zengirl Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 If it's not, at what point does it become one? I'd really like to hear some thoughts.
Els Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 Depends on the degree. As in almost everything, moderation is best. Keep an open eye, but do not be overly paranoid. Some people are so afraid of getting hurt that they interpret even the tiniest deviations from their rigid expectations as a red flag (ie taking longer than expected to return one text, etc), and subsequently launch the person. Those people, as much as they refuse to believe it, will never find a suitable partner, until such a time as the Elixir of Perfection is invented for humankind.
Star Gazer Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 I also agree with Elswyth. I think it's fair and appropriate to observe and evaluate, but to search out flags or be rigid in following a checklist is bound to leave one unhappy.
Yamaha Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 The only red flag I would wave is if I/we am/are unhappy in the relationship.
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