Unplugging from the Loveshack Matrix

[kaylan]

I havent been posting much lately...partly because of the crappy phone Ive been using as a main phone (non-smartphone), and partly because I work 40 hrs a week, go to the gym 4 days a week, and see a really awesome girl once or twice a week.

 

Once you really start to get back on the dating saddle, or simply get back into the swing of meeting new people (male or female), you start to see that a good share of the stuff you read on LS is straight bunk. Its over-analytical, mental masturbatory bunk.

 

I see guys of various colors, shapes and sizes with women of various colors, shapes and sizes. I see the best of whats said on this forum, and the worst of whats said on this forum. All in all, yes some of the things people complain about here are true....but I also see the opposite situations. You just see that in the real world, life is highly varied, and that men and women dont fit into the neat little packages ascribed to them the negative folk on this board.

 

Im experiencing a great new girl right now...and as far as I can tell, shes a catch. Shes cooked for me, shes very generous in bed, shes thoughtful and kind, and shes always saying something about me that makes me feel good about myself. Things are still in the early stages, but as we get to know each other and see if we fit right, I notice how different this situation is from how some dudes and gals here describe typical male-female dynamic. There are no games here, no push-pull crap, no drama regarding other guys, no bs about money....and most of all, shes very concerned about me having a positive opinion of her because she wants us to stay as good as we are.

 

Before anyone tries to say anything about looks, or status, or whatever else. Im average height, average looks, average job, and in good shape. Though I definitely know sex appeal plays a large part in many situations, including mine, I also know that this new chick was very intrigued by a good guy who was "unique and interesting" in her view.

 

All this being said, I dont even bother to check this site much aside from the politics section anymore. Not to say that many of the threads dont hold some merit, but I feel a lot of the conversations here, especially ones Ive taken part in, really read way too much into things. All this negative garbage about men hating women, women hating men, being too old for love at 30, stupid race threads, whining about status...etc...etc...etc....its all just crap that keeps you from living life.

 

Dont even fixate on the negative bull crap. Highlight your attributes and run with it. I tell that to the girl Im seeing because shes insecure about certain things. I told her "why care about all of that? Fix what you can with hard work, while also highlighting the best things about you...but dont sit and focus so much on things you deem negative about yourself. **** it, have confidence in who you are...because you should be able to see the girl I see."

 

You are who you are, people are who they are. Quit worrying about life and just live it. Unplug from the LS matrix...because some of you really take what people say here too seriously...and the real world isnt like this website.

Edited December 24, 2012 by kaylan

[charlietheginger]

See you back in 3/4 months when your single

And lonley again

[MrCastle]

See you back in 3/4 months when your single

And lonley again

 

Stole what I was gonna say. Damnit.

 

Anyway, I agree. It's nice to go out and experience life

[veggirl]

Well yeah getting sucked into those gender threads and whatnot is pointless, I have nooooo idea why so many people do it, over and over again. Like you literally see the same people arguing the same points in 20 threads about the same fking thing. lol it's stupid. I pretty much only post on threads from people asking for specific advice about specific situations.

 

It makes LS much more enjoyable I think.

[kaylan]

See you back in 3/4 months when your single

And lonley again

Technically Im still single now. But even if Im without this current gal in a few month, I wont be lonely. Im resourceful and I have good friends. And finding a chick to spend time with isnt as hard as some make it out to be tbh.

 

But thanks for posting.

Edited December 24, 2012 by kaylan

[MrCastle]

But thanks for posting.

 

I feel like you're being sarcastic.

[johan]

The original post is great, and it describes my point of view and almost my situation as well. I'm also seeing someone who doesn't have a cynical bone in her body. Zero games. Zero distrust. She's really a solid person.

 

See you back in 3/4 months when your single

And lonley again

 

It could happen. To me or kaylan. But in spite of whatever pain or confusion we might go through, it won't lead either of us to become misogynistic at all. Not all disappointment leads to bitterness or cynicism, especially when you know that there really are good women out there, and you know that quality relationships are out there to be had if you are a quality person and work on keeping a good attitude.

