So, I have a new gf from a strange start.. can it work?

[LoveBear22]

Please answer this question without bias or judgement... ill love you guys forever for your advice.

 

Last summer I met my current girlfriend. Her boyfriend at the time was studying abroad for 2 months and she was working at an internship in New York where I grew up and currently live. Long story short, we started hooking up after being introduced and she cheated with me about 5 or 6 times (about every weekend of the second month he was away) and we would text every day. He sent her flowers and they skyped a lot, but on weekends we would go hook up drunk at the club together and retire to the apartment for sex. Well, once the summer ended, she had to go back to school for her senior year of college where he went, and they stayed together. He never suspected anything, but she and I kept talking regularly and she just told him that we were friends... she even introduced me to him on skype.. They went on vacation together and appeared pretty happy but argued frequently.

 

Anyway, at the end of the school year he found out through a mutual friend that she and I had had sex multiple times while he was away the previous summer, and of course he freaked out. She stopped talking to me for a while and tried to salvage her relationship with him, but obviously it didnt work.. so I started talking to her again about a month after they broke up completely and she came back out to NYC and we had sex again. She said she always had feelings for me but didn't fully realize it, and had strong feelings for me. She's gorgeous, and I like her a lot, so I visited her house and family (in Columbus) about 3 weeks later and stayed for a week. then she stayed with me for the week after, and we were having incredible sex and all was great.. and so began our dating relationship.

 

Anyway, she started her new post-college job in september, and now we can only see each other on weekends because she has to fly all over the country for work during the week. She comes to my city some weekends, and I fly out to her house on others. It will be this way indefinitely, and so far its really fun and there have been no issues. Her job is really hard and I think being with me every weekend is a release.

 

BUT... do you think it will last? It has been about 4 months now (since early July, she and her ex broke up early June), and she talked to her ex a lot at the beginning of this past summer when we were first hitting it off. She says the way he reacted to her cheating was a huge turn off, amongst other things, and that she wants to see what happens with us. I am one of 4 guys shes ever been with... she says.

 

Anyway, what do you think? THANK YOU!!

[ChessPieceFace]

Last summer I met my current girlfriend. Her boyfriend at the time was studying abroad for 2 months and she was working at an internship in New York where I grew up and currently live. Long story short, we started hooking up after being introduced and she cheated with me about 5 or 6 times (about every weekend of the second month he was away)

 

So you met a trashy, worthless girl...

 

He sent her flowers and they skyped a lot, but on weekends we would go hook up drunk at the club together and retire to the apartment for sex.

 

...who was unable to be faithful even when her BF was attentive while away...

 

Well, once the summer ended, she had to go back to school for her senior year of college where he went, and they stayed together. He never suspected anything, but she and I kept talking regularly and she just told him that we were friends... she even introduced me to him on skype.

 

... and has no problem lying straight to someone's face without remorse.

 

at the end of the school year he found out through a mutual friend that she and I had had sex multiple times while he was away the previous summer, and of course he freaked out. She stopped talking to me for a while and tried to salvage her relationship with him, but obviously it didnt work..

 

He had the good sense to leave this piece of trash,

 

so I started talking to her again about a month after they broke up completely and she came back out to NYC and we had sex again.

 

And you did not.

 

She said she always had feelings for me but didn't fully realize it

 

- until she couldn't keep stringing her "real BF" along

 

She's gorgeous, and I like her a lot, so I visited her house and family (in Columbus) about 3 weeks later and stayed for a week. then she stayed with me for the week after, and we were having incredible sex and all was great.. and so began our dating relationship.

 

Definitely a story to tell the kids someday right?

 

Anyway, she started her new post-college job in september, and now we can only see each other on weekends because she has to fly all over the country for work during the week.

 

I wonder how many guys she has? Hmm!

 

She comes to my city some weekends, and I fly out to her house on others. It will be this way indefinitely, and so far its really fun and there have been no issues. Her job is really hard and I think being with me every weekend is a release.

 

BUT... do you think it will last?

 

Sure! You're now in the role of the old BF. She gets to use your for sex + relationship while cheating on you either now or later. You didn't seem to mind being with the cheater when you were the other man, so maybe you won't mind being the one cheated on. I mean, if you REALLY think about it, what's the real difference?

[LoveBear22]

I know it wasn't classy of her, she says she felt massive guilt and was completely wrong for what we did, but she couldnt help it when we felt chemistry together and he was away.

