ThaWholigan Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I was talking to my brothers about girls and how girls seem to want him more since he has a GF. It made me think about something I read that girls like the dudes with the most options. It got me thinking - is it bad if a guy gives off the aura that he is "pre-selected" or assumes pre-selection? I'm guessing it's something else that is correlated that acts as a prerequisite to pre-selection. What do you think?
ja123 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Do you mean that you want to pretend that you're seeing someone, so as to have more women interested in you? From my point of view, I'd not be interested in a man who was already in a relationship. However, I can see how some women might feel more comfortable or interested in a guy who has a GF. In the sense that the GF is like a reference for a job applicant, if you get what I mean. In other words, it's like,"OK, this man must be good, he's got a GF who'd vouch for him." That kind of thing.
MrCastle Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I think pre-selection definitely helps in being successful. For whatever reason, the people that are rewarded are the ones that get rewarded, if that makes sense. I believe that pussy leads to more pussy. Look at award shows where they hand out goodie bags containing thousands of dollars in merchandise to celebrities who are already rich and famous. The Superbowl gives the MVP a new car. Winning the superbowl, the superbowl mvp, and being a highly paid athlete are not enough. We just live in a culture where we reward people who don't need extra perks. Very few people are interested in helping out the little guy. People see single lonely people and say "why are they single/lonely? something must be wrong with them--well, I don't want to stick around and find out". They see a guy at a bar with women draped on his arm laughing and say "Wow this guy must be awesome. women love him. I'll give him a shot" It's the same reason girls get burned by players. As much as they're going to come in here and deny doing it or come in here and say they're different--it's extremely common in the dating world. Most girls want to hook up with guys who are seen hooking up with other women. I think women have a strong sense of smell and they love the smell of other vaginas on a man. I also think part of it is men who are in relationships and/or good with women either 1.) have more confidence or 2.) are perceived as such. Women are drawn to confidence/the perception of confidence. 2
Author ThaWholigan Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 Do you mean that you want to pretend that you're seeing someone, so as to have more women interested in you? From my point of view, I'd not be interested in a man who was already in a relationship. However, I can see how some women might feel more comfortable or interested in a guy who has a GF. In the sense that the GF is like a reference for a job applicant, if you get what I mean. In other words, it's like,"OK, this man must be good, he's got a GF who'd vouch for him." That kind of thing. Not that he was in one, but that he had the air of a man who was in one - or that he had a vibe that said to you that other women like him or he probably has options and therefore is an attractive individual. I actually think this works on a subset of girls - I just don't know now many. I'm curious to how attractive this is. I recall how many girls suddenly became more openly interested in me after I had gotten laid - even though hardly anybody knows outside of people I talk to very regularly. It was like I was giving off some kind of aura, like something changed and now I was a more attractive individual than before. I didn't know what it was or whether it was confidence, but I think it may be pre-selection.
january2011 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I agree with ja123. I wouldn't be interested in a man who is spoken for. I also like to think that all quality women would agree with us. That is, girls who are decent would not go for guys who are taken. Having said that, if you are not after decent girls, then perhaps you can disregard my post! 2
xdahliax Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I think women have a strong sense of smell and they love the smell of other vaginas on a man. W..T...F... It depends on the woman. In response to MrCastle's point about men being more attractive when surrounded by women: I think women are more likely to go for a man that has women around him because 1) he's charismatic or 2) he's attractive, which explains why other women would be around him. Personally, attached men have never been attractive to me. I see whether or not they're good looking and I see aspects of their personality that I like, but I don't even consider it for one moment. If the friend zone exists, they're automatically put into it.
Author ThaWholigan Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 I agree with ja123. I wouldn't be interested in a man who is spoken for. I also like to think that all quality women would agree with us. That is, girls who are decent would not go for guys who are taken. Having said that, if you are not after decent girls, then perhaps you can disregard my post! It depends really. Some would straight up want the taken guy - while others may not want him at all, but if he wasn't taken but seemed like he had options and had an air of not being desperate because he knows women like him.......
xxoo Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 It's the chicken and the egg--are they attracted because you have a woman, or do you have a woman because you are attractive? We don't act exactly the same in all situations. We interact differently in subtle and not-so subtle ways. If you can figure out how as taken guy acts and adopt that, it might just work.
xdahliax Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 It depends really. Some would straight up want the taken guy - while others may not want him at all, but if he wasn't taken but seemed like he had options and had an air of not being desperate because he knows women like him....... I think most men and women have many options, it's the air of desperation bit that we struggle with.
