SteveC80 Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 I was at my friends bbq yesterday and my friends wives were feeling my muscles lightly flirting and complementing me on my "hot body" and how hot iam as they put it This wasnt the first time,and by no means are any of these women loose or bad women whod cheat but it just made me uncomfortable While my boys wives are all good looking i look at them like sisters and dont look at them in a sexual way at all,most Men have a line with their friends women as well, are females maybe wired differently? Not that youd ever do anyhting but do you still look at your husbands good looking friends like that?
MeganDoll Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 We are wired differently,ladies can back me up on this when its the time of the month where we are ovulating and most horny its like a Man havign a walking hard on he cant get rid of we are extremely horny. If you are as hot as you say you are and these women were in "heat" im sure they were biting their lips not to do anything with you. But if they have class and self respect as you say they do they would never do anyhting its just that the combiantion of a well built Man and that time of month could make us a little hot and bothered regardless if you are my mans best friend.
Cee Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Sometimes women will lightly flirt or compliment a man to strike up a conversation. Women do it with other women a lot. It's a lazy way to have something to say and try to be likable. "Cee, I love those shoes. So cute and flattering. Have you lost weight?" Often women will use a fakey, high pitched voice in these conversations. I admit I do it. If I'm at a party and have absolutely nothing to say that's clever, I'll compliment a person's appearance. It's almost like talking about the weather.
meerkat stew Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 I experience some of what SteveC80 is talking about. I write it off to them perceiving me as a "safe" flirting target, someone they can touch or flirt with who is not going to try to turn it into something. They grab and pat my ass constantly at parties for some reason. My ass has been grabbed more by women than I have. I get jealous of my ass and give it the silent treatment after enough of it. As a matter of fact, I'm not on speaking terms with my ass at the moment due to all the attention it gets, and am covering it with very baggy pants so it can't have as much fun. Listen up you wives and GFs of my friends, I AM MORE THAN JUST AN ASS TO GRAB!!
EasyHeart Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Yes, this happens all the time. I agree that some of it is that hubby's friends are "safe". I think some of it is also that they know they can get away with it. Can you imagine what would happen to a married man if he flirted with his wife's single friend? His life would be over. . . .
desertmoon Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 I experience some of what SteveC80 is talking about. I write it off to them perceiving me as a "safe" flirting target, someone they can touch or flirt with who is not going to try to turn it into something. They grab and pat my ass constantly at parties for some reason. My ass has been grabbed more by women than I have. I get jealous of my ass and give it the silent treatment after enough of it. As a matter of fact, I'm not on speaking terms with my ass at the moment due to all the attention it gets, and am covering it with very baggy pants so it can't have as much fun. Listen up you wives and GFs of my friends, I AM MORE THAN JUST AN ASS TO GRAB!! nice...<grabs MS's ass>
GooseChaser Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Maybe it's starting to become a trend for people at parties to grab for your butt, MS? It sure sounds like it's happening a lot. About the topic, some women are just flirty. I don't know.
Woggle Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Catch them alone and they will easily take it further with you.
InceptorsRule Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Any woman who goes so far as to put her hands on another man that way def. has bad intentions. Maybe not with you personally, Steve, or you either meerkat. However what these ladies are actually doing is pushing the boundaries. If they can get away with grabbing Stevie's biceps or meerkat's rear end, then it's that much easier to do the same with some other guy who may be in their sights. I don't buy that just because the lady might be ovulating and the guy is sexy that makes it harmless flirting, even if the guy being flirted with happens to be honorable. The next guy probably won't be. Also without a doubt at least a few of these women DO have steve and/or meerkat in their sights. There is no such thing as a "meaningless" action, not when it comes to this stuff. The ladies mean business boys. All business.