 

I know my part in this guy's pain was wrong. From what I know, hes actually a pretty good dude and was very good to her... thats what is making me nervous. When he came back from abroad he gave her a pretty gorgeous expensive necklace and spent extra cash to come in early as a surprise for her.. I dont know. Obviously it wasnt a right way to start, and not very classy BUT

 

there is and was obvious chemistry, the sex is absolutely mind blowing, and she is a ton of fun to party with every weekend. She says I make her so happy

 

EDIT: Its easy to pass judgement here, the start without a doubt was not right and I actually feel bad for the other guy... but we do have very powerful feelings for each other and I want to know what you guys think in terms of how long this could last considering it went to long distance (weekends only) very quickly, and what kind of timeline I am looking at... should I just jump ship because its impossible to work out long term? It is costing me quite a bit of money with plane costs... and she has rather expensive tastes since she makes a very high salary...

 

EDIT 2: Thank you for responding, ChessPieceFace haha

Edited October 21, 2011 by LoveBear22

[DenumChkn]

Not to just reiterate what ChessPiece already said but uh, yea.. No. This can not work.

 

The part about your post that pissed me off the most was:

She says the way he reacted to her cheating was a huge turn off, amongst other things, and that she wants to see what happens with us.

I don't know what this bitch is smoking, but the audacity it must take to be 'turned off' by her lovers reaction to learning of her infidelities is mind boggling. Short of him being physically abusive towards her, pretty much any reaction he has to that is acceptable and she has no grounds to feel ANY WAY about it, other than remorseful and awful.

 

It only took him being gone a month for her to cheat on him, who knows what she is doing in between traveling weekends when she does not see you? Also you say you guys have this great chemistry, but failed to mention anything beyond the sex. All I saw was sex this and sex that. A true relationship can not be born just from incredible sex. She sounds like a piece of garbage aside from the apparently magnetic piece of tuna between her legs. Also potentially a gold digger? Oh boy, I bet your mom and dad are so proud. You are one of the 4 guys she has been with, SHE SAYS - sounds like you already place a lot of faith and trust in her, I can't imagine why

 

Do yourself a favor, put this bag of garbage out on the curb where it belongs and take some time to reflect on yourself and what you want in a relationship, beyond great sex (is that really that hard to find anyway?). Also, possibly consider not being a scum bag home wrecker in the future, just a suggestion.

 

Sorry if I'm being rude or crass, but I think you and your 'girlfriends' actions are more than deserving of mine and ChessPiece's words. Best of luck and I hope for the sake of the next poor guy/girl you both meet you figure a few things out.

[OliveOyl]

It's easy to call her trash, spout sayings such as "once a cheater, always a cheater" and other such stuff. I'm not going to do that. Because to be honest I can't know what is truly going on between you and her and what was truly going on between her and her ex-BF. Who knows? There's just not enough information for me to say.

 

However, I will say this: the fact that you are both quite young (early 20s?) means that the chance it will last is lower than if you were older. You both are going to be going through a lot of changes. As well, long distance relationships are tough, and with the costs required to see each other on the weekends, that is a definite added strain. So there is going to be more challenge with this relationship than the typical relationship.

 

There's a lot of "objectifying" here on LS where people are almost rated like cuts of meat or products on a shelf: "low quality," trashy, or worthless.. It's strange. Before you take the comments to heart, look at the history of some of the posters... many of the most bitter comments come from people who have essentially no real relationship experience.

 

Anyway I will say: You are both young: ENJOY (safely). Don't tie yourself down too much right now. That will (probably) come later.

[ChessPieceFace]

There's a lot of "objectifying" here on LS where people are almost rated like cuts of meat or products on a shelf: "low quality," trashy, or worthless.. It's strange. Before you take the comments to heart, look at the history of some of the posters... many of the most bitter comments come from people who have essentially no real relationship experience.

 

Yeah, and I myself point this out when it applies. When things could be misunderstood or misinterpreted I am often one of the first to say so.

 

This isn't one of those times.

 

She didn't just cheat once, she cheated CONSISTENTLY. She didn't break it off with her BF, she kept them both going. She even introduced them.

 

I don't need experience of getting hit by buses to know not to walk in front of one.

 

Is there a valid point in what you said? Sure. Maybe I should have been more fair. This girl isn't necessarily trash. She lies somewhere in the range between "broken and morally compromised" to "absolute trash."

 

Troll me all you want Olive. Pretty sure the crowd will back me up on this one. Looking forward to see more responses from the females on this one.

