Pizzaman81 Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 So many women i've gone on dates with, but the one I want is ... .. OUT..... OF..... REACH! The one I want is the only one... that... DOESN'T.... SEEM... ACTIVELY... PURSUING.... ME... Life is funny that way! MUST....GET..... HELP..... *DIES* Link to post Share on other sites
Awesome Username Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 This is how it seems to work. Personally, I love pursuing and hate to be pursued. Give us more info man! Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 So many women i've gone on dates with, but the one I want is ... .. OUT..... OF..... REACH! The one I want is the only one... that... DOESN'T.... SEEM... ACTIVELY... PURSUING.... ME... Life is funny that way! MUST....GET..... HELP..... *DIES* You sound hysterical. *slaps* Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pizzaman81 Posted December 30, 2009 Author Share Posted December 30, 2009 This is how it seems to work. Personally, I love pursuing and hate to be pursued. Give us more info man! :laugh: Your avatar!! :laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh: Very NICE! I LIKE!! Is that you with the unibrow? if so i'll give you my number! So this girl I met at happy hour... when my co-workers and I were there, these girls were sitting close to us with their own group. I was sitting almost right next to one of the girls. We ordered drinks blah blah... talk with co-workers, and she talked about how her company donates to the food bank, and I inserted "Oh which food bank? I volunteer at the SF Food Bank" So we started chatting, and she was very nice, friendly, had a great smile, good body, pretty soft looking face, very sincere eyes. We kept on talking and I bought her a drink, and we chatted more and I was completely ignoring my co-workers who most of them left already. ANYWAY... we exchanged numbers. This was 2 weeks ago. I've been really busy with moving and work, so I finally went on a date with her last Saturday, we went to this really good pizza place in town. Chatted more. Things goes great! We hardly talk outside of our dates though. She never really texts or calls... i do it once in a while. Maybe this one I actually genuinely likes! that's why I am freaking out! even though I am sure I act normal and similar to my other dates... this one's different. Link to post Share on other sites
Awesome Username Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 :laugh: Your avatar!! :laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh: Very NICE! I LIKE!! Is that you with the unibrow? if so i'll give you my number! So this girl I met at happy hour... when my co-workers and I were there, these girls were sitting close to us with their own group. I was sitting almost right next to one of the girls. We ordered drinks blah blah... talk with co-workers, and she talked about how her company donates to the food bank, and I inserted "Oh which food bank? I volunteer at the SF Food Bank" So we started chatting, and she was very nice, friendly, had a great smile, good body, pretty soft looking face, very sincere eyes. We kept on talking and I bought her a drink, and we chatted more and I was completely ignoring my co-workers who most of them left already. ANYWAY... we exchanged numbers. This was 2 weeks ago. I've been really busy with moving and work, so I finally went on a date with her last Saturday, we went to this really good pizza place in town. Chatted more. Things goes great! We hardly talk outside of our dates though. She never really texts or calls... i do it once in a while. Maybe this one I actually genuinely likes! that's why I am freaking out! even though I am sure I act normal and similar to my other dates... this one's different. You noticed my unibrow? Guess that means I have to wax! Maybe you like her because she's not on your balls all the time. Ever thought of that? You seem to dislike when women keep calling you and are clingy. This one seems like she has her own life outside of a man, which in reality takes a lot of responsibility off of a man's shoulders. Maybe she's just a busy gal who doesn't mind if she sees you ever now and then on a date. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, maybe? Link to post Share on other sites
edward-e Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 i actually stopped really pursuing women at this point, ill talk to em for a lil but not really go outta my way and now im gettin a lot of people callin me back....its kinda funny... Link to post Share on other sites
Awesome Username Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 i actually stopped really pursuing women at this point, ill talk to em for a lil but not really go outta my way and now im gettin a lot of people callin me back....its kinda funny... I always have heard throughout my life that women love being pursued, but not once have I ever met a woman who has genuinely enjoyed being TRULY pursued; at least not in the beginning of the relationship. We girls like when guys are more standoffish (or at least not head over heels) at first, because rushing into a relationship can be scary and expectations can be high. It's not that girls like jerks - it's that we want to know that they're on the same tentative relationship page as we are. I think both sexes appreciate this. Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 So many women i've gone on dates with, but the one I want is ... .. OUT..... OF..... REACH! The one I want is the only one... that... DOESN'T.... SEEM... ACTIVELY... PURSUING.... ME... Life is funny that way! MUST....GET..... HELP..... *DIES* you MUST become the "alpha male" every girl dreams of. otherwise the one you want will always remain out......of ......reach! just behave like an a..hole. she will be within reach before you know it! Link to post Share on other sites
