POF dating weirdos, creeps, and pimps

[Gypsy_Soul]

Okay, so I joined POF dating site online a couple of weeks ago. I have to say that today I got a bit creeped out by one particular individual.

 

This guy messaged me a several times. The first time he messaged me saying that he he's interested in me and that he just moved out here to California from Utah and that even if things don't work out between him and me that he's still interested in friendship and someone to hang out with.

 

I messaged him telling him that I'm only into dating marriage minded men and even if things don't pan out I'm not interested in just hanging out. I asked him if he's still interested.

 

He messaged me that he was and he gave me his number. Of course I never called it. So a week later he messages me again a few times saying that he's really interested in me and he's looking for love and blah blah blah. So I finally messaged him back this past Thursday telling him that I will call him soon enough. So today I called him around 3pm and spoke to him.

 

I asked him the basic pertinent information about himself and why he was single, where he's from, how long was he in a relationship for with the mother of his children and what not. He tells me and he says that he's single now because he's very picky and he's the one that initiates most of the breaks ups in his past relationships. REDFLAG for me already.

 

Then he says he doesn't have a car. To which I let him know already that I have a problem with this because I don't date long distance as it is and not having some mode of transportation complicates things even further. He lives 60 miles away, so he says.

 

I tell him that I'm really not interested and he is persistant that he wants to still try to get to know me over the phone until he's able to drive.

 

I tell him well, like I said I"m not interested in that and I am open to talking on the phone but don't expect anything from me, I'm very busy and if you catch me on the phone then so be it but if not oh well. I thought he got the message and we said bye.

 

Well, he texts me later around 10pm. The text says,

 

Hi, I can get anywhere I want and need to get whenever necessary.

 

I thought that was strange. So after like 20 minutes pass by I finally text him back and say

 

Me: hi whatsup?

 

Him: Wanna talk for a bit?

 

Me: Maybe tomorrow, have a goodnight then:)

 

Him: Don't wanna text either or what?

 

Me: Not really.

 

Him: Do you even want me to keep your number? You seemed interested up until I told you I don't drive. If that makes you think I'm a scrub, then you got it all wrong. I do well.

 

Me: Not at all, I'm just not into long distance dating. _____ is a bit far. Which complicates even meeting. I thought I discussed that with you.

 

Him: One of the first things you told me is that you're looking for love. But you're not even willing to talk to a man who is looking for the same, simply because there is a little distance? Whenever we are ready to meet, I will have no problem getting to where I need to go.

 

Me: When you don't have any mode of transportation, "a little distance" is a huge deal. Love isn't all fairy tales. How do you expect to date someone seriously having no mode of transport living 60 miles apart?

 

Him: Wow..Ok..nevermind then, I guess. Good luck.

 

Me: You too. Take care:)

 

15 minutes later

 

Him: I do have transportation. I just don't drive myself. My friend drives me. Plus there is public transportation. But you know what? I see what type of person you are now anyway and can't stand your type. So it was good to find out now, rather then later anyway.

 

Me: Oh wow, glad I didn't date you:) Lose my number, thanks.

 

Him: The feeling is mutual. We ended our conversation earlier with the mutual agreement that we would get familiar via phone for a while and go from there, but it's obvious that you were planning on just bull****ting me and blowing me off instead. ONly a piece of **** would do that. Not a WOMAN!

 

Me: Look, you're getting weird and psycho. Lose my number.

 

10 minutes later

I have no car...You have no class. **** you, you ignorant bitch. Your number is gone. Suck a dead dog's dick. I have nothing more to say to you. Stop texting me and I won't text you..you piece of ****.

 

Me: Psycho Creep, as old as you are with kids you should have a car. Loser.

I bet you're a woman beater and have a criminal record. Piss off.

 

Him: I have two cars, I own a business, and I moved out here to help my friend with his business. Like I said, I do well. I was sick one day, took medication, and ended up not such a good experience and I came out with a DUI..YOU are a loser. I bet you work some bull**** job, living a mediocre life. Only a bitch would tell a man that she'd get to know him, while actually having no intention. Only a piece of **** would let someone waste their time reaching out to them, when they know it's in vain. A classy woman would have just been honest. So in my opinion, you're a piece of **** bitch.. And I'm simply addressing you accordingly.

 

Me: DO NOT TEXT ME. DO NOT CALL ME. I WILL GO TO REPORT YOU TO THE POLICE IF YOU CONTINUE TO HARASS ME.