Edited October 21, 2011 by ChessPieceFace

[SingleinSouth]

She's really awful. Come back and tell us when you find out she is having great sex with other necklace buying dudes while she's out and about across the country.

[thatone]

It's easy to call her trash, spout sayings such as "once a cheater, always a cheater" and other such stuff. I'm not going to do that. Because to be honest I can't know what is truly going on between you and her and what was truly going on between her and her ex-BF. Who knows? There's just not enough information for me to say.

 

However, I will say this: the fact that you are both quite young (early 20s?) means that the chance it will last is lower than if you were older. You both are going to be going through a lot of changes. As well, long distance relationships are tough, and with the costs required to see each other on the weekends, that is a definite added strain. So there is going to be more challenge with this relationship than the typical relationship.

 

There's a lot of "objectifying" here on LS where people are almost rated like cuts of meat or products on a shelf: "low quality," trashy, or worthless.. It's strange. Before you take the comments to heart, look at the history of some of the posters... many of the most bitter comments come from people who have essentially no real relationship experience.

 

Anyway I will say: You are both young: ENJOY (safely). Don't tie yourself down too much right now. That will (probably) come later.

 

it's easy because everyone who cheats is trash.

 

there is no hidden justification.

[LoveBear22]

So i read the responses, here is some additional information... if it helps

 

EDIT: Also, the way he found out was by calling me. She had denied it when he was told by somebody else, but he demanded that she give him my number and he called me, so I told him the truth.. that we had hooked up. He sounded pretty devastated on the phone so i didn't want to lie to him.

 

The other guy emailed me early after he found out, asking questions about what she was telling* him. She had told him there were no emotions involved, and a few other things, and had told him she would never speak to him again. He wanted to hear from me if what she was telling him was the truth... obviously I didnt respond, and he broke up with her.

 

She had told him that he was the love of her life on some of the same nights that she and I had sex... this is troublesome, obviously. In addition, she knows that she is gorgeous. One night I told her she was the most gorgeous girl at a bar.. she said "I know haha" and then denied it when I brought up that it was strange later.

 

The thing she said was a turn off about her ex's reaction was that he became extremely emotional, cried, and became clingy and desperate. He broke the necklace he gave her in half when he was drunk and said there was something wrong with her, and basically just shredded her for her behavior but, he was apparently never violent. He even apologized for yelling at her because she claimed that he yelled so much that it was just as bad as her doing the actual cheating... I dont know how much he did yell and cant verify that.

 

Hope that helps. I know none of this is morally very attractive... but thank you for your assistance guys. The girl is super charming and very intelligent but clearly also a bit materialistic... anyway she is hard to resist, trust me.

Thanks again.

 

EDIT 2: I dont take offense to anything, I am not claiming the moral highground (obviously) in any way whatsoever. I appreciate your opinions.

Edited October 21, 2011 by LoveBear22

[rightfield]

So i read the responses, here is some additional information... if it helps

 

EDIT: Also, the way he found out was by calling me. She had denied it when he was told by somebody else, but he demanded that she give him my number and he called me, so I told him the truth.. that we had hooked up. He sounded pretty devastated on the phone so i didn't want to lie to him.

 

The other guy emailed me early after he found out, asking questions about what she was telling* him. She had told him there were no emotions involved, and a few other things, and had told him she would never speak to him again. He wanted to hear from me if what she was telling him was the truth... obviously I didnt respond, and he broke up with her.

 

She had told him that he was the love of her life on some of the same nights that she and I had sex... this is troublesome, obviously. In addition, she knows that she is gorgeous. One night I told her she was the most gorgeous girl at a bar.. she said "I know haha" and then denied it when I brought up that it was strange later.

 

The thing she said was a turn off about her ex's reaction was that he became extremely emotional, cried, and became clingy and desperate. He broke the necklace he gave her in half when he was drunk and said there was something wrong with her, and basically just shredded her for her behavior but, he was apparently never violent. He even apologized for yelling at her because she claimed that he yelled so much that it was just as bad as her doing the actual cheating... I dont know how much he did yell and cant verify that.

 

Hope that helps. I know none of this is morally very attractive... but thank you for your assistance guys. The girl is super charming and very intelligent but clearly also a bit materialistic... anyway she is hard to resist, trust me.

Thanks again.

 

EDIT 2: I dont take offense to anything, I am not claiming the moral highground (obviously) in any way whatsoever. I appreciate your opinions.

