Finding a good wingman is almost as hard as finding a good date

[mo mo]

I have plenty of friends, but a lot of them have moved away, gotten married, have personality disorders, etc. My bestest friend in the whole wide world is a decent wingman but he moved far far far away. So ever since he left I haven't had a good wingman.

 

And you think it'd be easy right? Just tell a guy "hey, let's hit the town and see if we can socialize with the opposite sex!" and he should be all for it right?

 

no no no no no no no

[mo mo]

i thought u people loved me

[Kari]

You can always go solo, though I'm not sure if the results will be as great.

 

I saw some ads posted by males looking for wingmen, so your not alone in the situation.

[mo mo]

You can always go solo, though I'm not sure if the results will be as great.

 

I saw some ads posted by males looking for wingmen, so your not alone in the situation.

 

hmmmm I should look into that.

 

anyways I created this thread cuz this guy I used to work with has been wanting to go out with me for a while. He was "cuffed" so he couldn't do it until recently. I told him about this spot down in the city that is really popular, so he said he was down to go.

 

He flaked in the worst possible way. Long story short, he was really messed up and I couldn't get a hold of him for a few hours before we were supposed to meet. When I was on my way down, he calls me and tries to make me feel guilty about not waiting for him.

 

sigh

[Kari]

hmmmm I should look into that.

 

anyways I created this thread cuz this guy I used to work with has been wanting to go out with me for a while. He was "cuffed" so he couldn't do it until recently. I told him about this spot down in the city that is really popular, so he said he was down to go.

 

He flaked in the worst possible way. Long story short, he was really messed up and I couldn't get a hold of him for a few hours before we were supposed to meet. When I was on my way down, he calls me and tries to make me feel guilty about not waiting for him.

 

sigh

 

On CL there is multiple posts searching. Worth looking into anyway.

 

Can you reschedule another day to go with him? Or you think he'll flake out again?

 

Time to expand your social circle.

[Nexus One]

I have plenty of friends, but a lot of them have moved away, gotten married, have personality disorders, etc. My bestest friend in the whole wide world is a decent wingman but he moved far far far away. So ever since he left I haven't had a good wingman.

 

And you think it'd be easy right? Just tell a guy "hey, let's hit the town and see if we can socialize with the opposite sex!" and he should be all for it right?

 

no no no no no no no

 

I have the exact same problem. I wanted to take my best friend on some trips to chase women in order to find a girlfriend(for me and him), but he doesn't want to go, neither for the travelling, neither for the destination, neither for a girlfriend. He thinks women are just complicated and prefers to work and when he's not working he's playing computer games.

 

The thing is, I could go with a bunch of other guys, but they intend to end up in strip clubs and with escorts. However that's not the kind of "idea" I had in mind.

 

So, I go alone, either way I'm going, with or without friends.

[sanskrit]

You need a wingwoman. Only the most socially aware guys make good wingmen. I'd generally rather go solo than with another guy, they say ridiculously stupid things and get too drunk to competently hit on women.

 

If you are worried about turning women off due the "loner effect" create a de facto crowd of friends on the spot. Walk into the place and befriend several people you see, then you aren't a "loner" any more in the perception of women who come in, who will have no idea you came alone. Often, you will end up meeting more interesting people and better quality women through the random people you befriend than you ever would approaching women cold in a bar.

[mo mo]

You need a wingwoman. Only the most socially aware guys make good wingmen. I'd generally rather go solo than with another guy, they say ridiculously stupid things and get too drunk to competently hit on women.

 

If you are worried about turning women off due the "loner effect" create a de facto crowd of friends on the spot. Walk into the place and befriend several people you see, then you aren't a "loner" any more in the perception of women who come in, who will have no idea you came alone. Often, you will end up meeting more interesting people and better quality women through the random people you befriend than you ever would approaching women cold in a bar.

 

Interesting approach..

[Fondue]

You need a wingwoman. Only the most socially aware guys make good wingmen. I'd generally rather go solo than with another guy, they say ridiculously stupid things and get too drunk to competently hit on women.

 

If you are worried about turning women off due the "loner effect" create a de facto crowd of friends on the spot. Walk into the place and befriend several people you see, then you aren't a "loner" any more in the perception of women who come in, who will have no idea you came alone. Often, you will end up meeting more interesting people and better quality women through the random people you befriend than you ever would approaching women cold in a bar.

Wingwomen are AMAZING. I definitely agree with this.

 

Back when I was in college, I used to regularly go out with this great female friend. She was a social butterfly, very pretty, and a genuinely nice person. By the end of the night, I would know everyone in the bar, got a few numbers, got loads of attraction. It was beautiful.

 

Then all the sudden, she got a serious boyfriend and we stopped hanging out as often. But I'm happy for her, it looks like they're on their way to getting married, or whatever.

 

Anyway, if you guys in the NYC area, I'll go out and wing! =D.

[mo mo]

On CL there is multiple posts searching. Worth looking into anyway.

 

Can you reschedule another day to go with him? Or you think he'll flake out again?

 

Time to expand your social circle.

 

Not really looking to reschedule. I kinda had a feeling he was full of ****. He claimed his game was flawless and he could get any chick he wanted. He said I was a sissy for being single and that he was gonna make it his mission to help me get more action (nevermind the fact that I dated about 4 different women during the time we worked together).

 

I was essentially calling him on his bluff to see what he was all about. He got twisted and made up excuses for not being around when we were supposed to meet. I considered this his first and last chance to be my wingman.