Necris Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Not sure if I worded the title correctly, but I was just wondering do you often times mistake someone's niceness as a sign of romantic interest? For me if a woman is nice to me I always for some reason think she is interested in me romantically, now don't get me wrong niceness is great I just find it funny how easily I misinterpret signals it also makes things very awkward when I get rejected, sometimes I wish there was a device that could help me see other people's romantic interest and feelings towards me it would make things so much easier.
MrCastle Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 I live my romantic llife under the belief that if she smiles, laughs at my jokes, even so much as says hello in friendly fashion, she wants the D 1
somedude81 Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Yeah it happens to me. Though as MrCastle expressed, there really is no reason not to think that she's into you. Ask her out anyways. If she rejects you can always do
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 I don't know about niceness, but I used to mistake a woman being flirty, suggesting activities the two of you should do or playing with her hair or laughing at your (bad) jokes meant she was interested. Now I know the truth.
SJC2008 Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Some women are just genuinely nice. I love that quality in a women but those are the hardest to tell bc they're nice to everyone.
GirlontheLam Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 I am nice. This happens to me, some people mistake it as flirting.... 1
Author Necris Posted August 28, 2012 Author Posted August 28, 2012 Yeah it happens to me. Though as MrCastle expressed, there really is no reason not to think that she's into you. Ask her out anyways. If she rejects you can always do gotta admit that video was pretty awesome:lmao: 1
WhatsMyName Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 I am one of those "overly" nice women, I try to be kind to everyone... and so i wonder if I am giving off the right hints. I mean, i am nicer to him... but unless he sees me with everyone else, he wouldn't know. I am working on upping my game and not playing it safe anymore. Its confusing when men are nice too, because I keep thinking, why are they so nice to me? Do they like me or are they just nice? 1
AD1980 Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 I very rarely appraoch women but the few times i do and she seems into the conversation and isnt giving me a look of disgust i dellusionally think or hope its a sign she likes me
sweetheart5381 Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 I generally make it crystal clear that I am interested. As in, I will invite him to a party, invite him into the hot tub, etc... I will pursue a man now. I will kiss him first as long as I feel it will be reciprocated. I am "nice" to everyone But I am especially nice with those that pique my interest. There is a definite difference, and most men will eventually figure it out. The man I am seeing is still trying to figure it out Women are complicated creatures I guess! (But not really )
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 As a woman, I never mistake niceness for romantic interest. I operate like this: unless a man asks me out on a date, I assume no romantic interest, regardless of anything else. 1
carhill Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 Do you ever mistake niceness for romantic interest? Historically, no; I see friendliness for what it is. I have, however, mistaken obvious flirtation, meaning sexual comments, physical touching, etc for romantic interest. I've mistaken a few people who told me they loved me for actually loving me. No one's perfect. Don't beat yourself up. Regardless of 'signals', if your approach is rejected, accept that and move on. IMO, there's no 'formula'. The more you're rejected, the more you learn. Once in awhile, things click. That's kinda fun.
threebyfate Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 No. I assume friendliness unless he gets creepy about it.
mortensorchid Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 Unfortunately that's happened to me quite a bit. That's why I've learned to not be so friendly to others. Quite honestly the world is full of lonely people, and when you are friendly to someone who is obviously lonely they will misinterpret this as romantic interest. It could be someone on their level, or they direct it to an unavailable person in their lives (a teacher, a doctor, a minister, etc.) or even on a celebrity. And then there are those who can and will take information about you (even something trivial like "my favorite color is blue") and use it against you. Because they can and will, because they are lonely, jealous and insecure. The only answer is to keep a sort of sheild up between you and others, because you will know where you stand with all of them. At a slight distance, because of you let people in too close, you will end up getting hurt. And it doesn't just mean in the romance department either.
somedude81 Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 Unfortunately that's happened to me quite a bit. That's why I've learned to not be so friendly to others. Quite honestly the world is full of lonely people, and when you are friendly to someone who is obviously lonely they will misinterpret this as romantic interest. It could be someone on their level, or they direct it to an unavailable person in their lives (a teacher, a doctor, a minister, etc.) or even on a celebrity. And then there are those who can and will take information about you (even something trivial like "my favorite color is blue") and use it against you. Because they can and will, because they are lonely, jealous and insecure. The only answer is to keep a sort of sheild up between you and others, because you will know where you stand with all of them. At a slight distance, because of you let people in too close, you will end up getting hurt. And it doesn't just mean in the romance department either. Sounds like it must be pretty horrible to be a woman.
SunandMoon Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 Not sure if I worded the title correctly, but I was just wondering do you often times mistake someone's niceness as a sign of romantic interest? For me if a woman is nice to me I always for some reason think she is interested in me romantically, now don't get me wrong niceness is great I just find it funny how easily I misinterpret signals it also makes things very awkward when I get rejected, sometimes I wish there was a device that could help me see other people's romantic interest and feelings towards me it would make things so much easier. I sometimes thought this was the case as well, too, think it is just a difficult thing to read. Playfulness will get me sometimes as well; because I flirt, a lot. And then that sometimes gets me in trouble with people and they think I like them romantically (extremely rare.) But a bigger problem is that I am super attracted to niceness, so yeah, that may be a pitfall as well. And honestly what Mortensorchid said is a bit true; the lonlier you are the more you misinterpret things, I guess due to wishful thinking.
todreaminblue Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 Not sure if I worded the title correctly, but I was just wondering do you often times mistake someone's niceness as a sign of romantic interest? For me if a woman is nice to me I always for some reason think she is interested in me romantically, now don't get me wrong niceness is great I just find it funny how easily I misinterpret signals it also makes things very awkward when I get rejected, sometimes I wish there was a device that could help me see other people's romantic interest and feelings towards me it would make things so much easier. i worry about this recently actually i start to doubt what my heart tells me because people say it to me that guy is so nice....key word nice......and when i hav ehad three people tell me this it becomes me against three well me and myheart who never misleads me so i am going crash test dummy style and following my heart....but slowly.... a slow crash test dummy.....i am always th efirst at something .....so i am inventing that title....smiling.....sort of smiling its more a twitch..... mind is ticking with the word nice guy.......im the romantic .....makes you wonder....stuff it ....back to following my heart:rolleyes: heeeelp lol crash test dummy just lost an arm
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