[edgygirl]

Alright... for my defense I just want to say I'm new here and was shocked by the hate against women posts I've seen in the past couple of weeks, that's why I initiated that thread I think everyone is referring to... I wanted to find out what the deal was. Sorry if it was repetitive, how would I know. Great post kaylan, good luck!

 

Well yeah getting sucked into those gender threads and whatnot is pointless, I have nooooo idea why so many people do it, over and over again. Like you literally see the same people arguing the same points in 20 threads about the same fking thing. lol it's stupid. I pretty much only post on threads from people asking for specific advice about specific situations.

 

It makes LS much more enjoyable I think.

[Nightsky]

I disagree with 100% of what I read here including all your posts. What is this LoveShack Matrix you speak of. Also all this redpill talk sounds like more of the same crap I see spouted on here. Take the real redpill I'm waiting for you on the other side of political correctness.

[Green Light]

Good luck helps one to have a positive outlook.

[Pyro]

I havent been posting much lately...partly because of the crappy phone Ive been using as a main phone (non-smartphone), and partly because I work 40 hrs a week, go to the gym 4 days a week, and see a really awesome girl once or twice a week.

 

Once you really start to get back on the dating saddle, or simply get back into the swing of meeting new people (male or female), you start to see that a good share of the stuff you read on LS is straight bunk. Its over-analytical, mental masturbatory bunk.

 

I see guys of various colors, shapes and sizes with women of various colors, shapes and sizes. I see the best of whats said on this forum, and the worst of whats said on this forum. All in all, yes some of the things people complain about here are true....but I also see the opposite situations. You just see that in the real world, life is highly varied, and that men and women dont fit into the neat little packages ascribed to them the negative folk on this board.

 

Im experiencing a great new girl right now...and as far as I can tell, shes a catch. Shes cooked for me, shes very generous in bed, shes thoughtful and kind, and shes always saying something about me that makes me feel good about myself. Things are still in the early stages, but as we get to know each other and see if we fit right, I notice how different this situation is from how some dudes and gals here describe typical male-female dynamic. There are no games here, no push-pull crap, no drama regarding other guys, no bs about money....and most of all, shes very concerned about me having a positive opinion of her because she wants us to stay as good as we are.

 

Before anyone tries to say anything about looks, or status, or whatever else. Im average height, average looks, average job, and in good shape. Though I definitely know sex appeal plays a large part in many situations, including mine, I also know that this new chick was very intrigued by a good guy who was "unique and interesting" in her view.

 

All this being said, I dont even bother to check this site much aside from the politics section anymore. Not to say that many of the threads dont hold some merit, but I feel a lot of the conversations here, especially ones Ive taken part in, really read way too much into things. All this negative garbage about men hating women, women hating men, being too old for love at 30, stupid race threads, whining about status...etc...etc...etc....its all just crap that keeps you from living life.

 

Dont even fixate on the negative bull crap. Highlight your attributes and run with it. I tell that to the girl Im seeing because shes insecure about certain things. I told her "why care about all of that? Fix what you can with hard work, while also highlighting the best things about you...but dont sit and focus so much on things you deem negative about yourself. **** it, have confidence in who you are...because you should be able to see the girl I see."

 

You are who you are, people are who they are. Quit worrying about life and just live it. Unplug from the LS matrix...because some of you really take what people say here too seriously...and the real world isnt like this website.

 

Sounds good. Best of luck to you and anyone who has something negative to say about you are obviously envious of you. I guess that you can take that as a positive.

[Anela]

The original post is great, and it describes my point of view and almost my situation as well. I'm also seeing someone who doesn't have a cynical bone in her body. Zero games. Zero distrust. She's really a solid person.

 

 

 

It could happen. To me or kaylan. But in spite of whatever pain or confusion we might go through, it won't lead either of us to become misogynistic at all. Not all disappointment leads to bitterness or cynicism, especially when you know that there really are good women out there, and you know that quality relationships are out there to be had if you are a quality person and work on keeping a good attitude.