MrCastle Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 W..T...F.... Hey don't kill the messenger. I don't blame you girls. Vagina has an intoxicating aroma. Anyways; Who, I agree. My success with women has been a snowball effect. Once I got that first smell of success, women were sprouting up everywhere. The more women I was seen with, the more women wanted me. They would find a sexy text in my phone or a picture of a girl in my phone and ask about them and in my head I'd be like "uh oh; busted"...but instead they'd just proceed to want me, if not want me even more. I think some of them like the idea of having to beat out other women in order to get to the man. But there also is some real stuff going on here below the surface. I recall one time when I was out with my friends, we went to this pizza place, and the girl behind the counter was hot. So, I assume me and my single friends were staring at her awkwardly with our tongues out like most single men do when they see a hottie, and my other friend who has a girlfriend (she wasn't there at the time) places his order and starts singing to the song being played, completely ignoring the girl behind the counter. She then says "oh you like this band? So do I; we should totally check them out sometime" and my friend said "sorry, I have a girlfriend."--There have been several occasions where he had to turn down women because he has a girl. My assumption is because when he sees girls in the street, he just completely ignores them. Not on purpose, but he's in love with his girl so looking at another one doesn't really do anything for him. He's also able to be a great wingman because he isn't shy when talking to women since he knows nothing will come from it--he has a confidence usually men who are in relationships have. 1
veggirl Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Not that he was in one, but that he had the air of a man who was in one - or that he had a vibe that said to you that other women like him or he probably has options and therefore is an attractive individual. I actually think this works on a subset of girls - I just don't know now many. I'm curious to how attractive this is. I recall how many girls suddenly became more openly interested in me after I had gotten laid - even though hardly anybody knows outside of people I talk to very regularly. It was like I was giving off some kind of aura, like something changed and now I was a more attractive individual than before. I didn't know what it was or whether it was confidence, but I think it may be pre-selection. I actually think it would work on a lot of girls, and that's not a criticism at all. It's human nature to want what other people have/be intrigued by something everyone else likes. (never heard this term pre-selection though)
january2011 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 It depends really. Some would straight up want the taken guy - while others may not want him at all, but if he wasn't taken but seemed like he had options and had an air of not being desperate because he knows women like him....... I have learned through bitter experience to avoid the guy who has too many female friends and the guy who has lots of "options." He's not a prize worth having or fighting for. I'm too long in the tooth to fight another woman or a gaggle of women for a man. His heart is either mine, or it's not. 2
ja123 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Not that he was in one, but that he had the air of a man who was in one - or that he had a vibe that said to you that other women like him or he probably has options and therefore is an attractive individual. I actually think this works on a subset of girls - I just don't know now many. I'm curious to how attractive this is. I recall how many girls suddenly became more openly interested in me after I had gotten laid - even though hardly anybody knows outside of people I talk to very regularly. It was like I was giving off some kind of aura, like something changed and now I was a more attractive individual than before. I didn't know what it was or whether it was confidence, but I think it may be pre-selection. Well, I think that if you have other options, or are pre-selected, then that'd give you more confidence, not unlike what you experienced after you got laid, perhaps. How does one go about giving women the impression that one is pre-selected? And is it because you are? How would you communicate that, then? IMO, if a guy talks to me about his other options, then I feel he is not interested, I've been friend-zoned, or that he is a full-of-himself braggart. Or, both!
