louise_23 Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 i have known this guy for about 3yrs. hes one of those geeky types. ive always been quite fond of him as hes such a harmless person. in comparison im quite confident and hes quiet. quite a while ago he kissed me when i was leaving our friends house. i was suprised and left quite fast. we sort of kept in touch and occasionally ran into eachother now and again. he walked me home when he saw me out drunk once and spent an entire night helping me deal with my friend who was drugged up and aggressive, despite having to be at work in the morning. we ended up spending the tail end of new yr together chatting and whatever. he sent me a message saying it was great hanging out etc. we messaged for a bit ans as usual, lost contact. i ran into this guy again about a week ago and we had a rather drunken conversation about dating eachother. in the morning i woke up to a drunken message about him hoping we would go on a date. i replied saying something along the lines of see how you feel when youve sobered up, but i meant what i said last night. and....nothing!! im guessing we wont speak again for a while like usual. im giving up as far as anything actually happening goes, but im a bit frustrated about my inability to read this guy. opinions welcome..?
d'Arthez Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 in the morning i woke up to a drunken message about him hoping we would go on a date. i replied saying something along the lines of see how you feel when youve sobered up, but i meant what i said last night. and....nothing!! He read the bolded part as "Dude, don't go there."
Author louise_23 Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 He read the bolded part as "Dude' date=' don't go there."[/quote'] wow. i didnt mean it that way. but i never trust a drunk text!
Author louise_23 Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 "see how you feel when youve sobered up" may be taken as "I'm not interested". You got to communicate interest to him. In plain English, you should to make the next move. i did do this during the conversation the night before. quite blatantly actually. to do it again might be a bit...intense. i think? i dont know...
d'Arthez Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 i did do this during the conversation the night before. quite blatantly actually. to do it again might be a bit...intense. i think? i dont know... When you were both drunk (or about to get drunk). Chances are he does not remember the precise details.
shorty7 Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Just text him out of the blue during the middle of the day when he's not drunk: "So, about that date we discussed. How's Wednesday night? I haven't seen The Avengers <or insert any other geeky movies you think he might like> yet, was wondering if you wanted to go. Call me back!"
Author louise_23 Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 When you were both drunk (or about to get drunk). Chances are he does not remember the precise details. yeah good point You will do it again if you're interested. Right now he thinks your not. Are you interested? i was. and kind of wondering about it. but i feel its getting a little weird now. this charade has been lathered rinsed and repeated almost. Just text him out of the blue during the middle of the day when he's not drunk: "So, about that date we discussed. How's Wednesday night? I haven't seen The Avengers <or insert any other geeky movies you think he might like> yet, was wondering if you wanted to go. Call me back!" insert other geeky movies made me laugh. great advice, but im not sure he actually likes me this way. hes incredibly different drunk than sober. i know myself ive backed myself into situations i didnt really want to be in the next day by being an agreeable drunk!
d'Arthez Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 great advice, but im not sure he actually likes me this way. hes incredibly different drunk than sober. i know myself ive backed myself into situations i didnt really want to be in the next day by being an agreeable drunk! When drunk, people tend to lose their inhibitions. When sober, he might not say such a thing, because of the inhibition. Remove said inhibition (by suggesting you are willing to date), and it is quite likely he will act.
shorty7 Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 The Avengers is kind of what's out there now that's probably the easiest excuse for a girl to meet halfway with a geek...it's a good enough movie that if he's seen it already, he'll still go with you and see it twice if he's interested in you. If he hasn't seen it, well, I really don't see why he won't go with you... it's a geek movie so he'll likely let his guard down a little and be more open to more options afterwards. And if it doesn't work out that way, you've spent two hours feasting your eyes on Robert Downey, Jr., Chris Evans, Mark Ruffalo, Chris Hemsworth, Jeremy Renner, and Tom Hiddleston. Hardly a lose-lose. 1
truth_seeker Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 Just talk to the guy if you like him. Take a chance. Be brave. Be bold. Guy will probably love the fact you're into him.
Author louise_23 Posted May 22, 2012 Author Posted May 22, 2012 When drunk' date=' people tend to lose their inhibitions. When sober, he might not say such a thing, because of the inhibition. Remove said inhibition (by suggesting you are willing to date), and it is quite likely he will act.[/quote'] i suppose..i might get knocked back now though. ahhhh. The Avengers is kind of what's out there now that's probably the easiest excuse for a girl to meet halfway with a geek...it's a good enough movie that if he's seen it already, he'll still go with you and see it twice if he's interested in you. If he hasn't seen it, well, I really don't see why he won't go with you... it's a geek movie so he'll likely let his guard down a little and be more open to more options afterwards. And if it doesn't work out that way, you've spent two hours feasting your eyes on Robert Downey, Jr., Chris Evans, Mark Ruffalo, Chris Hemsworth, Jeremy Renner, and Tom Hiddleston. Hardly a lose-lose. this made me laugh. good advice. Just talk to the guy if you like him. Take a chance. Be brave. Be bold. Guy will probably love the fact you're into him. do you think? i wish i had the balls to. but i dont..
LittlePrince Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 i have known this guy for about 3yrs. hes one of those geeky types. ive always been quite fond of him as hes such a harmless person. in comparison im quite confident and hes quiet. quite a while ago he kissed me when i was leaving our friends house. i was suprised and left quite fast. we sort of kept in touch and occasionally ran into eachother now and again. he walked me home when he saw me out drunk once and spent an entire night helping me deal with my friend who was drugged up and aggressive, despite having to be at work in the morning. we ended up spending the tail end of new yr together chatting and whatever. he sent me a message saying it was great hanging out etc. we messaged for a bit ans as usual, lost contact. i ran into this guy again about a week ago and we had a rather drunken conversation about dating eachother. in the morning i woke up to a drunken message about him hoping we would go on a date. i replied saying something along the lines of see how you feel when youve sobered up, but i meant what i said last night. and....nothing!! im guessing we wont speak again for a while like usual. im giving up as far as anything actually happening goes, but im a bit frustrated about my inability to read this guy. opinions welcome..? You should have just accepted the date if you wanted it. You denied him and even when drunk people still can maintain memories.
Author louise_23 Posted May 22, 2012 Author Posted May 22, 2012 You should have just accepted the date if you wanted it. You denied him and even when drunk people still can maintain memories. i agree. ahh im learning slowly arent i. big sigh!!
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