confusedkitten Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 Hey all, first time post hope i am putting this in the right place.. story is my bf and i have been together a year and a bit, been living together nrly 4 months, everything is brilliant, but he recently finished his job for a company (just because they didn't have any further work for him) and now needs money and has decided one of the easiest ways of getting a lot of money very easily is to be a non-sexual escort. To put this in perspective i do modelling part time, and he sees it as not half as bad as me doing a lingerie shoot for example so doesn't understand why it makes me sick to my stomach every time he mentions it. He has offered me every reassurance under the sun, i know he loves me and i trust him 110% it is purely the thought of him out every night wining and dining other women, telling them how pretty they are, pretending to be their bf etc that is tearing me up inside. I don't want to be a hypocrite so I have said that he can try it but that if i can't hack it for him to stop which he has agreed to, I just don't know if he is just hoping i will change my mind. This is on my mind 24/7 atm and he hasn't even done it yet any advice? is it normal for a bf to think that being an escort and not single is normal?? thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 Hey all, first time post hope i am putting this in the right place.. story is my bf and i have been together a year and a bit, been living together nrly 4 months, everything is brilliant, but he recently finished his job for a company (just because they didn't have any further work for him) and now needs money and has decided one of the easiest ways of getting a lot of money very easily is to be a non-sexual escort. To put this in perspective i do modelling part time, and he sees it as not half as bad as me doing a lingerie shoot for example so doesn't understand why it makes me sick to my stomach every time he mentions it. He has offered me every reassurance under the sun, i know he loves me and i trust him 110% it is purely the thought of him out every night wining and dining other women, telling them how pretty they are, pretending to be their bf etc that is tearing me up inside. I don't want to be a hypocrite so I have said that he can try it but that if i can't hack it for him to stop which he has agreed to, I just don't know if he is just hoping i will change my mind. This is on my mind 24/7 atm and he hasn't even done it yet any advice? is it normal for a bf to think that being an escort and not single is normal?? thanks This is too funny.. If this is real...LOL if I were you I wouldn't worry about it... women who HAVE to pay to have someone dine and wine with them must be sooooo freaken ugly... so I wouldn't worry if I were you... LOL He is pulling your leg or you see too much movies (like the Wedding Date)... Male escorts mainly service males... not females. Link to post Share on other sites
dropdeadlegs Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 Maybe I am naive, or maybe he is. Are there REALLY escort services that offer non-sexual services? I thought they all SAY that because it's against the law in most states to publicly acknowledge prostitution as an occupation or service. I would not agree to this if he were my BF. I wonder how yours would feel about YOU becoming a "non-sexual escort." Would he be comfortable with you going out with other men as a means of income? If he would be comfortable, I'd look for a new BF. I want a man who couldn't stand the possibility of sharing me IN ANY WAY with other men. To me it's a character and respect issue. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusedkitten Posted August 28, 2007 Author Share Posted August 28, 2007 nope i'm 100% serious, and its big business from what i've read up on it, lots of women want a nice guy with no strings attached.. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 nope i'm 100% serious, and its big business from what i've read up on it, lots of women want a nice guy with no strings attached.. translation: he will be having sex with larry craig Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X30 Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 nope i'm 100% serious, and its big business from what i've read up on it, lots of women want a nice guy with no strings attached.. I'm switching careers! Thats going to look great on a resume! Doesnt he have any long term goals? Maybe a career in mind? Or does he plan on bieng a gigalo forever? Yeah... he sounds like a catch. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusedkitten Posted August 28, 2007 Author Share Posted August 28, 2007 he's a student and wants to do it p/t... Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X30 Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 he's a student and wants to do it p/t... It doesnt matter if he is a student or not... or whether this is part time or not. He needs to focus on building his resume. Work jobs that move him in a career path. I've been there, I know this. What I am trying to tell you is that this is a very short sighted idea. In college a friend of mine worked as a male stripper... He made great money then... but he is literally 2 years behind me in his career path. Plus, he isnt validating your feelings on this. I dont know his reasons for this, but its not a good approach. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 he's a student and wants to do it p/t... I think you're being very naive my dear... there is no such thing as 'non sexual' escorts... sorry Like I said...and Burning.. he will be having sex with men... Geezzzz.. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 yep, I'm with Lizzie – to "escort" someone is to partner with a man, whether the person doing the "escorting" is male or female. And the understanding is that sexual relations is an option. do you think your guy is just that naive, or is he trying to tell you he wants an open relationship? Or is even questioning his sexuality? Link to post Share on other sites
jcster Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 Oh HELL no! Tell him to get a job at Arbys. Link to post Share on other sites
maynard Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 i doubt it will be non-sexual. i dont know, maybe its cause im a guy, but i just dont see it being non-sexual. a lonely, rich widow? why not proposition him? Link to post Share on other sites
dropdeadlegs Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 I know nothing absolute about escorting, but I have to agree with the posts here. If you feel uncomfortable now, it will only get worse. I also think this is a bad move career-wise and that should be considered. The whole idea is so counter-culture. This could lead into a whole new world of "easy money" at the expense of personal integrity. I think of it as the gateway to the sex culture, much like many see marijuana as the gateway to the hardcore drug culture. I do not see modeling as being the same thing, unless maybe you are nude modeling. Link to post Share on other sites
alrightstill Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 Haha, I used to have a friend who had a bf just like that. He said that he wanted to be a male escort, I thought he was just joking but he's actually dead serious. I agree with dropdradlegs about the "easy money" at the expense of personal integrity part... yes there are escorts/prostitutes who do what they do by choice, and there are people who use the service, but it just seems.... wrong, especially if one already has a serious partner. So to answer the question is it normal for a bf to think that being an escort and not single is normal?? My take is a big NO. Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 Uh...I wouldn't let my SO do that. yep, I'm with Lizzie – to "escort" someone is to partner with a man, whether the person doing the "escorting" is male or female. And the understanding is that sexual relations is an option. ......:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 I really need money right now....... BF and I even had a conversation about how there are apparently women out there who are "non sexual" escorts who get paid alot of money to look nice and keep rich guys company...I said if it could be guaranteed if it wasn't sexual i would consider it if i was single..lol Neither of us really believed you could keep it strictly non sexual at all times, surely these guys are going to want something for their money? Link to post Share on other sites
ls707 Posted August 29, 2007 Share Posted August 29, 2007 . Male escorts mainly service males... not females. while i do agree with her partially, most male escorts are umm bisexual or homosexual, there are a few out there that do service only females. I know a couple of guys who goto my gym who do it as a side thing. I have also heard of trainers whom specialize in discreet relationships with women Your bf should have a physique for it if hes really serious about it. Women expect a well built guy to show up at the door if they are paying for it. Frankly i think hes just pulling your leg. And i have never seen many non-sex escorts :S Link to post Share on other sites
sweetbutcheeky Posted August 29, 2007 Share Posted August 29, 2007 I trust him 110% it is purely the thought of him out every night wining and dining other women, telling them how pretty they are, pretending to be their bf etc that is tearing me up inside. I don't want to be a hypocrite. Modeling does involve going out with other woman, wining, dining, dancing and "other activities"! So how could you feel like a hypocrite? Link to post Share on other sites
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