 

She sounds like a narcissist. I don't think you should ever expect or seek a serious committed relationship with this girl. Enjoy the beauty and the great sex, but expect the inevitable train wreck at the end. If you continue to see her, don't get in too deep emotionally so you aren't hurt too badly when this goes off the rails.

[LoveBear22]

She sounds like a narcissist. I don't think you should ever expect or seek a serious committed relationship with this girl. Enjoy the beauty and the great sex, but expect the inevitable train wreck at the end. If you continue to see her, don't get in too deep emotionally so you aren't hurt too badly when this goes off the rails.

 

I have actually considered this, just because she is rather materialistic. In her bedroom, she has two framed pictures only--one of which is a picture of a woman shopping in black and white. The other is of the Louis Vuitton and Chanel logos. Her parents have a lot of money, and she is also extremely ambitious.

 

edit: I forgot, she also has a third framed thing. Its a really nice painting made of gold and silver of the mountains where her ex boyfriend was abroad. He gave it to her.

Edited October 21, 2011 by LoveBear22

[TigerCub]

LB,

 

This girl told her bf at the time that he was the love of her life on nights that she slept with you.

 

This girl did NOT leave her bf to be with you (the guy that she really has feelings for) - but she only became your gf when the guy dumped her.

 

This girl was turned off by the fact that he bf reacted badly to her cheating - OMG how dare he want loyalty and honesty - that bastard!!

 

This girl is expecting you to take her in now that she's been dumped, to spend you hard earned money on her "expensive taste" and you best not react badly when she cheats on you!!

 

I agree with the other poster that suggested that you just **** her without getting invested if that's what you want to do. But honestly, if you invest emotionally in this girl and she cheats on you - you can't really act so shocked!

 

I have been with someone that was a cheater(worst thing to ever do), and in all honesty, in the back of my mind, I always knew that if we ever ended up together, I would never be able to turn my back on him because deep down I know what he'd do. If you didn't have any doubts already, you wouldn't have even posted this thread. Think about that.

[The Tiger]

Without any bias I can say that this girl is a WHORE.

[LoveBear22]

I trust her because of what she tells me. She hasn't ever cheated before in any of her previous relationships. Maybe I am being naive, but right now we are having a great time... which may be because we are still in the honeymoon phase (4 months deep so far). She is extremely sweet and charming, and my parents like her a lot.

 

I am posting the thread, however, because my friends are telling me its a bad idea and I am just curious to see what the internet thinks about it. She has many positive traits like ambition, cooking, sexuality (she wants it as much as a guy dues, its awesome), and loves artsy stuff that I like to do.

 

I just am not sure if the way we met will become a hinderance in the future, and how invested i should become. I have already spent about 5,000 dollars seeing her and going out with her on weekends.

 

EDIT: In other words, I am already emotionally invested. I have known her well over a year... last summer were cheating together and then we reignited this summer and began our relationship. So hot sex -> friends when she went back to school -> lovers. Whether its going to end well is the question.

Edited October 21, 2011 by LoveBear22

[The Tiger]

I trust her because of what she tells me. She hasn't ever cheated before in any of her previous relationships. Maybe I am being naive, but right now we are having a great time... which may be because we are still in the honeymoon phase (4 months deep so far). She is extremely sweet and charming, and my parents like her a lot.

 

I am posting the thread, however, because my friends are telling me its a bad idea and I am just curious to see what the internet thinks about it. She has many positive traits like ambition, cooking, sexuality (she wants it as much as a guy dues, its awesome), and loves artsy stuff that I like to do.

 

I just am not sure if the way we met will become a hinderance in the future, and how invested i should become. I have already spent about 5,000 dollars seeing her and going out with her on weekends.

 

This can, and probably will, backfire on you just like it did on her last boyfriend. Everyone has positive traits and maybe she is a very nice and sweet girl sometimes, but the main question you have to ask yourself is if you can REALLY trust her in a long term relationship.

 

She says she's never cheated and she's only had 4 partners but that does not fit with what you tell us about her loving sex and being very good in bed. Those are qualities of a girl who is very experienced.

 

Girls lie about that sort of stuff all the time. If she is as much of a bold faced liar as you make her seem by what you've told us, then I don't think her word is worth anything, really.

 

I would say she would be ok as a casual hook up, but since it is costing you so much just to meet up with her I don't think it's a bad idea to just cut your losses.

