I have dated LOVED it when I dressed a little slutty, so it is a little bit of a change of pace for me! Granted, the age difference may be a contributing factor. There a big difference here. Was he concerned about you not dressing APPROPRIATELY? Or was he concerned that you were dressing too slutty? Difference being that if you were going to a classy affair and you showed up in **** me boots, a black leather miniskirt, and a tank top (which is ****ing hot, btw)...but if you were headed out a dive bar or something he would be completely ok with.
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 How old is he? Younger? Older? Older. He is 31, I am 22. There a big difference here. Was he concerned about you not dressing APPROPRIATELY? Or was he concerned that you were dressing too slutty? Difference being that if you were going to a classy affair and you showed up in **** me boots, a black leather miniskirt, and a tank top (which is ****ing hot, btw)...but if you were headed out a dive bar or something he would be completely ok with. Both. It was a hip hip show, located downtown in a very popular strip of dive bars.
amaysngrace Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Maybe he just was uncomfortable with your hotness? My BIL gave my sister crap before they were married because of what she was wearing to a family party once and he wanted her to change. She told him no. They're happily married. So if he starts getting on you about what you wear, stand your ground and don't give in. Ever.
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 Maybe he just was uncomfortable with your hotness? My BIL gave my sister crap before they were married because of what she was wearing to a family party once and he wanted her to change. She told him no. They're happily married. So if he starts getting on you about what you wear, stand your ground and don't give in. Ever. LOL That could be it! He wouldn't dare actually ask me to change, HELL NO. I don't put up with that at all. I had a guy I once dated literally tell me he wasn't taking me out until I changed my shorts. Ever since then... NEVER again.
amaysngrace Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 LOL That could be it! He wouldn't dare actually ask me to change, HELL NO. I don't put up with that at all. I had a guy I once dated literally tell me he wasn't taking me out until I changed my shorts. Ever since then... NEVER again. Good for you! The thing is it wasn't even his family function...it was ours. In summer. But yeah I think that's it. It was probably his comfort level that was compromised even though he made it seem like he was concerned about yours.
KungFuJoe Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Older. He is 31, I am 22. Both. It was a hip hip show, located downtown in a very popular strip of dive bars. Remember, how you dress is an "extension" of yourself. From the way you dress, I take it you are a very sexual, sensual person, who doesn't mind attention on herself, and is very confident with how she looks. If he is more conservative than you are, you have to ask yourself if you are ok with being with a conservative man...and if you also are ok with someone who is uncomfortable with the way you express yourself. So it comes down to you choosing to dress and express yourself differently, or you find someone who appreciates you for how you want to be. I reread what I wrote and I guess I might have been a bit too "extreme". I guess just look for tell tale signs of confidence issues, etc. It's MY experience that men who don't like their women to dress sexy (as long as it's appropriate for the situation) have confidence issues.
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 Remember, how you dress is an "extension" of yourself. From the way you dress, I take it you are a very sexual, sensual person, who doesn't mind attention on herself, and is very confident with how she looks. If he is more conservative than you are, you have to ask yourself if you are ok with being with a conservative man...and if you also are ok with someone who is uncomfortable with the way you express yourself. So it comes down to you choosing to dress and express yourself differently, or you find someone who appreciates you for how you want to be. I have no problem being with him, and I LOVE the way he is. Totally makes sense though, he really doesn't like to have a lot of attention, which is why I could see him feeling a little put off with me going out in my outfit. He has never asked me to change though, and I really DON'T normally dress like that. I was actually doing it for him and myself. I hate being so frumpy all the time.
Fondue Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Personally, I don't care what a woman wears. Hell, a short skirt is sexy as hell. I love it. Interesting question though: Do you care what your man wears? Would it bother you if the guy dressed in terrible, outdated fashion? Would you make a comment? LIke, next time you go out to a fancy place, you wear a nice skirt, makeup, etc., and he comes out wearing something like this: http://geektyrant.com/storage/2011-post-images/austinpowers.jpg?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1323816411939 Would you care? Would you say something?
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 Personally, I don't care what a woman wears. Hell, a short skirt is sexy as hell. I love it. Interesting question though: Do you care what your man wears? Would it bother you if the guy dressed in terrible, outdated fashion? Would you make a comment? LIke, next time you go out to a fancy place, you wear a nice skirt, makeup, etc., and he comes out wearing something like this: http://geektyrant.com/storage/2011-post-images/austinpowers.jpg?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1323816411939 Would you care? Would you say something? Yes. I would. Then again, my man has impeccable taste. He actually changed what he was wearing so we would BOTH be dressed up.
todreaminblue Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 You were dressing fro him and yoruself, I do this in a relationships too, i love getting dressed in long flowy dresses, soft fabrics bright colors, which sometimes makes me stand out, i dress that way because i love feeling feminine,my ex didnt mind my fashion sense, he liked the fact i dressed that way, sexy isnt the look i set out to achieve, have to reign the puppies in a bit,in saying that I would be truly disappointed if a guy i was dating didnt like my style..it is mine whether i fit in or not..I would however takes his likes into consideration and dress for a function in what he liked,if a guy finds you sexy the length of the skirt isnt the reason why he finds you sexy.....obviously the guy is with you cares about you, i think adjusting style isnt such a bad thing.....deb
Fondue Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Yes. I would. Then again, my man has impeccable taste. He actually changed what he was wearing so we would BOTH be dressed up. You misunderstood my point. In a previous post, you said that he would dare not to tell you to change, indicating that you'd be pissed if he did. He wouldn't dare actually ask me to change, HELL NO. I don't put up with that at all. I had a guy I once dated literally tell me he wasn't taking me out until I changed my shorts. Ever since then... NEVER again. Wouldn't it be a little unfair for you to tell him to change (if this was ever the case, my example was merely that, an example), yet you would be so adamant about not changing yourself?
