jamesbob Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 backstory: I was with this girl for 5 years, on and off we broke up a couple times, always her decision. Whole time we were doing this she has a guy friend who she considers one of her best friends, note this guy is a hardcore Christian beta virgin. Note at this point I had no game at all and I was also a fairly strong beta, no boundaries, always backed down to her except when I was angry with her etc. We broke up in February of this year(her: not in love with you blah blah), two weeks later she's dating Christian beta guy(her friend for 5 years, also was my friend too before this happened btw). I stop talking to her for five months. Offer her to come to the beach with me for a week in August and she accepts(As you can see I have some oneitis here, but I think I am getting over it), Christian BF obviously dislikes this but she doesn't care. We didn't **** on this trip but I did get a BJs and I fingered her a couple times, she has no issues walking around naked in front of me, taking showers etc. Note at this point she has done nothing but make out with Christian BF for the past 5 months(for example he thought it was wild of her to send him a phone pic of her fully clothed ass from work, he has never seen her naked). (Note I didn't do any better, it was over a year before I even fingered her LOL) I see her again a couple weeks later and nothing happens over two days spent together. Then I start reading PUA sites and books and blogs etc....... initially because I decided I wanted to get her back but now I have gotten so far engrossed in this stuff I am planning on going for my 2nd bang ever(ex-gf was my first bang, and only thus far) this coming weekend at an opportune event. This is why I state I think I am getting over my oneitis, it doesn't seem so bad to me that I should find some new girls to bang and I can let the ex go with her Christian beta bf. However! In the past month I have banged her 5 times in the two times she has come over here+ other various sexual acts have transpired in my bed. Not trying to be lewd here, I just want to communicate properly the events so you more experienced folks can tell me her frame of mind. So the last time she was here, we were in bed, she was on top of me and I was sucking her tits while she was texting her boyfriend telling him she loves him and misses him and can't wait to see him in a few days.(!) Note the reasons we broke up I feel are entirely my fault for supplicating and not standing my ground against her. The first night after I tried some of the pua stuff I read on heartiste we ****ed three times and she kept telling me how she was a horrible girlfriend and asking me what was wrong with her while simultaneously continuing to ride me hard and flicking the bean. Christian BF constantly tells her he loves her misses her and the only words she has for him to me are how he is so respectful and sweet.(basically the reason she broke up with me, I'm not sure how a beta loses to another beta). Anyway, given this information, what do you think is a likely outcome between she and I, presuming I am open to taking her back obviously? If she ****s him, I won't of course, but otherwise I may take her back but I am really lost as to where to go.
Woggle Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 Why do you want this woman as your girlfriend? She doesn't seem to be any good.
Author jamesbob Posted September 25, 2012 Author Posted September 25, 2012 Why do you want this woman as your girlfriend? She doesn't seem to be any good. She's physically attractive, and I invested a lot of time into her, for example she is wearing some of my money on her ears. Also let me add, the day she started dating her Christian BF, she called me up crying about how he thinks they were dating and she's terrified their friendship is ruined. She basically started dating him because he thought they were an item and she was not attracted to me enough to tell him LJBF.
Woggle Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 So you want to waste more time and potentially money? Consider it a lesson learned also if she looks good that is not enough. If you want to have some fun go ahead but she is not relationship material.
CptObvious Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 It's not a waste if you're enjoying what you're paying for. Nothing in this world is free.
utterer of lies Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 She's physically attractive, and I invested a lot of time into her, for example she is wearing some of my money on her ears. Sunk costs. So the affair might seem like an adventure full of sex and crazy things now, but at the end of the day, she values christian guy more than you. Also, you should not believe a single thing she tells you about him, or them. I am sure you will ignore all the advice you get here, but I'm also pretty sure that you will regret that in the future.
Author jamesbob Posted September 25, 2012 Author Posted September 25, 2012 Thanks guys for taking the time to respond, I appreciate it So you want to waste more time and potentially money? Consider it a lesson learned also if she looks good that is not enough. If you want to have some fun go ahead but she is not relationship material. Sounds like you have the right idea about how I'm approaching the situation now. Sunk costs. So the affair might seem like an adventure full of sex and crazy things now, but at the end of the day, she values christian guy more than you. Also, you should not believe a single thing she tells you about him, or them. I am sure you will ignore all the advice you get here, but I'm also pretty sure that you will regret that in the future. I am serious about overcoming the oneitis, for example I have stopped paying for her whenever we do anything, in fact she paid for everything the last time. She lives 30 minutes away and I never travel to her area nowdays, she always has to come here or I will not consider seeing her. Given your responses, it isn't looking good for me ending up with her in the future then?
loveunlimited Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 She's physically attractive, and I invested a lot of time into her, for example she is wearing some of my money on her ears. Also let me add, the day she started dating her Christian BF, she called me up crying about how he thinks they were dating and she's terrified their friendship is ruined. She basically started dating him because he thought they were an item and she was not attracted to me enough to tell him LJBF.This girl has integrity, honesty and dignity written all over her. Unfortunately, it's someone else's bodysuit. If you can't think of deeper, longer-lasting, more intense reasons for wanting to be with her - stop using her for sex. You gave her gifts. get over it, they're hers anyway, and they're not important. she is cheating on mr innocent Christian virgin "i'm waiting until I marry" and he's in for a huge disappointment. and what's all this 'beta' crap? for christs sake, you're a randy young bloke and she's good for sex. She's a FWB. You have no emotional attachment to her, it would appear, other than her being a great place to plunge your pecker. Don't mess with her head. Dump her, and let her sort her own problem with the other guy. If all you want it to whet your whistle, you can find plenty of ONS in bars. Leave this alone, it's trouble waiting to happen. and you are partly responsible for that.
Author jamesbob Posted September 25, 2012 Author Posted September 25, 2012 Well I can't edit the title to make it more interesting, bleh. Her Christian BF is in for a huge disappointment and I will be laughing with glee when he gets it too. I'm really just interested in how do a situation like mine will usually end. If it ends up she's gone then that's fine, if I end up with her that's fine too.
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