Predicting sexual compatibility

[chic_one]

I’ve been seeing this new guy who is 10 years old, he’s in his early thirties and I am in my early twenties. We’ve done our fair share of kissing recently, but nothing has really escalated. At first I didnt really feel butterflies, or excitement when we’re making out (I think that’s because in a way I was thinking what the hell are we doing here?) but recently I’ve felt a little more. I’m nervous to take things up because I fear we might not be sexually compatible, especially because he is shy, respectful (not a bad thing by any means but it seems like he just doesn’t try anything more because he’s scared of being inappropriate maybe?) and he is also kinda nerdy.

 

So. Should I just ask him what he’s thinking about in regards to “us?” From the kissing alone, does this sound like we’re already sexually incompatible? If so, should I just let it die down and not even try to pursue the bedroom? Is this an age thing, or a lack of experience issue? I just wish I knew what he was thinking; I feel it’s too soon to be this unsure about compatibility.

[kaylan]

Theres no guessing. Only trial and error.

 

Sometimes things hit off right away, sometimes it takes a little work. If you try for a bit and it doesnt work, then you will have your answer for sure.

[chic_one]

I'm scared of an awkward sexual aftermath, I'm shy already and he is too so if it were bad I'm not sure how we'd deal with it.

[kaylan]

If it was bad then youd get over it like adults and work to make it better. If it didnt get better, then youd break up and move on amicably...like adults.

 

Feel me?

[chic_one]

Kaylan, you're right. I don't know why I'm making this into such a big deal. I guess I just need to stop trying to predict everything, just experience and go from there. Thx.

[phineas]

I just ask.

A woman who isn't comfortable talking about sex & what she does/doesn't do & what she wants from a guy isn't someone i'd be compatible with sexually.