Rainman760 Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 Pizzaman, It sounds like she's at least curious, if not interested and that you have some things in common to build on. You've got to get in tune with the dance of attraction and dating! When you fly fish you don't stomp through the creek pounding at the water with a baseball bat obsessed about the beautiful fish you spotted. You have to use the right fly and the rhythm of your cast; be seductive, draw that fish in until she can't resist the temptation of the lure. Know when to pursue and when to lay back. It may sound corny but it's true; let it come to you a bit and above all don't stress and freak out because you don't text or communicate as much as you wish; it's early... be cool! Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 Pizzaman, It sounds like she's at least curious, ! she aint curious about anything or anyone besides herself Link to post Share on other sites
PJKino Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 lol at least you have women in reach i cant get one to even give me her number:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
stevejohnson1976 Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 im going through the EXACT same thing.. driving me NUTS!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
edward-e Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 I always have heard throughout my life that women love being pursued, but not once have I ever met a woman who has genuinely enjoyed being TRULY pursued; at least not in the beginning of the relationship. We girls like when guys are more standoffish (or at least not head over heels) at first, because rushing into a relationship can be scary and expectations can be high. It's not that girls like jerks - it's that we want to know that they're on the same tentative relationship page as we are. I think both sexes appreciate this. yeah pretty much, it seems like everytime im like hey wanna go out to ____ with me....they instantly assume im trying to get em home and bang em.... Link to post Share on other sites
Rainman760 Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 she aint curious about anything or anyone besides herself She enjoyed his company enough to exchange numbers and go on a date with the guy...that at least warrants a 'curious'. I'd be curious as to what you're basing your opinion on? Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 It seems that the guys I am truly uninterested in come on the strongest. The more aloof I am, the more they pursue. I think it's human nature to want what we can't have. I think that's why so many "dating secrets" actually encourage feigning low interest. Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 She enjoyed his company enough to exchange numbers and go on a date with the guy...that at least warrants a 'curious'. I'd be curious as to what you're basing your opinion on? the fact that they've never seen each other since that "date". she's just looking for a distraction/something to take up her time. women have all the advantages & they LOVE it Link to post Share on other sites
Awesome Username Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 yeah pretty much, it seems like everytime im like hey wanna go out to ____ with me....they instantly assume im trying to get em home and bang em.... The problem is that there are a lot of guys that actually are. That why we ladies are nervous about it. All out lives we are taught to be careful...watch yourself outside, don't talk to strange men, watch your drink at parties, don't go to bars alone, watch out for perverts, etc. We ladies get hollered at and hassled when we walk down the street, bombarded with sex ads and porn that involves strangers with each other, etc. I don't mean to sound like I'm man-bashing or that I think that most men are like this, but a lot of women have to be trained out/mature out of the fear of getting to know a new man romantically. A lot of this is subconscious. I think this has a LOT to do with modern women liking to pursue. I honestly believe that women would naturally like to be pursued more if they weren't brought up with all of this fear. The problem is that most men like to pursue as well. We are all pushing each other away! Good luck on your pursuit Pizzaman! Maybe she will be oldschool. You can court her and then drag her to your cave! Link to post Share on other sites