AverageJoe Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Any woman who goes so far as to put her hands on another man that way def. has bad intentions. Maybe not with you personally, Steve, or you either meerkat. However what these ladies are actually doing is pushing the boundaries. If they can get away with grabbing Stevie's biceps or meerkat's rear end, then it's that much easier to do the same with some other guy who may be in their sights. I don't buy that just because the lady might be ovulating and the guy is sexy that makes it harmless flirting, even if the guy being flirted with happens to be honorable. The next guy probably won't be. Also without a doubt at least a few of these women DO have steve and/or meerkat in their sights. There is no such thing as a "meaningless" action, not when it comes to this stuff. The ladies mean business boys. All business. This is possibly true now that I think about it. It may be even more of a reality if alchohol is involved. At least in my experience I have found it to be partialy true. I know of two women that have always been flirty in a friendly manner. I am a flirt as well and just wrote it off in good fun. As mentioned above, I see them as a group of family so to speak, I just dont see them in a sexual manner. Until each of them took things over the line (different occaisions of course). One probably had a little too much to drink, the other was as sober as can be. I was shocked both times. I told them in no uncertain terms their husband were my best friend(s), they were like brothers to me. Never do this again. And I never spoke of it again, either. Had I not give a damn I probably could have caused two divorces and lost two brothers. It opened my eyes considerably.
New Again Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 I was at my friends bbq yesterday and my friends wives were feeling my muscles lightly flirting and complementing me on my "hot body" and how hot iam as they put it This wasnt the first time,and by no means are any of these women loose or bad women whod cheat but it just made me uncomfortable While my boys wives are all good looking i look at them like sisters and dont look at them in a sexual way at all,most Men have a line with their friends women as well, are females maybe wired differently? Not that youd ever do anyhting but do you still look at your husbands good looking friends like that? Some people think they can do anything they want when it comes to flirting if one of the parties is married and said flirting is occurring right in front of the spouse.
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 We are wired differently,ladies can back me up on this when its the time of the month where we are ovulating and most horny its like a Man havign a walking hard on he cant get rid of we are extremely horny. If you are as hot as you say you are and these women were in "heat" im sure they were biting their lips not to do anything with you. Sorry, I can't back you up on that. Honestly, never in my long life have I been overwhelmed by random horniness at a barbecue resulting in drooling after a friend's husband. I believe that girls are socialized to flirt more than boys are. We are accustomed to using behavior that could be perceived as flirtatious in many environments when dealing with men. Men, in general, respond positively when dealt with in a flirtatious manner. It's kind of a trait of traditional femininity. When men do it, it can be more easily perceived as crossing a line; predatory. When women do it, it might seem cute, flattering to the man, and harmless. That's my fake sociology for the day.
meerkat stew Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Also without a doubt at least a few of these women DO have steve and/or meerkat in their sights. Can't speak for steve, but in the case of my wayward ass, the women who pat and grab it are almost all longtime friends who would probably not mind me patting theirs. We hug and stand around with our arms around each other in front of SOs and husbands and that's usually when their hand slips down and ends up either rubbing, patting or cupping my ass. The husbands are also generally friends, and have known me long enough to know that despite my ass's apparent intentions, -I- don't have designs on their wives/GFs, and would never let anything escalate. What women and my ass work out behind my back though, so to speak, is not my problem. Just wanted to add and clarify.
desertmoon Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 Can't speak for steve, but in the case of my wayward ass, the women who pat and grab it are almost all longtime friends who would probably not mind me patting theirs. We hug and stand around with our arms around each other in front of SOs and husbands and that's usually when their hand slips down and ends up either rubbing, patting or cupping my ass. The husbands are also generally friends, and have known me long enough to know that despite my ass's apparent intentions, -I- don't have designs on their wives/GFs, and would never let anything escalate. What women and my ass work out behind my back though, so to speak, is not my problem. Just wanted to add and clarify. LOL:lmao::lmao:! Glad you have control over your ass! I am flirtatious only when I know for a fact that the guy does not see me as a dating potential-yes, when it is "safe". Nothing wrong with flirting, IMO, just always be aware of the parameters.