todreaminblue Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I was talking to my brothers about girls and how girls seem to want him more since he has a GF. It made me think about something I read that girls like the dudes with the most options. It got me thinking - is it bad if a guy gives off the aura that he is "pre-selected" or assumes pre-selection? I'm guessing it's something else that is correlated that acts as a prerequisite to pre-selection. What do you think? I think it makes it difficult for someone who is truly interested if they give off an aura of unavailability definite issues in regards to conscience....deb
SmileFace Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Yes I go around smelling guys hands and mouth for trace smells of vagina. However I don't like attached guys - I see no reason to be second best. 3
Author ThaWholigan Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 Hey don't kill the messenger. I don't blame you girls. Vagina has an intoxicating aroma. Anyways; Who, I agree. My success with women has been a snowball effect. Once I got that first smell of success, women were sprouting up everywhere. The more women I was seen with, the more women wanted me. They would find a sexy text in my phone or a picture of a girl in my phone and ask about them and in my head I'd be like "uh oh; busted"...but instead they'd just proceed to want me, if not want me even more. I think some of them like the idea of having to beat out other women in order to get to the man. But there also is some real stuff going on here below the surface. I recall one time when I was out with my friends, we went to this pizza place, and the girl behind the counter was hot. So, I assume me and my single friends were staring at her awkwardly with our tongues out like most single men do when they see a hottie, and my other friend who has a girlfriend (she wasn't there at the time) places his order and starts singing to the song being played, completely ignoring the girl behind the counter. She then says "oh you like this band? So do I; we should totally check them out sometime" and my friend said "sorry, I have a girlfriend."--There have been several occasions where he had to turn down women because he has a girl. My assumption is because when he sees girls in the street, he just completely ignores them. Not on purpose, but he's in love with his girl so looking at another one doesn't really do anything for him. He's also able to be a great wingman because he isn't shy when talking to women since he knows nothing will come from it--he has a confidence usually men who are in relationships have. My brother is short and now balding. He's had GFs since nursery . Every new term all through school he had a new one. Some of them still talk to him. My 2 other brothers on my father's side are both like me in build - tall, dark, decent build. Same deal with them. Lost it early, since then girls always seem to be around them. I have another half brother who is short and does very well with girls too - particularly white girls . They are probably the biggest examples of pre-selection I can think of. In the world of attraction, it never worked out for me because I didn't put myself out there like that or know how to be attractive. Girls did like me, but I assume that is because I'm somewhat decent looking. Only way it worked for me was professionally - people always came to me for my music.
Author ThaWholigan Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 Well, I think that if you have other options, or are pre-selected, then that'd give you more confidence, not unlike what you experienced after you got laid, perhaps. How does one go about giving women the impression that one is pre-selected? And is it because you are? How would you communicate that, then? IMO, if a guy talks to me about his other options, then I feel he is not interested, I've been friend-zoned, or that he is a full-of-himself braggart. Or, both! My guess is that it's communicated non-verbally to a large degree. A man who talks about his options is either lying or overcompensating for something else. 2
MrCastle Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Yes I go around smelling guys hands and mouth for trace smells of vagina. Fighting. Urge. To. Make. This. Signature. 5
Author ThaWholigan Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 I actually think it would work on a lot of girls, and that's not a criticism at all. It's human nature to want what other people have/be intrigued by something everyone else likes. (never heard this term pre-selection though) I picked up the term from a book I read called "The Tao Of Badass". A friend sent it to me a while back.
tigressA Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I'm not interested in taken guys or guys who seem to get a lot of action. I'm actually more interested in guys who haven't been intimate with anyone for awhile, or ever. I like being the one to break a dry spell or 'take' someone's virginity (I've been the first for two guys I dated); everything tends to be more intense that way. The last guy I had a fling with, I was really turned on when I found out he hadn't had sex in 6 months. 1
jobaba Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I'm not interested in taken guys or guys who seem to get a lot of action. I'm actually more interested in guys who haven't been intimate with anyone for awhile, or ever. I like being the one to break a dry spell or 'take' someone's virginity (I've been the first for two guys I dated); everything tends to be more intense that way. The last guy I had a fling with, I was really turned on when I found out he hadn't had sex in 6 months. Then LS should be a gold mine for you... 6
tigressA Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Then LS should be a gold mine for you... :lmao: With their attitudes? I think emphatically not. The guys I was with who fit the inexperienced bill didn't constantly whine about it and/or blame women for it. 3
Anela Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I have learned through bitter experience to avoid the guy who has too many female friends and the guy who has lots of "options." He's not a prize worth having or fighting for. I'm too long in the tooth to fight another woman or a gaggle of women for a man. His heart is either mine, or it's not. I've always felt this way, even in school. 1
Author ThaWholigan Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 :lmao: With their attitudes? I think emphatically not. The guys I was with who fit the inexperienced bill didn't constantly whine about it and/or blame women for it. Precisely... It goes to show you - once you eliminate that bitter part it all becomes easier. 1
MrCastle Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 :lmao: With their attitudes? I think emphatically not. The guys I was with who fit the inexperienced bill didn't constantly whine about it and/or blame women for it. Lol I'm sure they said things to themselves or amongst their friends. Precisely... It goes to show you - once you eliminate that bitter part it all becomes easier. Once you get laid it becomes easier.
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