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Sharing my experience of having lunch yesterday with five single late 20's ladies

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They were all single, 2 were OK looking and 3 were genuinely attractive (the kind that if you saw them on the street, you might be inclined to do a double take)

 

Those of you might remember this thread I wrote earlier this year

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/313588-my-awesome-breakthrough-experience-tonight-read-blessed

 

1 of those girls was also at lunch with me yesterday. So, I met them after church service in the lobby yesterday. (PRAISE THE LORD! lol). I specifically was going to meet Tiffany, the one that was posted about in the thread above. She's leaving to Africa next week for 3 weeks to visit her sponsor children. Very admirable. I did a mission trip to Africa in 2010. So the reason we were meeting is because I was going to give her my leftover mosquito lotion, for free (it was actually her birthday gift, which she found great humor in that).

 

In fact we were texting the night before (Saturday night). It was a funny exchange...

 

me: Hey, you gonna be at the 11 am service tomorrow?

 

her: Yup! Want to meet in the lobby afterward? (note to LS readers: it's a giant church)

 

me: Sure. I'll bring the lotion. It's free. Consider it... your birthday gift. Oh, but donations will not be rejected...

 

her: LOL! Thanks! Don't forget it's daylight savings... we're about to lose one hour soon... so better sleep soon...

 

me: Have you already forgotten about Mark 14:37? I'm sticking to it

 

(note to LS readers: here's what Mark 14:37 states: Then Jesus returned to his disciples and found them sleeping. “Simon,” he said to Peter, “are you asleep? Couldn’t you keep watch for one hour?)

 

her: Gee, how "spiritual" of you.... *cough* good night!

 

So yesterday after service I met her in the lobby. There were four other ladies with her, one I never met before, one I met recently just one time and the other two I met here and there in recent months. Tiffany asked me if I had any lunch plans and if I wanted to join them. I was game.

 

As Tiff and I were walking out of the lobby, one of the ushers I knew greeted me. He greeted Tiff too, and he said to me "I see God's moving in your life, brother" which was absolutely priceless, classic stuff.

 

As Tiff and I were walking to my car, there was a mass exodus of cars already leaving. It was bumper to bumper. One of the drivers shouted out, "TEKNOE! WASSUP BRO!" Another old church friend. It feels good to receive love, and it certainly makes you look good. Tiff was just like "Oh, aren't you Mr. Popular?"

 

When we were at the restaurant, it was me and five ladies, all single late 20's. It was a good lunch. I'm currently growing a beard for the Easter play, and so they were asking me questions about that. I got the opportunity to share some stories with them and make them laugh.

 

It's so helpful to be DOING THINGS in your life that allow you opportunities to share entertaining stories! If you do nothing and are ABOUT nothing, well, there's nothing very interesting to share! You gotta get involved in life. Not just for attracting the opposite sex sake, but for getting into the game of life, period. Don't be isolated in life! And do something!

 

So I shared with them a story about our first Saturday rehearsal the previous day. I play the blind man, and as I was walking to Jesus to get healed, the cat who plays Jesus, moved around the stage and tricked me, the blind man! Everyone in rehearsal got a great laugh out of that, and so did I.

 

The girls at the table were laughing so hard at that story.

 

I was a little charming that afternoon ;)

 

I found out asking questions is fine, but it can't be all you do in a conversation. It helps to have an interesting story or two to share. Not forcibly, but within the casual flow of the conversation. My blind man story all started with one of the girls observing "Ah, I see you're growing out a beard." That launched naturally into my story. It's not about going in there and being all "You guys see this beard? Here's why I'm growing it." There is a delicate ebb and flow to the process. You can't be a charging bull in a china shop.

 

At the end, I hugged Tiff, wished her happy bday and told her I'll be praying for her safety traveling to and from Africa. It was a fun lunch. Told some stories, elicited some laughs, had a good lunch.

 

Afterward, I jogged 5 miles non-stop to work off the calories from the chicken pot pie, lol.

