Theloner91 Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Long story short. I had sex with a friend that is in some sort of a relationship with a guy, but it's kind of an open thing. Anyway, we went out for drinks the other day (the guy she's with came along too) and after a few too many drinks I hinted him that at some point I may have been with her. I never said I had sex, nor when so he wasn't angry at all and I couldn't care less about him. But of course the girl asked me if I had told him anything and I explained to her what happened. She said everything was cool and acted like nothing, but I KNOW what I did was a big time screw up and I wanna know what can I do to make it up to her. Thanks.
Oxy Moronovich Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 The best way to make it up to her is to have sex with her again.
oldguy Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 You got drunk, you got stupid, now you need to know one of life's truths; "YOU CAN NOT FIX STUPID".
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Depends on how your friend is taking it, that was kind of a douche move. I would just try and move on from this, If she said it was cool and moved on then just drop it and not try to bring her focus back on the situation or she might start thinking about it and then become more angry at you or you'll just put her in a situation to think about it when she said it was fine already. Just move on, you had a few drinks, everyone does stupid **** when they're drunk and that wasn't the worst thing you could've done. Just don't do it again and use it as a learning lesson.
CC12 Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 I KNOW what I did was a big time screw up and I wanna know what can I do to make it up to her. So even though she didn't seem to care, you still want to make a bigger deal out of it. I guess this is similar to what you did when you hinted to her boyfriend-type that you had been with her. You're just poking people to get a reaction from them, aren't you.
Author Theloner91 Posted March 3, 2012 Author Posted March 3, 2012 Okay I guess I'll have to let it slide... U guys think maybe a small gesture would be a good idea? Or just drop it and pretend like nothing ever happened? So even though she didn't seem to care, you still want to make a bigger deal out of it. I guess this is similar to what you did when you hinted to her boyfriend-type that you had been with her. You're just poking people to get a reaction from them, aren't you. No why would I do that? I'm not that kind of guy. I'm just an idiot...
CC12 Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 No why would I do that? I'm not that kind of guy. I'm just an idiot... Sure, but you're the kind of guy who will drop hints that you're sleeping with someone, so I assume you're also the type to make drama when unnecessary.
make me believe Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 I agree with CC12... you sound like a sh*t stirrer, at least when you're drunk. Just let this go, a small gesture isn't necessary. And stop doing this stuff in the future. It's really lame to hint to a guy that you've f*ked his gf. Kinda makes it seem like you're jealous that she's dating him and not you.
oldguy Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 I agree with the, "move on" suggestion as she has. The fact that it bothers you is a positive statement of your character. I don't think it's something you will do again & trying to make it up to her would probably end up making a bigger deal than it is on course to being if left alone I would think
veggirl Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 You were bragging. Are you interested in this girl in more or something? If I was there, I'd assume you were jealous of her new man and were trying to rub his face in it that you'd BTDT as well
Author Theloner91 Posted March 3, 2012 Author Posted March 3, 2012 I don't think I did it out of jealousy. Let me explain, the girl told me it's not really her bf, and she has sex with other guys all the time, she does it with this one more regularly that's all. So I was surprised when she worried about what I have told him. So yeah I didn't think it was such a big deal at the time (Drunk logic :S). Anyway I won't be doing that, or her for that matter, again. Thanks for everything guys.
HeartOnSleeve Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 If she said it's cool then drop it. She'll be fine and if she has any problems she'll most likely be a woman and "talk" about with you. Chalk it up to being drunk and be done with it.
Author Theloner91 Posted March 5, 2012 Author Posted March 5, 2012 Yeah I'll completely drop it. I forgot to mention the only time we talked about it, besides telling me it was cool she also told me she wouldn't tell our mutual friends about it (about me talking, not us sleeping together (Which btw they knew already bc they kinda induced us into it)). Why is she being this cool? I'd just like to know that.
CC12 Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Why is she being this cool? I'd just like to know that. You're asking why she's not enraged and making a big deal out of things? I don't know, she's probably just not the dramatic type and genuinely doesn't care that you told that guy anything. Are you disappointed?
Author Theloner91 Posted March 6, 2012 Author Posted March 6, 2012 You're asking why she's not enraged and making a big deal out of things? I don't know, she's probably just not the dramatic type and genuinely doesn't care that you told that guy anything. Are you disappointed? Quite the contrary, I'm relieved and a bit puzzled that's all. I guess I'm lucky to know such a nice girl...
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