 

Him: I told you to stop texting me and I will do the same. Then you text me again I have the whole conversation saved. Call who you want. It matters not. Bye now you piece of ****.

 

I did call the cops, and I reported him and showed them the texts. They said that if he calls me or texts me again they will have to contact him.

 

After all of this, I decided to research this guys name online. I googled his name and nothing came up but his myspace.

 

Then I googled his cellphone number he gave me to call him. Get this, his number is up on several escort sites in Utah under a different name. One just got posted an hour ago.

 

So this guy was trying to pimp me off of plenty of fish? WTH? What are other's experience with POF? Any stories about this site?:confused:

Edited December 7, 2010 by GorgeousGirl

[JaneDoe35]

Hey I joined POF, lasted one day. Took my photo down after 20 minutes. Crazy men. I became scared. So pushy, so weird. Worse than going to a club!

 

What a nightmare....I would rather be single forever than expose myself to that again. Have taken my whole profile down now.

 

Maybe I am just unlucky. Blaaaaahhhhhhh:sick:

[DuskCrush]

Wow--that guy sounded psycho!!

Good thing you didn't bother with him.

[Andy_K]

Why the hell did you feel the need to continue texting him after the first unfriendly message? You surely must know you only made things worse

[irc333]

Sheesh, get OVER it.....suck it up, there's nothing to be scared of, just a bunch of messages on the screen.

 

No big deal.

 

Hey I joined POF, lasted one day. Took my photo down after 20 minutes. Crazy men. I became scared. So pushy, so weird. Worse than going to a club!

 

What a nightmare....I would rather be single forever than expose myself to that again. Have taken my whole profile down now.

 

Maybe I am just unlucky. Blaaaaahhhhhhh:sick:

[daphne]

There are definitely some serious psychos on line. Good thing you found out before meeting him. Something didn't seem quite right from the get go to be honest. Someone that changes their story to match what you want is weird.

 

I've had a couple of weirdos, but honestly I don't waste my breath and I ignore. I understand,however, the need to let someone who acts like trash know that you know they're trash. lol. One guy sent me a page long about how he was blocking me because I wouldn't email him back. It was a Friendly Advice email which consisted of telling me what kind of woman I was because I wasn't interested in him (apparently that included being some sort of liar?.) He was a troll looking little man (hideous) and it brought my friends some amusement to read.

 

Good luck dodging crazies.

[runner]

wow. i mean, wow. too bad i'm not one of your buddies IRL, i might've called this mother****er to give him a piece of my mind.

[EasyHeart]

I dunno. I've always thought that women go crazy for men who tell them to "Suck a dead dog's dick."

 

I learn new things every day!!!

[tinktronik]

Wow. Just wow. This makes me glad I've never internet dated. A couple of years ago I had a fiend tell me they had seen my picture up at several dating sites, one of them being an 'escort' type site. I always wonder about who is using those pictures and if they Meet up with anyone how they explain that they are not me. Is it a man? A woman? What is their goal by doing this?

[gentlewaters]

Hey I joined POF, lasted one day. Took my photo down after 20 minutes. Crazy men. I became scared. So pushy, so weird. Worse than going to a club!

 

What a nightmare....I would rather be single forever than expose myself to that again. Have taken my whole profile down now.

 

Maybe I am just unlucky. Blaaaaahhhhhhh:sick:

 

Nah you're not unlucky... I've heard other horror stories about it. One of my friends got insulted and chewed out by some loser and then blocked after he insulted her, just because she nicely told him she didn't want a relationship with him but she is fine with being friends. (Apparently that's unacceptable.) He's a coward too (blocking her so she couldn't reply to his nasty insults), not just a crazy lol.

 

Just watch out for those crazies... they are always looking for prey and if they don't get what they want, they just start cussing and show their inner ugliness.

 

I advised my friend to get off that pof, and now she's on eharmony and having a much better time there. Hopefully she will find the man she is wanting to find!

[gentlewaters]

wow. i mean, wow. too bad i'm not one of your buddies IRL, i might've called this mother****er to give him a piece of my mind.

 

Yeah!!! Guys only do that kind of thing if they think they can get away with it. With men like you around, they'd learn real quick they can't treat people like that!

[VertexSquared]

Honestly? You both sound pretty immature. He's certainly got a huge array of problems, but you didn't need to keep conversing with him/calling him names/throwing insults. A simple "lose my number -- I am not interested" followed by nonresponse would have sufficed.

