loveslife Posted June 15, 2009 Share Posted June 15, 2009 I'm thinking some more about this ex I've been talking with recently. From the very beginning I had no doubt what he felt about me or what he wanted. It was me who was unable to open up. I was so used to keeping my feelings to myself because I had made such terrible choices for so long and was always shot down when I opened up. But now I'm reminded of how wonderful it is to be with someone who WANTS you to tell them about your feelings, who wants to KNOW you. And I know he's sincere. It has never worked out for me when I've been with a guy where I had to play games, be guarded or question what he really felt about me. And now I'm wondering why I even bothered. Does it ever work out when there are those elements? In your experience. Link to post Share on other sites
Thornton Posted June 16, 2009 Share Posted June 16, 2009 I would be inclined to say no, if someone is playing games and you have serious doubts about them then the relationship is unlikely to work out. Personally I cannot be bothered to play games, if someone messes about I am inclined to tell them to shove it, and look for someone else. I don't need that sort of drama in my life. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted June 16, 2009 Share Posted June 16, 2009 IME, games and serious doubts are the underpinnings of the drama-coaster with no brakes. And yes, it's been wonderful being with someone who's emotionally open, who I can be emotionally open with. The contrast is amazing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveslife Posted June 16, 2009 Author Share Posted June 16, 2009 I gotta say, if things don't work out with me and this guy I hope I always remember the difference. It can seriously save a lot of time and energy!! All that time wasted worrying, wondering, trying to be a certain way to fit his bill. E-gads! Link to post Share on other sites
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