Tell everything?

[Shohane]

Well, the friend that I like (a bit more than friend) asked me how I was doing. We've graduated a few years ago and are living in different cities. My life's a mess at the moment and I'm trying to sort it out. In short, I screwed up big time, but I haven't given up on my goals yet, still trying. Should I tell him exactly that's how it is? Does friendship mean no secrets, or a bit of reservation is needed in this case? Well, just worry that he might "look down" on me.. Thoughts?

[Ladybugz]

you dont have to call everyone you know for a while friend or best friend etc.

 

cause friendship can grow true spending time, knowing each other and experience each other

at a certain level also.

and also the personality's have something to do with it.

and how the other if for you.

the more comfortable and the more trust you build the more you open up to people.

so no need to force it if its not there.

 

so you have to know what to say to who.

 

if you ask us maybe you dont have that kind

of relationship with that person

where you feel free to express yourself or even cry.

so dont have to force it then.

just say things are okay, not great but you are working on it.

[Ladybugz]

or you are okay just working on your carier or something/.

less details.

[Shohane]

Ahh so how do you know when to open up about certain things?

Some people would say, "when the other person does it," but if both persons hesitate, then it's not going anywhere..