[LoveBear22]

This can, and probably will, backfire on you just like it did on her last boyfriend. Everyone has positive traits and maybe she is a very nice and sweet girl sometimes, but the main question you have to ask yourself is if you can REALLY trust her in a long term relationship.

 

She says she's never cheated and she's only had 4 partners but that does not fit with what you tell us about her loving sex and being very good in bed. Those are qualities of a girl who is very experienced.

 

Girls lie about that sort of stuff all the time. If she is as much of a bold faced liar as you make her seem by what you've told us, then I don't think her word is worth anything, really.

 

I would say she would be ok as a casual hook up, but since it is costing you so much just to meet up with her I don't think it's a bad idea to just cut your losses.

 

 

I understand that. And yeah, she lied to her last boyfriend all of the time, even at the end she wouldn't be honest with him until he tricked her into telling him the full extent of our relationship (said he already knew from me, but wanted to hear it from her).

 

EDIT: To clarify, she apparently told him that all she wanted was him, and told him that she and I had only hooked up once and it was just physical and blamed it on the alcohol. But changed her mind once she realized she actually had feelings for me too, as she realized that she and him wouldn't ever work--and he couldnt let go what she had done.

 

She lost her virginity to her first BF in college, and obviously learned how to be great in bed with him. They broke up, and she dated the second BF (the guy that she cheated on me with) until she graduated and he found out what we were.

 

I have a huge crush on this girl, she is a lot of fun. She also makes a salary that is over twice mine, and flying to where I am is pretty much free for her. It is not free for me, and I still live with my parents.

Edited October 21, 2011 by LoveBear22

[OliveOyl]

After reading more about her I will concur that she is not good news for a long term relationship. The part about telling her BF he was the love of her life while sleeping with you... very very bad. (Again, I won't ever use the word "trash" because I just can't call people names like that. )

 

It probably won't end well, but you are young, with plenty of time to make mistakes before settling down. Do you really want to be spending all that money though? Just keep your eyes wide open.

[LoveBear22]

Do you think that what we are having now, considering it started so soon after the end of her last relationship, could be considered a rebound relationship?

 

or no?

 

EDIT: Haha as you can tell, Tiger and Olive, I am keeping a tight watch on what you guys are saying. I am being warned by other people, and I am thinking this over--there costs monetarily that go with being with this girl. Expensive tastes, travel costs, etc. And honestly, I am very quickly falling for her. I don't want to get heartbroken.

Edited October 21, 2011 by LoveBear22

[ShannonMI]

So you met a trashy, worthless girl...

 

 

 

...who was unable to be faithful even when her BF was attentive while away...

 

 

 

... and has no problem lying straight to someone's face without remorse.

 

 

 

He had the good sense to leave this piece of trash,

 

 

 

And you did not.

 

 

 

- until she couldn't keep stringing her "real BF" along

 

 

 

Definitely a story to tell the kids someday right?

 

 

 

I wonder how many guys she has? Hmm!

 

 

 

Sure! You're now in the role of the old BF. She gets to use your for sex + relationship while cheating on you either now or later. You didn't seem to mind being with the cheater when you were the other man, so maybe you won't mind being the one cheated on. I mean, if you REALLY think about it, what's the real difference?

I agree with all of this. The girl is a piece of trash. Skanky ho!!:sick: And she will cheat on you if she isn't cheating on you already. Sorry to break it to you.

[vsmini]

I don't know what this bitch is smoking, but the audacity it must take to be 'turned off' by her lovers reaction to learning of her infidelities is mind boggling. Short of him being physically abusive towards her, pretty much any reaction he has to that is acceptable and she has no grounds to feel ANY WAY about it, other than remorseful and awful.

.

 

Nailed it. This girl sounds like a loser.

[ShannonMI]

After reading more about her I will concur that she is not good news for a long term relationship. The part about telling her BF he was the love of her life while sleeping with you... very very bad. (Again, I won't ever use the word "trash" because I just can't call people names like that. )

 

It probably won't end well, but you are young, with plenty of time to make mistakes before settling down. Do you really want to be spending all that money though? Just keep your eyes wide open.

I have no problem calling people names that deserve it and this girl deserves it. She's a skank. Cheating on her loving boyfriend makes her exactly that. If she was so unhappy she should have broken up with him. And honestly you aren't much better, OP. You knew she had a boyfriend, so why did you have sex with her and continue to have sex with her?