 

At any rate, I've heard horrible things about POF. I met much higher-quality people on eH. Of course, it helps to know what to look for.

[Green]

you both sound imature. He was definetly more out of line.

[Gypsy_Soul]

Well, I've been reading some crazy stuff about those FREE dating sites. I just hid my profile on POF. Does anyone know how to delete it?

 

I've been on other dating websites and never experienced anything like this in my life. I just hope someone doesn't fall prey to this creep's lies. His whole page is set up that he's genuinely interested in love and finding the right one.

 

When ultimately, I believe this guy is a pimp. He has many women on those escort sites with his specific phone number.

 

Yea it was immature on my part to reply, yet I've never experienced anything like that before with a total stranger. Now I know.

[Feelin Frisky]

Why the hell did you feel the need to continue texting him after the first unfriendly message? You surely must know you only made things worse

 

This. (minus the rhetorical questions)

 

As soon as it goes wierd or bad, I urge you to ignore--don't read, don't think about it, just show by your lack of response that you have moved on and nothing he can type or say will make a difference. If you gave your phone number hang up w/o cursing him out. Just do not engage whatsoever. When someone is a crasy bastard, the last thing you want to do is let their craziness get into your head. Not to fault you but starting a thread and regurging all this shows that you did let this into your head. Learn from it--when it goes wrong, shut it down IMMEDIATELY and don't waver. Good luck next time.

[gentlewaters]

This. (minus the rhetorical questions)

 

As soon as it goes wierd or bad, I urge you to ignore--don't read, don't think about it, just show by your lack of response that you have moved on and nothing he can type or say will make a difference. If you gave your phone number hang up w/o cursing him out. Just do not engage whatsoever. When someone is a crasy bastard, the last thing you want to do is let their craziness get into your head. Not to fault you but starting a thread and regurging all this shows that you did let this into your head. Learn from it--when it goes wrong, shut it down IMMEDIATELY and don't waver. Good luck next time.

 

While I understand your advise to the OP, I think there should be some sort of consequence to the "crazy bastard." Shouldn't she report him or something? I think it was good that she told the police, though yeah I agree she shouldn't have cursed him back, but just ignoring said behavior does not show him that what he is doing is bad, yeah? Should she have told the plentyoffish website too?

 

I still think that guys who go around cursing girls they don't know shows they think they can get away with it, cause they can. If there were consequences to treating others that way, like being banned from pof or some sort of police warning against harassment, then maybe that would make them think twice, or no?

[dispatch3d]

you both sound imature. He was definetly more out of line.

 

agreed, also, this is standard? Where have I been

 

I asked him the basic pertinent information about himself and why he was single, where he's from, how long was he in a relationship for with the mother of his children and what not.

[Fionah]

Okay, so I joined POF dating site online a couple of weeks ago. I have to say that today I got a bit creeped out by one particular individual.

 

This guy messaged me a several times. The first time he messaged me saying that he he's interested in me and that he just moved out here to California from Utah and that even if things don't work out between him and me that he's still interested in friendship and someone to hang out with.

 

I messaged him telling him that I'm only into dating marriage minded men and even if things don't pan out I'm not interested in just hanging out. I asked him if he's still interested.

 

He messaged me that he was and he gave me his number. Of course I never called it. So a week later he messages me again a few times saying that he's really interested in me and he's looking for love and blah blah blah. So I finally messaged him back this past Thursday telling him that I will call him soon enough. So today I called him around 3pm and spoke to him.

 

I asked him the basic pertinent information about himself and why he was single, where he's from, how long was he in a relationship for with the mother of his children and what not. He tells me and he says that he's single now because he's very picky and he's the one that initiates most of the breaks ups in his past relationships. REDFLAG for me already.

 

Then he says he doesn't have a car. To which I let him know already that I have a problem with this because I don't date long distance as it is and not having some mode of transportation complicates things even further. He lives 60 miles away, so he says.

 

I tell him that I'm really not interested and he is persistant that he wants to still try to get to know me over the phone until he's able to drive.

 

I tell him well, like I said I"m not interested in that and I am open to talking on the phone but don't expect anything from me, I'm very busy and if you catch me on the phone then so be it but if not oh well. I thought he got the message and we said bye.

 

Well, he texts me later around 10pm. The text says,

 

Hi, I can get anywhere I want and need to get whenever necessary.