Citizen Erased Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 No way in hell am I going to flirt with the friends of my fiance. Have some fun and a few laughs, yes. Flirting? Um no.
InceptorsRule Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 Can't speak for steve, but in the case of my wayward ass, the women who pat and grab it are almost all longtime friends who would probably not mind me patting theirs. We hug and stand around with our arms around each other in front of SOs and husbands and that's usually when their hand slips down and ends up either rubbing, patting or cupping my ass. The husbands are also generally friends, and have known me long enough to know that despite my ass's apparent intentions, -I- don't have designs on their wives/GFs, and would never let anything escalate. What women and my ass work out behind my back though, so to speak, is not my problem. Just wanted to add and clarify. That's very interesting. It sounds like the group you hang out with is pretty scuzzy in general, at least based on what you've posted, above. You might want to think about hanging out with a new group of "friends." On the other hand it also sounds like you are getting plenty of "validation" from these women, who are evidently happy to give it to you. If it makes you feel good to be having your friends' wives/gfs grabbing your rear, and signaling to you they'd like you to do the same to them if the opportunity arose, well then whatever floats your boat I guess. Sleazebags like you've described make me uncomfortable to be around. Let me guess--are there a lot of tattoos in this crowd?
meerkat stew Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 That's very interesting. It sounds like the group you hang out with is pretty scuzzy in general Cool, thanks for the hot tub time machine trip back to the 50s, Reverend Falwell, will consider avoiding this "subversive counterculture" element and their satanic orgies in my future socializing
desertmoon Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 Cool, thanks for the hot tub time machine trip back to the 50s, Reverend Falwell, will consider avoiding this "subversive counterculture" element and their satanic orgies in my future socializing :lmao:! hobnobbing with dangerous elements...lol!!!!
Star Gazer Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 No way in hell am I going to flirt with the friends of my fiance. Have some fun and a few laughs, yes. Flirting? Um no. Yeah, same here. I've never flirted with a BF's friends.
Author SteveC80 Posted September 8, 2010 Author Posted September 8, 2010 Yeah, same here. I've never flirted with a BF's friends. If not flirt do u at least still admire and notice his good looking friends?
Nikki Sahagin Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 I'm going to be honest and admit I was guilty of flirting with my exes friends. Why did I do it? Hmmm, I was being a bit immature really and I wanted him to be jealous. We had our insecure patches, and I actually got a thrill out of making him insecure (because as I was myself, I didn't want to be alone.) Its all very silly to me now, but at the time, I really didn't see anything wrong with it. I was kind up in a kind of...insecure fury. I really regret behaving that way now, although it was never heavy flirting, I still regret the hurt I caused my ex in this way.
Author SteveC80 Posted September 8, 2010 Author Posted September 8, 2010 I'm going to be honest and admit I was guilty of flirting with my exes friends. Why did I do it? Hmmm, I was being a bit immature really and I wanted him to be jealous. We had our insecure patches, and I actually got a thrill out of making him insecure (because as I was myself, I didn't want to be alone.) Its all very silly to me now, but at the time, I really didn't see anything wrong with it. I was kind up in a kind of...insecure fury. I really regret behaving that way now, although it was never heavy flirting, I still regret the hurt I caused my ex in this way. Im glad you're honest i see allot of married women do it to their mans friends I figure allot of it could also be to see ones desirability and if a good looking guy acts positively to their flirt sorta of an ego boost,is that fair?
Nikki Sahagin Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 Im glad you're honest i see allot of married women do it to their mans friends I figure allot of it could also be to see ones desirability and if a good looking guy acts positively to their flirt sorta of an ego boost,is that fair? Yes I think it is commonly to be seen as desirable - to check the old magic's still working, or for ego, or for insecurity, or for revenge. But you do also get 'natural' flirts who don't even realise they are flirting i.e. very touchy, tactile people who are just naturally that way. My mum is like this but she means nothing by it, she doesn't even know she's doing it!
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