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 You misunderstood my point. In a previous post, you said that he would dare not to tell you to change, indicating that you'd be pissed if he did. Wouldn't it be a little unfair for you to tell him to change (if this was ever the case, my example was merely that, an example), yet you would be so adamant about not changing yourself? I see your point. I would be upset if he told me to change, due to me looking too HOT. Him asking me to change because I look ridiculous and dweeby is completely different. In a case like that, I WOULD change.
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 DB and I went to a hip hop show downtown last night and for the first time in our relationship I got all done up. Short dress, heels, the whole thing. He normally sees me in sweats and boots, so it was a big change, and I guess I wanted to prove to him that I CAN indeed be sexy. That being said, he made a joke as we were leaving asking if I was going to bring a blanket. I was taller than him, and I think he was a little thrown off by my whole look. No, he didn't ask me to change, but he definitely told me I may be more comfortable in jeans. Anywho, I guess I am curious as to how many men would feel uncomfortable going out with their SO dressed scantily clad? Would it matter if you were going out with her vs her going out alone? Bolded. You gotta be kidding. If your avatar pic is what you mean by dressing sexy, Holy Sh@t. Yea, I wouldn't want you to if you were my GF. I'd have to deal with idiotic comments from d@uchebags challenging me all night. Seriously though. You're pretty nice and humble for someone who is so hot. I've never approached a woman in your league.
MrCastle Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 I prefer her to dress classy. Like some have said, I'd have concerns about how people perceive her, or the comments she'd get if she wasn't dressed appropriately.
candie13 Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 I actually like it when the guy I am seeing is dressed more low key. He is working in a fancy office and gets the shirt & suit all the time. I really fancy him when he's all jeans and hoodie style during the weekend. As for him, I put on a lovely silk top, a nice pair of high heeled boots and a naughty little skirt, yesterday, for my night with the girls. We caught up for a drink after dinner and I can tell you he looooved my look, haha! I just love the beginnings of a relationship, when the guy gives you the puppy eyes look and his face lights up when he sees you do the sexy walk ... 1
tigressA Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 I can't remember any guys I've dated having an issue with how I dress. I don't have much in the way of 'hot girl' clothing--the super-tight, super-short dresses/skirts, very low-cut tops--so I almost never dress that way. I tend to be more demure since I get uncomfortable with a lot of overt attention.
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 Bolded. You gotta be kidding. If your avatar pic is what you mean by dressing sexy, Holy Sh@t. Yea, I wouldn't want you to if you were my GF. I'd have to deal with idiotic comments from d@uchebags challenging me all night. Seriously though. You're pretty nice and humble for someone who is so hot. I've never approached a woman in your league. That is sweet, but I don't usually post pics of myself when I am NOT all done up, and that is usually how I am with him. Makeup is an amazing thing, as well as knowing how to dress oneself. Funny you mention not wanting me as your girlfriend, my boyfriend said the same things almost! Only is was more like "I am serious though, if anyone grabs your ass I am going to have to beat them up." I prefer her to dress classy. Like some have said, I'd have concerns about how people perceive her, or the comments she'd get if she wasn't dressed appropriately. Examples? Would you have a problem with her getting attention from other men? I actually like it when the guy I am seeing is dressed more low key. He is working in a fancy office and gets the shirt & suit all the time. I really fancy him when he's all jeans and hoodie style during the weekend. As for him, I put on a lovely silk top, a nice pair of high heeled boots and a naughty little skirt, yesterday, for my night with the girls. We caught up for a drink after dinner and I can tell you he looooved my look, haha! I just love the beginnings of a relationship, when the guy gives you the puppy eyes look and his face lights up when he sees you do the sexy walk ... My man looks sexy all the time. It isn't fair.
KungFuJoe Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 The sexier and sluttier, the better. As long as it isn't tacky. I've been with women who dressed VERY provocatively...getting all sorts of looks and comments...and I LOVED IT. An ex of mine once wore a translucent "plastic" skin tight and short as hell outfit to a goth club. It basically looked like she was wearing blue saran wrap. Yeah, anything goes in those places, but she was still getting looks and stares and one guy even came up to me and said, "You are one lucky guy!". My first gf was very conservative. Didn't wear make up, didn't own a pair of heels. Everything was jeans, shorts, and regular tops. NOT for me.
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 That is sweet, but I don't usually post pics of myself when I am NOT all done up, and that is usually how I am with him. Makeup is an amazing thing, as well as knowing how to dress oneself. Funny you mention not wanting me as your girlfriend, my boyfriend said the same things almost! Only is was more like "I am serious though, if anyone grabs your ass I am going to have to beat them up." Well, I'm too small to beat other guys up. But even if I were bigger, it's just not something I want to deal with. I prefer girls 'cuter' than you. No offense. I think all the women here think us bitter guys all go after women like Miss J and avoid the average gals. I think that's pretty far from the truth.
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