 

I thought that was strange. So after like 20 minutes pass by I finally text him back and say

 

Me: hi whatsup?

 

Him: Wanna talk for a bit?

 

Me: Maybe tomorrow, have a goodnight then:)

 

Him: Don't wanna text either or what?

 

Me: Not really.

 

Him: Do you even want me to keep your number? You seemed interested up until I told you I don't drive. If that makes you think I'm a scrub, then you got it all wrong. I do well.

 

Me: Not at all, I'm just not into long distance dating. _____ is a bit far. Which complicates even meeting. I thought I discussed that with you.

 

Him: One of the first things you told me is that you're looking for love. But you're not even willing to talk to a man who is looking for the same, simply because there is a little distance? Whenever we are ready to meet, I will have no problem getting to where I need to go.

 

Me: When you don't have any mode of transportation, "a little distance" is a huge deal. Love isn't all fairy tales. How do you expect to date someone seriously having no mode of transport living 60 miles apart?

 

Him: Wow..Ok..nevermind then, I guess. Good luck.

 

Me: You too. Take care:)

 

15 minutes later

 

Him: I do have transportation. I just don't drive myself. My friend drives me. Plus there is public transportation. But you know what? I see what type of person you are now anyway and can't stand your type. So it was good to find out now, rather then later anyway.

 

Me: Oh wow, glad I didn't date you:) Lose my number, thanks.

 

Him: The feeling is mutual. We ended our conversation earlier with the mutual agreement that we would get familiar via phone for a while and go from there, but it's obvious that you were planning on just bull****ting me and blowing me off instead. ONly a piece of **** would do that. Not a WOMAN!

 

Me: Look, you're getting weird and psycho. Lose my number.

 

10 minutes later

I have no car...You have no class. **** you, you ignorant bitch. Your number is gone. Suck a dead dog's dick. I have nothing more to say to you. Stop texting me and I won't text you..you piece of ****.

 

Me: Psycho Creep, as old as you are with kids you should have a car. Loser.

I bet you're a woman beater and have a criminal record. Piss off.

 

Him: I have two cars, I own a business, and I moved out here to help my friend with his business. Like I said, I do well. I was sick one day, took medication, and ended up not such a good experience and I came out with a DUI..YOU are a loser. I bet you work some bull**** job, living a mediocre life. Only a bitch would tell a man that she'd get to know him, while actually having no intention. Only a piece of **** would let someone waste their time reaching out to them, when they know it's in vain. A classy woman would have just been honest. So in my opinion, you're a piece of **** bitch.. And I'm simply addressing you accordingly.

 

Me: DO NOT TEXT ME. DO NOT CALL ME. I WILL GO TO REPORT YOU TO THE POLICE IF YOU CONTINUE TO HARASS ME.

 

Him: I told you to stop texting me and I will do the same. Then you text me again I have the whole conversation saved. Call who you want. It matters not. Bye now you piece of ****.

 

I did call the cops, and I reported him and showed them the texts. They said that if he calls me or texts me again they will have to contact him.

 

After all of this, I decided to research this guys name online. I googled his name and nothing came up but his myspace.

 

Then I googled his cellphone number he gave me to call him. Get this, his number is up on several escort sites in Utah under a different name. One just got posted an hour ago.

 

So this guy was trying to pimp me off of plenty of fish? WTH? What are other's experience with POF? Any stories about this site?:confused:

 

 

I was about to give up on POF after several months of unsuccessful dating, than I met my current BF. Give it some time. Not all of them are creeps.

[Feelin Frisky]

..Shouldn't she report him or something?.

 

 

IMO if you've let it get that far, there are some shortfalls in how it was handled. My advice was to DISENGAGE immediately and IGNORE as soon as that "line" of wierdness or w/e is crossed. This way, one doesn't have to "report" anything or internalize it any way at all. If you play it all the way out in your head into a court case, the same questions are going to come up that the guy I quoted asked. Why did you continue? The answer is always wrong. The "policy" is best to shut the idiot out and give him no reason to retaliate. Over and done. There is no one out there to police every rudeness. The only thing anyone can police is a real crime and continuing to enterain a psycho can lead to just that. So, close him out fast and stick to it.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

God, this guy was a write-off by 6 or 8 paragraphs in, yet the OP CONTINUED to text back and forth with him.

 

The ending couldn't have surprised anybody.