Maneater Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 I've been talking to new guy I met OLD for almost 3 hours everyday for a week. I'm not usually the type who believes in love at first sight (haven't met yet) or thinks LDR work. HOWEVER, the conversations with this new guy is the best I've had in my entire LIFE. Better than any ex, fling, etc. He equally feels the same. We both agreed we've never been this serious so soon with anyone before. We have video chatted everyday also so I know who I am actually speaking to He literally lives on the opposite side of the US from me but plans on coming in a month. I totally believe that he will- as we both looked at dates and flights online together. We've only started talking for a week now. He just switched to a new job and is moving half hour away (showed me video of his packed boxes) so he said he doesn't want to ask for time off the first week at his new job. My question: Is him coming here in a month too long?? If he really likes me as much as he says, should it have been next weekend? Is this reasonable?
charlietheginger Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Why dont u go fly and see him tonight i mean you like him alooooot? Serious u expect a guy to drop everything hes doing fly Across the usa to meet a girl off the internet? U have no idea this guys agenda he might be banging 5 Diff women.
Author Maneater Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 Why dont u go fly and see him tonight i mean you like him alooooot? Serious u expect a guy to drop everything hes doing fly Across the usa to meet a girl off the internet? U have no idea this guys agenda he might be banging 5 Diff women. good point. I'm broke and man should fly first Possibly but no live in GF since he's on video chat for hours with me everyday.
charlietheginger Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 good point. I'm broke and man should fly first Possibly but no live in GF since he's on video chat for hours with me everyday. Maybe he is broke ? Moving near you for work?
Author Maneater Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 Maybe he is broke ? Moving near you for work? He has decent job. Didn't plan on moving across the coast but of course he's saying he would for me. Hahaha we'll see. It's not like I'm committed to him either. I'd obviously wait to commit to him until he actually moves here.
SilentVoice Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 good point. I'm broke and man should fly first Possibly but no live in GF since he's on video chat for hours with me everyday. Man should fly first? Is god finally giving us wings? 1
charlietheginger Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 He has decent job. Didn't plan on moving across the coast but of course he's saying he would for me. Hahaha we'll see. It's not like I'm committed to him either. I'd obviously wait to commit to him until he actually moves here. Your talking about a guy you have chatted online with for a week packing up and moving cross country to be with You and you never met this guy? Any guy that skyps with a girl for a week packs his boxes Says he is moving cross country to be with you is a weirdo Hate to say it but true. Others will agree
mortensorchid Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Caution for the LDR, please! Don't expect anything too serious if you do. Traveling to see one another is one thing, but there will be that moment when one of you has to cash in their chips and say it's time to take it to the next level. I've learned my lessons, but I hope you have a better time than I have.
Author Maneater Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 Your talking about a guy you have chatted online with for a week packing up and moving cross country to be with You and you never met this guy? Any guy that skyps with a girl for a week packs his boxes Says he is moving cross country to be with you is a weirdo Hate to say it but true. Others will agree yes I completely see your point. IF this guy is so willing to move, then he must be crazy or desperate as well. And we actually discussed that together so far. We're both at IN BETWEEN points in our careers. With his, he can relocate anywhere. I actually do feel like moving to his city b/c I HAVE NOTHING left in my city, been here my entire life. Could potentially work remotely since I work at home but I HAVE NOT TOLD HIM THAT YET. haha bc I would still prefer for him to come here since I'm closer with my family than he is. we were both highly skeptical of each other bc we're like 'no, you're too good to be true'. If its worth anything, we are also both of a certain ethnicity where we prefer a particular SUB CATEGORY which is hard to find. Of course, this could all explode in my face and I'll be posting later that he's some drug addict or something. lol. I'm strong emotionally so I'm not concerned about getting my heartbroken. I may come on here to complain but thats about it
Author Maneater Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 Caution for the LDR, please! Don't expect anything too serious if you do. Traveling to see one another is one thing, but there will be that moment when one of you has to cash in their chips and say it's time to take it to the next level. I've learned my lessons, but I hope you have a better time than I have. Thanks for reply. Good advice also. In my previous post, I would be willing to move pending things go well in the months ahead with him but I am just keeping quiet about it since I'd prefer him to still move. hahah.
carhill Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 My question: Is him coming here in a month too long?? IMO, practically speaking, for most people, that's reasonable and not too long. A healthy existing/potential relationship can stand the test of time. If I were feeling particularly romantic, I would arrange things to happen around V-day, which is slightly less than a month away. 1
LittleTiger Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 One month is just fine. My guy and I had to wait two months. A 12,000 mile trip across the world, and three weeks off work needs a bit of notice - and planning. It's great that you get on so well with one another. Just be careful not to expect too much. You might find it hard to believe but there is always the possibility that you will meet and not feel attracted to one another in person - yes, it does happen. Look forward to spending some time together as friends, which is what you currently are, and if the sparks fly when you meet - go for it!
Cutiepie1976 Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 good point. I'm broke and man should fly first Possibly but no live in GF since he's on video chat for hours with me everyday. Broke from purchasing the giant dildos described in your other thread, Maneater? On a serious note, be careful about building up expectations so high that you get disappointed by the reality when you finally meet. It's hard to measure up to a fantasy you may have inadvertently built in your head from your Skype sessions. 1
Author Maneater Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 One month is just fine. My guy and I had to wait two months. A 12,000 mile trip across the world, and three weeks off work needs a bit of notice - and planning. It's great that you get on so well with one another. Just be careful not to expect too much. You might find it hard to believe but there is always the possibility that you will meet and not feel attracted to one another in person - yes, it does happen. Look forward to spending some time together as friends, which is what you currently are, and if the sparks fly when you meet - go for it! Thanks for everyone's reply! Yes will try not to get too excited
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