 

I've had experiences with skanks and I have no problem calling them like I see them. While it's not the same situation, my last long term boyfriend cheated on me with a skank. I call her a cum dumpster because that is literally what she is. She's been around and around and around the block. He left me after 8 years for THAT. So I have no tolerance for girls like this girl. Weather she's the one to cheat on a man or the one who steals a man, she's a skank.

[LoveBear22]

I have no problem calling people names that deserve it and this girl deserves it. She's a skank. Cheating on her loving boyfriend makes her exactly that. If she was so unhappy she should have broken up with him. And honestly you aren't much better, OP. You knew she had a boyfriend, so why did you have sex with her and continue to have sex with her?

 

I've had experiences with skanks and I have no problem calling them like I see them. While it's not the same situation, my last long term boyfriend cheated on me with a skank. I call her a cum dumpster because that is literally what she is. She's been around and around and around the block. He left me after 8 years for THAT. So I have no tolerance for girls like this girl. Weather she's the one to cheat on a man or the one who steals a man, she's a skank.

 

I am not proud of myself, and can't say that I am in the right for taking part in the other dudes pain. I cannot help, though, the allure this girl has and how attracted I am to her. She is addictive.

[serial muse]

I trust her because of what she tells me.

 

But...you said yourself she told her ex that he was "the love of her life" - even while she was sleeping with you, and succumbing to the undeniable chemistry and whatnot. She is not a trustworthy person. She has demonstrated that.

 

I really don't think this will end well, for you. I'm sorry.

 

And the bit about her having expensive tastes, because she comes from money and has a high-paying job...that's a red flag to me, if it comes with a belief that you have to keep her in the style to which she's accustomed, or something. Are you paying for everything when you see her?

 

I'm not going to call her names, but I do think that 1) she has demonstrated that she will lie to avoid conflict; 2) she equated her cheating with her boyfriend's yelling about it in response, which is ridiculous and a preview of how thoughtfully she'd receive your reaction if she ever does the same to you; 3) she is pretty selfish when it comes to both feelings and money.

 

She may be a blast to hang out with, but she sounds, at the least, extremely immature. She's looking out for number one. And what happens if she tires of you? Do you really want to go forward in perpetual fear of that?

 

I am afraid that if you stay with her you will get hurt. In fact, I'm almost certain of it.

[ShannonMI]

I am not proud of myself, and can't say that I am in the right for taking part in the other dudes pain. I cannot help, though, the allure this girl has and how attracted I am to her. She is addictive.

It sounds like this relationship is based mostly on lust not love. I don't think it's going to last.

[LoveBear22]

But...you said yourself she told her ex that he was "the love of her life" - even while she was sleeping with you, and succumbing to the undeniable chemistry and whatnot. She is not a trustworthy person. She has demonstrated that.

 

I really don't think this will end well, for you. I'm sorry.

 

And the bit about her having expensive tastes, because she comes from money and has a high-paying job...that's a red flag to me, if it comes with a belief that you have to keep her in the style to which she's accustomed, or something. Are you paying for everything when you see her?

 

I'm not going to call her names, but I do think that 1) she has demonstrated that she will lie to avoid conflict; 2) she equated her cheating with her boyfriend's yelling about it in response, which is ridiculous and a preview of how thoughtfully she'd receive your reaction if she ever does the same to you; 3) she is pretty selfish when it comes to both feelings and money.

 

She may be a blast to hang out with, but she sounds, at the least, extremely immature. She's looking out for number one. And what happens if she tires of you? Do you really want to go forward in perpetual fear of that?

 

I am afraid that if you stay with her you will get hurt. In fact, I'm almost certain of it.

 

Thank you for your thoughtful and well articulated response, sir. It is much appreciated.

 

I am not paying for her when we see each other, we split all costs right down the middle, but she likes eating out and having fun so obviously that isn't cheap, especially where I live. Flight costs going out to her house, she pays for half of that too. So, its not awful, but obviously travel does cost money and one weekend (her birthday weekend) I spent about 1,500 on her going out and going to a club.

 

My income is about 20-30k a year right now, I do freelance work. But i live under the family roof still (fresh outta college)

 

EDIT: I want to thank all that have commented so far, whether short or long regardless of what you say. I am surprised people on the internet actually give enough of a **** to say something and express what they think about somebody else's situation, and even though I may be in the wrong in some ways it is comforting that somebody cares to give me some insight.

Edited October 21, 2011 by LoveBear22
thank you