 

BTW, I'm not sweating being single. I'm content being single for the moment being, focusing on other important matters of business in my life right now, and in doing so, it has elevated my confidence around ladies. It's kind of ironic that when you stop looking, OTHERS start looking at you. But it's gotta come from a sincere desire to become the man or woman you were destined to become. You can't "fake it" in order to hope to attract the opposite sex, it just doesn't work that way because it will still seep out subconsciously.

 

So, all in all, I haven't been this content/pleased with my life as I have been in a LONG time. It took surrendering, it took giving up what I really want right now (i.e. girlfriend) in exchange of me focusing on the REAL RIGHT NOW issues (i.e. taking care of my career first and foremost and continually developing myself into a better MAN). Since doing so, my days of depression have been casted out.

 

I've exchanged my sorrows for joy. I have great peace just by knowing I'm right where I need to be right now in my life :)

 

Peace, y'all.

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Glad things are going so well for you. Keep it up. Your on the right track.:cool:

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where can i find a guy like you?

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Well I guess I should pick up a belief and starting going to a service to improve my social life, hehe. Glad to know you are making progress :-D

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Well I guess I should pick up a belief and starting going to a service to improve my social life, hehe. Glad to know you are making progress :-D

 

lol. why not? at least check out the scene once or twice. no foul there.

 

eleanor, you will find your man in the right time.

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lol. why not? at least check out the scene once or twice. no foul there.

Much respect to religion but it isn't my thing. Was a devoted christian for many years but I just don't agree with it much anymore, to each his own :)

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I guess I am a Christian who has strayed.

 

I go to church but I just can't see myself being as into it as I used to be..

I feel judged and my heart is not into it.

I still believe and I talk to God but I just can't get into the church thing.

 

And there are no men in the churches I go to.

Besides, the last super Christian religious guys I dated in high school were judgmental and mean.

 

I wish it could be different though...

 

anyhow, congratulations it sounds like everything is going great for you :)

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I guess I am a Christian who has strayed.

 

I go to church but I just can't see myself being as into it as I used to be..

I feel judged and my heart is not into it.

I still believe and I talk to God but I just can't get into the church thing.

 

And there are no men in the churches I go to.

Besides, the last super Christian religious guys I dated in high school were judgmental and mean.

 

I wish it could be different though...

 

anyhow, congratulations it sounds like everything is going great for you :)

 

I feel the exact same way. I still believe in God and all and even still consider myself a Christian. I just can't do the church thing. Probably has to do a lot with having studied different religions and cultures in college. I don't know...

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I feel the exact same way. I still believe in God and all and even still consider myself a Christian. I just can't do the church thing. Probably has to do a lot with having studied different religions and cultures in college. I don't know...

I was a born-again Christian for a few years in my teens, but I have since become obsessed with Metaphysics and the like. However, I have always believed in God, and the power of prayer and spirituality. Perhaps my concept of God is different than the norm, so I don't class myself as Atheist or Agnostic.

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I was a born-again Christian for a few years in my teens, but I have since become obsessed with Metaphysics and the like. However, I have always believed in God, and the power of prayer and spirituality. Perhaps my concept of God is different than the norm, so I don't class myself as Atheist or Agnostic.

 

In my major I had to study Middle Eastern religions and I found out I like a lot about Zoroastrianism/Mazdaism, Islam, and "heretical" Christian sects (like the monophysites and miaphysites).

 

I still like Christianity, I just can't go back to liberal Protestantism in quite the same way.

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In my major I had to study Middle Eastern religions and I found out I like a lot about Zoroastrianism/Mazdaism, Islam, and "heretical" Christian sects (like the monophysites and miaphysites).

 

I still like Christianity, I just can't go back to liberal Protestantism in quite the same way.

Yeah, I hear you. All of those religions are based on Judaism, but I read some interesting stuff about that which made me think about religion a lot for a while when I was in college at 17. I decided that I would do a little bit of studying. I considered Islam, especially as my older cousin decided to convert, but I wasn't sure it was for me personally.

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