PJKino Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 The problem is that there are a lot of guys that actually are. That why we ladies are nervous about it. All out lives we are taught to be careful...watch yourself outside, don't talk to strange men, watch your drink at parties, don't go to bars alone, watch out for perverts, etc. We ladies get hollered at and hassled when we walk down the street, bombarded with sex ads and porn that involves strangers with each other, etc. I don't mean to sound like I'm man-bashing or that I think that most men are like this, but a lot of women have to be trained out/mature out of the fear of getting to know a new man romantically. A lot of this is subconscious. I think this has a LOT to do with modern women liking to pursue. I honestly believe that women would naturally like to be pursued more if they weren't brought up with all of this fear. The problem is that most men like to pursue as well. We are all pushing each other away! Good luck on your pursuit Pizzaman! Maybe she will be oldschool. You can court her and then drag her to your cave! Where are these women who pursue? Its usually Men Most Men arent gonna have sucess waiitng for women to approach unless theyre attractive Link to post Share on other sites
edward-e Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 The problem is that there are a lot of guys that actually are. That why we ladies are nervous about it. All out lives we are taught to be careful...watch yourself outside, don't talk to strange men, watch your drink at parties, don't go to bars alone, watch out for perverts, etc. We ladies get hollered at and hassled when we walk down the street, bombarded with sex ads and porn that involves strangers with each other, etc. I don't mean to sound like I'm man-bashing or that I think that most men are like this, but a lot of women have to be trained out/mature out of the fear of getting to know a new man romantically. A lot of this is subconscious. I think this has a LOT to do with modern women liking to pursue. I honestly believe that women would naturally like to be pursued more if they weren't brought up with all of this fear. The problem is that most men like to pursue as well. We are all pushing each other away! Good luck on your pursuit Pizzaman! Maybe she will be oldschool. You can court her and then drag her to your cave! yeah its pretty sad out there when you go out with a girl on one date and she instantly states....you have to be a big time player... Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 yeah its pretty sad out there when you go out with a girl on one date and she instantly states....you have to be a big time player... exactly right Link to post Share on other sites
ordinary_girl Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 I always have heard throughout my life that women love being pursued, but not once have I ever met a woman who has genuinely enjoyed being TRULY pursued; at least not in the beginning of the relationship. We girls like when guys are more standoffish (or at least not head over heels) at first, because rushing into a relationship can be scary and expectations can be high. It's not that girls like jerks - it's that we want to know that they're on the same tentative relationship page as we are. I think both sexes appreciate this. nope, disagree. I like it when a hottie is pursuing me. It's not only flattering, I also like it when a man is open about what he wants. Link to post Share on other sites
ordinary_girl Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 The problem is that there are a lot of guys that actually are. That why we ladies are nervous about it. All out lives we are taught to be careful...watch yourself outside, don't talk to strange men, watch your drink at parties, don't go to bars alone, watch out for perverts, etc. We ladies get hollered at and hassled when we walk down the street, bombarded with sex ads and porn that involves strangers with each other, etc. I don't mean to sound like I'm man-bashing or that I think that most men are like this, but a lot of women have to be trained out/mature out of the fear of getting to know a new man romantically. A lot of this is subconscious. I think this has a LOT to do with modern women liking to pursue. I honestly believe that women would naturally like to be pursued more if they weren't brought up with all of this fear. The problem is that most men like to pursue as well. We are all pushing each other away! Good luck on your pursuit Pizzaman! Maybe she will be oldschool. You can court her and then drag her to your cave! I don't like it when a complete stranger is harassing me in a coffee shop (as it happened recently) but when I am dating someone, it's different. I obviously like him enough to date him (why would I bother otherwise?) and I fancy him too so I want him to pursue me because that's sexy. It shouldn't be one-sided of course but that's a different story. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pizzaman81 Posted December 30, 2009 Author Share Posted December 30, 2009 ... The problem is that most men like to pursue as well. We are all pushing each other away! Good luck on your pursuit Pizzaman! Maybe she will be oldschool. You can court her and then drag her to your cave! I just remodeled my cave, scattered some cave paintings of mating rituals on the walls and recently removed all the stalactites. She will be happy... ARG ARG ARG... WOOO... *sniff* Link to post Share on other sites
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