 

Well, she was lucky to meet a man who's so good for her, and basically decent. I know you mentioned before that she hadn't always been treated so well. I wasn't that cynical until a couple of years ago - I'd felt it as a kid, and mostly lost the feeling as I grew up, when I softened and was open to meeting someone. I don't see it happening for me, but I still feel happy for others.

[veggirl]

Alright... for my defense I just want to say I'm new here and was shocked by the hate against women posts I've seen in the past couple of weeks, that's why I initiated that thread I think everyone is referring to... I wanted to find out what the deal was. Sorry if it was repetitive, how would I know. Great post kaylan, good luck!

 

No way girl, I didn't mean your thread at all! Stick around and you'll see a million of those started by the same people.....and then the same other people arguing in them. LOL. They do it knowing what they are doing.

[SmileFace]

If a poster who had a less than favorable dating past posted this. I may have been like, oh Great! However you always seem to have had you ducks in order and was more here for the heck of it. Anywho I don't wish you come back lonely - since it didn't seem like you was before. But I wouldn't want anyone to be here for that matter. Anywho.. However come back to write more stuff I probably won't read. It is good having a leveled point of view on the forum.

[todreaminblue]

Best of luck kaylan, happy xmas and have a great year in 2013 loaded with laughs good people and good times.....hugs....deb

[kaylan]

I disagree with 100% of what I read here including all your posts. What is this LoveShack Matrix you speak of. Also all this redpill talk sounds like more of the same crap I see spouted on here. Take the real redpill I'm waiting for you on the other side of political correctness.

*kanye shrug*

Good luck helps one to have a positive outlook.

True. Though even before I met this chick I have stated the same things on this website. I just like being optimistic.

[dreamingoftigers]

Oh shoot.

 

I really liked having you on here Kaylan.

 

A lot of times I would be reading a thread thinking "gotta say xyz" then I would see you posted it and often more articulately than I would have.

 

Then I would sit back and think, "whew, glad someone said it and that it was Kaylan. He carries more credibility than a lot of posters around here."

 

And true about the negativity in the dating section. It's like wanting to say to a lot of these guys: "No, it really isn't your wallet/height/car/looks, it's the fact that you think it's all about your wallet/height/car/looks and that means you aren't even trusting that there would be a quality girl out there that would care about you as a human being, so you really aren't looking for her actively or sensibly, and somehow that's her fault."

[KungFuJoe]

I came to LS mainly for the sex sub forum. But I gravitated to the dating section out of curiosity and I like to compare it to watching a train wreck. You just can't peel your eyes away.

 

I now understand why reality shows are so popular. They are ANYTHING but reality but they "play" as one and people watch it for the drama.

[angie2443]

I liked having you around to, Kaylan. Your views are very balanced and you are one of the many people on this site that I think will do well in life:)

 

Good luck with your dating life and good luck with everything else!

[Els]

Glad everything's going great for you, kaylan.

 

I gotta admit there was a time I took everything I read here way too seriously, and that was to my detriment and even my relationship's. Once I started taking everything with a huge handful of salt, it got much better. A few of the people here are really great to talk to and give amazing advice - and that's why I'm still here, I guess. Take care and best of luck, whatever you choose to do!

[Art_Critic]

You can never leave, they always come back...

 

I come here just to raz Johan and give him a hard time

[Art_Critic]

I think unplugging from anything in life from time to time can be a good thing, that is why we have vacations, to leave work at work and spend time with family, friends with no worries on our minds.

 

Many people unplug from FB too.. or even the internet.

 

Back in the day we used to unplug by turning off our beepers

[ThaWholigan]

Good luck Kaylan, I'm rooting for you .

 

I need to do some unplugging myself, some of the nonsense I read on here is hilarious . I should really do what Veggirl does and stay out of most of it!

[Woggle]

I agree with the OP. The majority of men and women are not the way they are with some elements of this forum. Thank god for that. I think there are many good men and women on here though who sometimes get drowned out by the bitter people.

[phineas]

So wait, OP is a regular here?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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